A poster on display in the men's toilets at my local library today

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-12-21T14:48:46+00:00

Nice, real progress being made here.

operative87 · 2022-12-21T15:35:50+00:00

A step in the right direction if you ask me. Next move should be to get government funding for some actual help.

hendrixski · 2022-12-21T14:57:32+00:00

That's beautiful

neatofritobandito · 2022-12-21T15:01:30+00:00

That’s what’s up

Maleficent-Life4799 · 2022-12-21T16:24:45+00:00

I saw a poster like that in a gents toilet a few years ago, I felt that something wasn't right in my marriage but because there was no physical violence I didn't think it was domestic abuse ,but seeing such a poster I contacted a domestic abuse agency for men (AMIS abused men in Scotland) and after the first call they advised me to make a plan and to leave as my wife was being abusive to me .

Minute_Ad_1494 · 2022-12-21T15:10:59+00:00

Good 👍

Shreddersaurusrex · 2022-12-21T16:55:15+00:00

Cries in US because abuse in other countries is described as a “Civil matter” here

Prizvyshche · 2022-12-21T15:26:18+00:00

Great!

Dronterz · 2022-12-21T16:17:37+00:00

Made my day!

MezzaCorux · 2022-12-21T17:49:49+00:00

Cool, I wish this was more common.

BidenLovesTrump · 2022-12-21T19:59:50+00:00

Remember what Erin Pizzey used to say? Domestic violence is mostly mutual. Each side escalates to a new level. I've observed this in my family. Both of my grandmothers were victims of it. My grandfathers made some bad decisions way before the first slap. One of my grandmothers is a piece of art. Not that I don't care for her, but she can be hard to bear. She criticizes me for having my hair cut. She criticizes me for not wearing the outfit for holiday, she would like. She used to force food on me. (I no longer eat anything she cooks). If I confront her, she turns herself into a victim. The human interactions she really can appreciate is where she is praised like a goddess, or where the other person has similar personality, and they emphasize what a struggle life is to them.

She starts to cry, and call me out for not willing to eat as much as she would like me to eat, for not having a hairstyle she would like me to have, or not having my balls boiled in black shorts in 100F weather, because she likes when I wear black. She successfully turns others against me, for going against her will. She did not turn out to be this way when she got old. She was most likely the same for ever, but to me she was my grandmother and not somebody with strange personal traits. If she is this way with her own blood, why would I assume, she was different with her husband?

I'm not justifying my grandfather hitting her. But the bad decision starts way before the first slap. The bad decision may start there, where you pick a challenge, when you think life will be thrilling with the challenge of handling a narcissistic person. It may start there when you think more commitment and more responsibility may help the two of you to be able to compromise more. Lots of families are started this way. Then you are there alone, providing for 3 people, your wife is less and less a wife to you and turns into a full time mother. And she retains her controlling personality towards you.

Now, what do you do? If you leave, you aren't only loosing her, you are loosing your son too. Sometimes there are no good decisions. Still the slap is the worst.

CatacombsRave · 2022-12-21T18:32:30+00:00

Good, but they should also point out how these victims are more likely to be the arrested ones and to record anything that they can.

Still, though. I’ll take it - a small victory is still a victory!

CrowMagpie · 2022-12-21T19:17:45+00:00

uh. I thought the UK was about as misandrous as it gets. That does seem like progress!

I checked their website, and a cursory glance makes it look like they aren't one of those organizations we keep hearing about that's all about giving men help to stop abusing - it looks like it's genuinely about helping male victims. (I didn't dig deep, feel free to correct me.)

BUT this is in the banner:"we receive no taxpayer funding or grants".

Somehow, I exhibit no surprise.

ThatGIRLkimT · 2022-12-21T22:49:53+00:00

I am a woman, but I support this.

Irrelephantitus · 2022-12-21T18:10:19+00:00

The only place feminists won't take it down.

IceCorrect · 2022-12-21T18:50:12+00:00

I would walk with coucious: Ive similar ads at social media in my country and org that would like to "help" men is just another feminist org with their typical bias towards men. Or maybe Im just older and I dont belive that men would ever get something for free - especialy from strangers.

Confident_Notice975 · 2022-12-21T19:05:28+00:00

And the dedicated team tells you to go to therapy / see a professional.. and then therapists tell you to cope… worthless

ABeeBox · 2022-12-21T21:18:10+00:00

Makes me feel really happy to see that men's issues are starting to be taken seriously, even if slowly, progress is progress.

Altruistic-Wish-5097 · 2022-12-22T00:00:25+00:00

About time too. We need to know about statistics like these

RatDontPanic · 2022-12-22T00:59:22+00:00

That is some epic progress!

xxTheMagicBulleT · 2022-12-22T01:36:24+00:00

Good, even slow progress is good progress. Just need some more funding and some more places for those people to get help. But at least more and more stories and people are being heard even though the actual help is still lacking.

Boeijen666 · 2022-12-21T19:42:34+00:00

This made me feel great

Saint_EDGEBOI · 2022-12-21T23:29:33+00:00

I'm liking the positivity here lately, got a little bit incel-ish for a while. Hate only causes further divide, we gotta keep focusing on the positive steps being made and push for further equality.

Cearball · 2022-12-21T21:17:19+00:00

I can't remember if this charity does already get government funding.

EngineerWorth2490 · 2022-12-21T21:31:37+00:00

Right on

SecondEldenLord · 2022-12-21T23:55:50+00:00

Seeing some progress towards men's issues is always a blessing to see.

FuckinNogs · 2022-12-22T03:03:54+00:00

In the toilet where triggered feminists can't see it.

ThisFreedomGuy · 2022-12-22T03:30:23+00:00

This is a nice change.

ReasonVision · 2022-12-22T13:09:55+00:00

Impressive. I was really expecting a tarnishing message, but this is good.

sharksville · 2022-12-22T14:14:39+00:00

Can anyone explain to me what Le that supposed to mean. Like is this supposed to make men feel less bad about the trauma they experienced? In that case then let’s have poster everyone telling women don’t worry because there are other women as well that get sexually assaulted and domestic violence and harassment in their life time, she’s not alone and not the only one to go through that. I can already see the feminist running around and losing their minds

Title	A poster on display in the men's toilets at my local library today
Author	Kagedeah
Upvotes	581
Comments	46
Date	December 21, 2022 2:37 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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