Tell us about your successful first dates!

redpillbanana · 2014-02-20T17:19:15+00:00

First date: Met this woman for dinner and chatted for a while. I didn't think it was going that well because she was combative, but I didn't care too much and decided to verbally spar with her for the hell of it.

Took her to a movie. She grabs my hand and leans on me for the entire movie. I took that as a good sign.

I took her home and we had drinks on the couch while she sat on my lap. At one point, she said she was feeling kind of hot in the crotch area and that I should help her take her pants off to cool down. So I did.

Sometimes it is good to have all the work done for you.

Lesson learned: when the conversation seems combative, it might mean that you're passing all her shit tests.

robesta · 2014-02-21T00:53:12+00:00

Was at Crossfit (back when I did crossfit). I was in this group with this smoking hot tall chick with an accent. I kind of ignored her except when her squat form almost crippled her.

As I was walking home, she walked by me. She said hi, I started talking to her and asked her to brunch (it was Saturday morning). Instadate. We had a blast. I got her number halfway through.

Asked her out on a real date later that week. Drinks. She shit tested, slapped them all down. Kissed her that night. It's 7 months later and we're in an LTR (she's ok with me getting stuff on the side too).

InferiousX · 2014-02-20T18:30:07+00:00

My introduction to "game" was David Denagelo's "Double Your Dating"

I basically decided to buy it after my oneitis of several years blew me off for reasons unknown.

What was fucking crazy, was that it worked exactly as advertised on the very first girl I tried it on. As a matter of fact, she fell in love with me and we moved in together. Now she turned out to be a completely malevolent harpy once she "had" me, and as it turns out, a few cocky/funny lines of pick up did not prepare me for being entangled in that emotional minefield.

But overall, it did what it was supposed to do. I'd say it working the very first time almost set me back a tad, because I started to refer to that ebook as if it was the bible for all other girls since it worked so well on the very first one. Pro Tip: Does not work equally on all women.

richard84 · 2014-02-20T19:59:55+00:00

I've been on 4 first dates since my 4 year LTR hamstered our relationship into the trash. Before that I was a beta and actually asked her out by mistake. Since then I've increased my SMV even before learning about TRP/PUA stuff by lifting heavy weights.

I'm still a nice guy and I truly care about hurting women I barely know, but I've digested enough material that I can at least give basic tingles. Certainly more PUA stuff that TRP stuff. I still give too much of a shit and get attached too easily.

1st date was a girl I met at a party. Too much of a pussy to ask her number because I got no IOIs. A week later I invite her to run a 5k in preparation for a race (but remember that cardio kills gains!). We run, she is friendly but no IOIs. I take her to lunch, I start teasing her a little, humor, negs, DHV. I take her to another place for coffee (change of venue!!!), while I do some basic kino. The teasing gets more serious. She slaps my arm when I tease her, we have lots of fun chatting. We go out back to the car and I hold her close with my arm because I'm cold. Before I let her back into my car I kiss her. A few days later she asked me "how did you know I wanted to kiss you?", to which I replied "I didn't, who cares.". I've never had this attitude before, but I think that was my first step out of betahood. I had fun, i teased her, and then I tried to go for it, who gives a fuck. Then I beta'd completely and lost her, but that's another story.

2nd girl on okcupid. Cute (and fat, but i am into that shit), tattoos and dreadlocks, but surprisingly normal and modest. We hit it off, we have tons of fun, I tease her, DHV (I moved to the US a few years ago, I lived in a couple of cool places before that) we go for a walk in the park. Halfway through I grab her arm and pull her close. We continue the walk, we go to a restaurant and I kiss her before we get in the car (yeah, that's my move apparently. I think it's the latest moment). Next few dates she is still fun but she plays too much of an aloof game where she doesn't show enough affection to me. I get tired of this bullshit and start spinning other plates, eventually dropping her for #3.

3rd girl from tinder. She is 50lbs heavier than the pictures look like (not old pictures, just good angle and face genetics). Normally I'd complain about being SIF'd, but as I said I am into that shit. We hit it off, though not as much as girl 1 and 2. We change venue once, no kino, just teasing, tons of fun and telling her about my passions. By the end of the date I am kinda hoping I get a chance to kiss her because I am running out of topics. We finish dinner and I kiss her before getting into the car (I know right?).

4th girl from POF. She only has high school education but she is very smart and fun. Same thing, no kino, just fun and teasing, but I kiss her anyway before getting into the car and I am rewarded for my boldness.

Eventually I dropped 2 and 4 and I am only seeing 3 now. I hurt her when I told her I was seeing 2 and 4 and that was too much for me. She eventually got over it and told me she could not claim me and I could keep seeing other people, but I just didn't have it in me. That's as TRP as I could go. I'm pretty happy with her now, even though it's been only a few weeks.

Lesson learned: - If you're a chubby chaser, date online. Otherwise, be prepared to date below your SMV. - Always go for the kiss, especially she is not in the same social circle. Who gives a fuck? You will be rewarded for your boldness. - Have fun. Laugh together and laugh at her expense. Throw in kino if you can. If you can't you will probably surprise her a little, but if she likes you she'll be ok with it.

Future work: - learn cold approach. especially day game. enough with online dating.

DayCount · 2014-02-20T15:26:24+00:00

Does tinder show up on the FB news feed in any way? Tempted to try it

built_internet_tough · 2014-02-20T16:26:45+00:00

Met a girl out at the bar, slept over at her house that night but didn't have sex.

Took her out a few days later as a "thank you for letting me sleep in her bed". Found a cool place, moderately priced, and had a good dinner. We went out and played billards after, had a few drinks, and ended up having sex that night even though she told me she either didn't like to have sex on the first date or until we knew we were exclusive(I forget which).

FindMitch · 2014-02-21T15:18:57+00:00

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2FAM0US · 2014-02-20T17:18:57+00:00

girl in class has major crush on me. i finally come around to taking her #. the next day she takes me out on a date, buys me dinner, we walk around for 3hours and find our way back to her dorm. i take her virginity and never call back because she's fat.

EscortSportage · 2014-02-20T15:36:43+00:00

2012, met a girl on my bday at a club, danced with her blah blah walked out of the club with her, said lets do lunch tomorrow

she says sure heres my number, are you going to call me? i said yes. (guess most guys dont actually call when they say they will) it left off as her saying the ball is in my court.

Pause, let me explain to you about me.. i love fat asses! and yoga pants!

resume next day sunday call her blah blah we meet up for lunch, what is this girl wearing...see through black yoga pants with her FAT Italian ass...i almost got hard just walking behind her into the restaurant.

we eat, then she invites me over to get something at her place, we get to her place, she hops in my car we go bar hopping all day and night.

and here it begins

1st bar, just chatting 2nd bar, shes grabbing my dick at the bar, and forcing my hand to feel her laser hair removed pussy 3rd bar BJ in my car before we go inside

great first "date" in my book

gt35r · 2014-02-20T17:18:23+00:00

When I was about 17 I was on myspace and facebook a lot. I saw one girl comment on one of my friends pictures and I clicked on her profile, to me she was a 10/10 at the time because I was a sex deprived teenager now she's about an 8. Anyways I saw her and was just like "I want to bang this chick so bad." It was to the point where I just messaged her and introduced myself to her in the least awkward way possible skipping the part about how I knew her.

Anyways, we talk a little bit like every other day. I forgot what it was but something came up about how she's not really happy in her current relationship. The topic of sex came up (she brought it up) and how things her boyfriend did she didn't like. But you know instead of telling this guy that and being logical by trying to work that out, she tells me. A random dude who messaged her. This is the age where I started having doubts about relationships to begin with, I saw this girl straight up just open up to me about her relationship and sex life and wishing sometimes she "wanted something new" which was clear that that would be my dick. So finally after she sends a few risque pictures to me I set up a "meet/date" whatever the fuck you want to call it. Take her to this smoothie place, we bs about high school and nothingness. As we leave the parking lot she tells me she doesn't want to go home yet. I don't even think twice and being a beta at the time I'm surprised I didn't say "oh ill just take you wherever you want to go." Instead I told her we would go to my house. She nodded and was fine with it, not even 30 minutes after being at my house I have her in my room spinning on top of me. Not only was it my first time doing something ballsy like taking someone back to my place, but it was my first time experiencing a girl who liked to be semi violent in bed. This was just a sweet and innocent looking asian girl, but as soon as the clothes came off she was like a different person. We still talk to this day but haven't hooked up again, that only lasted about a month. To this day she's one of the main reason I have become weary of women that seem extremely happy in their relationships.

nuone99 · 2014-02-21T00:33:10+00:00

You want "lessons learned?"

Lesson: success is all about being prepared for those rare times when opportunity presents itself. That goes for everything in life.

vengefully_yours · 2014-02-21T01:51:50+00:00

I don't date, I meet them and if there is attraction I work on it right then. If there are some circumstances preventing me fucking her, I find out where to be for another opportunity. Taking her to the movies or some shit has never worked for me, so I don't date. Be in a place where you can meet, touch, talk, and get them interested.

11411181 · 2014-02-21T09:28:54+00:00

Lessons learned: Keep it simple - every single time I've been on a first date that didn't involve something relatively low-value but verbally interactive - it has gone poorly.

First dates are interviews on some level, whether you realize it or not.

A17360 · 2014-02-22T00:26:07+00:00

Take her to a trendy coffee shop. Pick up two cappuccinos to go. She will be confused as to why you aren't just going to sit in the shop and stare at each other. Take a walk around a park/waterside or to a landmark. Do not seem too interested in her but make it seem like you're just doing your usual walk or going to your usual coffee shop. Tell her you're going back to your place to watch TV or a movie on Netflix and ask if she wants to come... you're bored. Go home with her, bone.

I've done the above a number of times in the past year. Always ends with boning. Sometimes they call back and want to have another date, which means alcohol and sex.

Spiderman48 · 2014-02-20T18:40:24+00:00

Don't make this /r/seduction

slcjosh · 2014-02-20T20:42:29+00:00

I go about dating in a very weird way. Its not my number one priority. My number one priority is my work, then me, then anything else, so I dont date traditonally.

I just set my frame as "im going to go do this, you should come with me". If they say yes, I know they are attracted to me and It doesnt matter where we go or what we do.

2014-02-20T19:15:18+00:00

Agreed to meet for drinks (originally met on OKC), had sex same night.

natural attraction, confidence, and escalation throughout the night.

Probably the most importance thing though, was not giving two shits of how the evening went.

Title	Tell us about your successful first dates!
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Date	February 20, 2014 3:16 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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