Woman tries to divorce her boyfriend of 22 years, forgets that she lives in a state that doesn't recognise Common Law marriage.

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Divorce laws are such that they are biased toward lower earning partner, which is predominantly women. If the law wasn't financial, but would rather say that the home maker is obligated to do part of laundry and dishes because the other party sacrificed by working and never learned to do household chores, then the law would be targeted against women. As we have it now, men are targeted. It's not massagonist to say that the group whom the laws favor take advantage of the laws.

Basically women are told they can have a guaranteed passive income for years, all they have to do is divorce. You'd be stupid not to do it. I think women are just taking advantage of the laws, it is what anyone else would do. As long as they stay married, it's possible their husband will quit work or switch to a lower paying job, there's less financial stability in staying married, divorce is the practical solution to financial stability.

The other thing you said about men being rapists, is just offensive. There's nothing wrong with taking advantage of the laws, but the laws are bad.

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Yeah. When I talked to her after he passed away she said o could have the guns and suddenly she was saying they were common law married and she had the mortuary put her name as wife on the death certificate and that's the only thing ever with her name attached. She then started on about she had power of attorney and wouldn't listen to me when I said that is voided when he died and it's a irrevocable POA that is after death and needs a judges signature, I work in the legal field but I guess she thinks she knows more then a lawyer. Hell even if they were married for the 3 years I have more claim then her and my step mom that was married to him for 26 years has more claim then her even after being divorced, she tried to take the 401k but I stopped that, my step mom is the rightful recipient of that.

People see death as a windfall, they don't give a shit about people's emotions.

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It depends on the situation. For example car insurance will automatically get a "clue report" ran. That's basically a credit report for your driving and claim history. They run that report even when generating a quote. Health insurance will run similar checks but only based on what can be disclosed via HIPPA and public records. Marriage records are public and can be checked on the fly as most of the records are available online. They also check for large payouts that would be indicative to a pre-existing condition. Even though a company cannot deny coverage for pre-existing conditions they can adjust rates accordingly based on prior claim amounts. In regards to only checking if a claim is filed; it doesn't apply with health insurance. It's expected that there will be at minimum doctor visits to be paid. Claims are basically guaranteed.

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Not in the US. The laws in most states are gender neutral now. The problem is that since the women have the babies and breastfeed them, they are usually the ones that take a career break, it's hard to justify paying so much for daycare when you might make enough to just break even.. and all that adds up to really hurting your career. This comes from many issues, but the main one is the biological difference. This is why consistent, enforceable maternity AND paternity leave that is reasonable helps everyone - along with high quality, affordable child care. Remember, the laws used to TOTALLY SCREW the woman and children, then they overcorrected them (but still during the era where childcare was basically non-existent!!!), and now they are much more equitable - mostly because child care now exists. In the 60s there was no such thing as daycare! This is something I think most folks on here don't understand...

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Kids really suffer through divorces. There's a good chance for at least one person to try to get kids to turn on the other. Kids are there, so if you want to badmouth your spouse, they can be used to vent.

At the end, the ex husband starts paying ex wife. Imagine you give me money, a guy you don't know (but at least don't hate) to make sure that your car works. You may think you can make better decisions for your car, but the court forces you to pay me to do what I feel is right, you're also not allowed to see your car everyday. Now replace car with your kids, me with your ex who you hate and has been badmouthing you to kids, and will continue to say you're not paying enough.

The laws are terrible, judges and lawyers should be ashamed to be involved, police should be ashamed for enforcing the laws.

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