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if i ever get a gf

November 7, 2022
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i will have to be honest with her about my past and by that i mean the blackpill. ive said a lot of things in private that i dont think id ever feel right saying in public but i think anybody that gets this close to me should know the real me.

what about other users here: would you be honest about your history with pill colors or fds or whatever?

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Title if i ever get a gf
Author no_bling_just_ding
Upvotes 11
Comments 25
Date November 7, 2022 2:39 PM UTC (3 weeks ago)
Subreddit /r/AllPillDebate
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[–]alienamongnormiesBlackPill 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I actually met one of my exes off sluthatedotcom back in 2015 and we dated for 8.5 months. And she obviously knew about my past. Given that the forum was like my personal diary. She eventually dumped me though because she couldn't really handle being with someone with the black pilled mindset though.

I also really caught feelings for a transwoman in September. That was the first time since dating my PSL ex that I felt that way about someone. And maybe I am a bit bisexual, I really don't care. My dick was hard, who gives a fuck. Just because I'm aware of female nature doesn't mean I have to deny my sexuality. But I was too afraid to reveal too much of myself beyond the surface level to her because I was afraid that she would recoil if she saw the real me and abandon me. She ended up ghosting me anyways without me even revealing my power level anyways. That really stung because she was super into me. We went on five dates, four with sex and she worshipped me like I was a Chad. Until one day I wasn't her Chad anymore...

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

im surprised that website had women

[–]Draken3000 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I actually was honest about my opinions and the trigger that caused them to further develop (TRP) with my current GF before we became official. I wouldn’t want anyone who held strong opinions about that stuff to try and date me, and I honestly wouldn’t bother on the flip side either.

I think presentation is important, as well as focusing on what YOU align with. I’m fresh off of having an exchange about TRP on another thread so its on my mind haha. You can’t just be like “I’m black pilled, look it up and get back to me” cuz if they do they’re gonna read some HEINOUS shit and think that YOU subscribe to that stuff. Made that mistake once when I tried to redpill a friend (just don’t fuckin do it lmao), I should have clearly laid out what made sense to me and what didn’t, but instead I just kinda sent him off on the foolish assumption that he would have a proper discussion with me about it after. I was a dumbass and we are not friends any more, it wasn’t directly because of that but it started with it.

But yeah, you either need to be straight up about this stuff with a partner or bury it, whichever works for you. I lean towards full transparency, accept it or leave it sort of thing.

[–]debatelord_1 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I just scrolled through the thread. They even recommended menslib and that bell hooks book. Reddit users are really a caricature of themselves it's insane.

[–]Draken3000 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep, but I’m aware of that and try to move through those conversations accordingly. Its shocking to me how people are often unable to recognize their hypocrisy about the way they think and the opinions they hold. That and the selective replies coupled with the typical “bad label cudgel” makes me think that people really just wanna feel morally righteous and have something they consider evil to fight, or some shit.

I love taking the opportunity to say “there is a person out there just like you, almost to a T, who is on the other side of the coin as you. You may never meet them, but you could have been them and they you. Critically analyze yourself, your opinions, your beliefs, and give the same fair scrutiny to others”.

[–]FastBananaViral 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I will be honest after I have sex for the first time. I’m not going to cock block myself

[–]MasonSub4BlackPill -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I would hint at it, but I would always keep some plausible deniablity, that is if I can get a gf, and that's one big if.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah I would be honest with my past to my gf I have done some bad things and she needs to know

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

not very related but i saw an old thread on ppd where some fds bitch (i will not mention names) was bragging about how she successfully lied to a guy she liked to pull him and you could tell that even if she wouldnt admit her bodycount she sounded like an insufferable man-hating cunt. then i clicked on her post history and turns out she only got even more extreme

so to me all this shows is that even if you might hide the specific thing you did in the past you cant hide the aspects of yourself that made you do it. if that guy (and if she didnt lie about it which i doubt) doesnt know how many dicks shes been through, he sure as hell will know that she is the kind of person to lie about how many dicks shes been through. and this goes for everybody who isn't an utter sociopath.

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy Link

Your right to be honest. The best relationship I have ever had is one that started off with us both being very honest and open with each other telling each other the good the bad the bits we are proud of the bits we were ashamed of

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 1 point2 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

yep. i find it very hard to pretend im someone else, which is also why, for example, i think ive crystallized into a state where i dont think i could accept casual sex even if stacy from the fucking virgin mountains of valhalla showed up in the back seat of my car with her legs open. even that would feel like im betraying who i am

[–]RatDontPanicAverage Unfrustrated Chump 4 points5 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

i dont think i could accept casual sex even if stacy from the fucking virgin mountains of valhalla showed up in the back seat of my car with her legs open. even that would feel like im betraying who i am

If all men felt like that, womankind would fall into utter crisis.

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

nah theyll be fine regardless

[–]RatDontPanicAverage Unfrustrated Chump 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Onlyfans would be dead and so would prostitution. There's a lot of wealth transfer involved in casual sex, not just marriage or LTRs. That would amount to a catastrophic economic hit for a lot of women.

[–]No_Mathematician8341 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow lol

[–]SwimmingTheme3736 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It sounds like you have a strong sense of self which is a very good thing, I hope you find someone that makes you very happy

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

thanks you too

[–]RStonePTRedPill 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

i will have to be honest with her about my past and by that i mean the blackpill.

Lol. you don't want a girlfriend, you want a therapist mom.

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

so being honest about yourself is wanting a therapist? we're not talking about spilling all the spaghetti at once on the first meet

[–]RStonePTRedPill 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You want validation and are hoping if you get a girl to commit to you, she can fill that role. Women aren't built for it, can't do it, and don't like it.

And this is coming from a guy with a youtube channel, almost 2 books and a decently sized online presence in the redpilll. I never talk about this shit with my girl, and when she does I generally poke fun at her for listening to redpill bullshit.

13 years in, believe me now or learn it yourself later

[–]no_bling_just_dingWhitePill (self aware MSTOW)[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

well then thats something i got to keep into account

[–]De_Carabas_of_Below 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good fucking god, no.

[–]Admirable_Bee_8714 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never apologize for my past. If she can't deal with it, oh well.

[–]upalseBogPill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's ok, as long you frame it "I'm all past that, I've seen error in my ways". People love a good redemption arc.

[–]NotARussianBot1984 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

My gf knows my reddit account. Im 100% honest with everything i say. You think i can spend 40 yrs with someone and hide this portion of me developed over a decade? Nope! After i know a girl is decent, i open up. If they leave, better now than after having kids.

But in general, im an amazing guy just short at 5 7. Your experiences may vary

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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