A high value man's guide to dread with a First Officer

With some years passing since it was first written, we all know the best dancing monkey attraction improvement program (by u/man_in_the_world ) is the 12 levels of Dread. I'll presume that if you're at this point we're talking about today, you understand that while the 12 levels are a huge covert contract (by u/tyred_biggums) for even the above average retard, it is the best framework that we have for the idiots that bumble into this corner of the internet we call MRP.

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The entire goal for a guy working through the dread levels, to him while in the middle of it, is to generate enough dread over the course of time to manipulate his woman into believing he is a man worth fucking and following... but mostly fucking. Somewhere along the way - usually after the 6 month mark, he starts to believe these things for himself, about himself, and the covert contract is quickly exposed for most. He can then congruently "run through the dread levels" and pretty much skip the FMOFY retard speech. It is here the framework of the entire 12 levels of dread split into smithereens of gayness. And if that model doesn't break down at that time... you'll likely be a retarded professor giving a speech from his basement in a 17 year old polo shirt, wooden podium holding a microphone from the dawn of the internet, and still looking like you don't lift telling other men IT WORKS!

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So today I want to write to the current you or future you that just had a main-event, or maybe not - but your First Officer finally understood the dynamic that you've set and is aboard your ship. The 12 LoD broke the fuck down into a worthless pile of shit. You're walking around with big dick energy, have learned completely what true OI feels and looks like within you, and have naturally high levels of DNGAF. You've probably become one of the 5% success stories we see here at MRP where men actually turn their lives around and are joyful. Congratulations. You're captain of the USS McBigDick and have the appropriate flair.

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You've got a first officer (who probably needs some work, training, and is woefully behind) who will do anything to keep her role that adds value to your life, and does so because she's with a HVM who she wants to do these things for now. This is what dread is supposed to do. This is what Jack10 described as "passive dread". If it's not doing that, you're not there yet and should skip this guide until later.

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When the scales tipped finally in the power dynamics for me, it was pretty awesome. Lots of sloppy blowjobs, doing whatever I wanted to her sexually... basically being treated like the fucking Captain who came home from years stranded at sea. Having a woman there wanting and willing to do anything for me just so she could be part of my life? And she's pretty hot? Well fuck! Sign me the fuck up.

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The HVM's dread mistake:

Most men fall into this pattern when they have a willing FO:

1. Her actions (not words) aren't good enough. You point it out, and point out her ego about it.
2. She is upset about it.
3. Her ego accepts it is true.
4. Comfort seeks so she can get leadership.
5. You provide leadership on what you want.
6. PRAISE those new behaviors in unique ways. Return to step 1.

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Here is an average example:

1. "You rarely get dinner ready at 6pm. You're a bad wife. This doesn't add value to my life. Fix it, and figure out why you aren't capable of doing this" (or else she'll naturally be dreaded).
2. Woman cries, gets sad.
3. Woman uses logic: He isn't happy. I want to make him happy. He is right. I don't like dread.
4. Woman comes to you saying sorry, in form of a comfort-test. You pass the comfort test.
5. You guide her by saying you want dinner served at 6pm everyday because XYZ. You let her know that by having dinner ready at 6pm, it allows you to take care of other things you need to take care of, and she would add great value to your life having dinner ready on time.
6. She serves dinner more regularly at 6pm for a week straight, you take her upstairs and ravish her body like a man would. She feelz great. Doesn't matter; got dinner.

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A matter of fact, I've advocated for this approach for a long time to guys who were trying to unfuck their lives in the intermediate stages of MRP. It works. But it does NOT work for a high value man. It instills too much dread, as I will explain later.

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Here is another example, made famous by /u/red-sfpplus, and usually applies to men spinning plates or who have an extreme DNGAF attitude and hate comfort tests:

1. "You rarely get dinner ready at 6pm. You're a bad wife. This doesn't add value to my life. Fix it, and figure out why you aren't capable of doing this" (or else she'll naturally be dreaded).
2. Woman cries, gets sad.
3. Woman uses logic: He isn't happy. I want to make him happy. He is right. I don't like dread.
4. Woman comes to you saying sorry, in form of a comfort-test. You tell her to fuck off and get her shit together. "bitch, my presence is enough for your comfort test. Stfu and figure it out." Fuck her so she'll shut the fuck up, making her feel valuable again temporarily. She remembers quickly what happened in step #1, and then goes straight to step #5 carry the original burden of Step #1 also.
5. Absence of leadership from her Captain creates MORE dread.
6. Woman goes fucking bonkers and now you have no choice but to dump her ass - or pass the comfort test, give leadership again on issue #1 & 5, praise both of them.

I never advocated this model. It is in the absence of leadership in #5 at this point THAT instills dread as well. "Where's the fucking Captain? Why isn't he telling me what to do? How can I add value to his life?" are some of the questions the female hamster asks. So when /u/red-sfpplus is running around slaying fitchicks with a clit that looks like Chyna, and doing his own shit not giving a fuck to an extreme, his comfort tests are twice as fucking difficult to deal with in the first place.

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But guys, I'm here to tell you a secret. You can skip all of that bullshit above if you follow this guide below.

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The High Value Man's Guide to Dread

Step 1: You provide leadership on what you want and what adds value to your life.

Step 2: Praise those new behaviors in unique ways.

Step 3: Profit and return to Step 1.

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Wait. It looks like I just removed steps 1-4 above and just went straight to step 5, doesn't it?

How does that instill any dread from the 12 steps of dread to get her to behave?

It doesn't.

It's not your job to make her behave.

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And that's what I'm here to tell you dudes. When you get to be a high value man in this world... you're rare. You're the prize and both of you know it. In a way your woman has taken her own redpill and admitted to her ego that to keep a HVM, she must add value. And by providing her leadership on what those things valuable things are, you are giving her a path through any potential hamster dread maze she encounters or creates herself. That's literally fucking it. You show her the exit sign at all times.

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But what if she doesn't follow your leadership on what you want in the first step? My question is: Why do you care? Shouldn't she be the one caring (dreading) if she's meeting your requirements for a relationship if you're the prize? But wait... didn't you tell her exactly how to stop the natural dread and escape the maze?

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The Natural Dread Hamster Maze

This is what Jack10 described as "passive dread". I think the term "natural dread" is more applicable because it implies that it is indeed natural for you as a man and not officially "dread". HVM create natural dread.... naturally and unintentionally.

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Along my journey I discovered that the "used to be alpha" meme is actually true for most guys who come here to MRP. Even I had this mental model at first but when I peeled back the ego onion I realized it was because I was never a HVM before. I was a good man, but not a great one. And so, when I married my wife she also married the potential for me to become a HVM.

But she had NEVER been with a HVM before. If she had, she'd be married to him and not me, or she was too low value to snatch him. Either way - she had never experienced being in a relationship with a HVM.

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Most women have zero idea how to deal with a high value man, but most critically, emotionally deal with him. The best requires her best. My wife was certainly never ever prepared for this level of effort, and so she begins to question her self worth and value (dread) naturally because... holy shit. Look at this man I have on my hands.

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And this is what women understand that makes natural dread weird as shit to deal with as a HVM. HVM are delicately threading the needle often of giving her relief from natural dread (through leadership and reward) which is mistaken by others as giving "too many fucks". To those MRP up and comers, it seems like supplicant behavior, so the vets around here don't talk about it much. But we understand the necessity to check in occasionally on those feelz (within our frame). She wouldn't want to say overtly something to upset her HVM when the focus should be on him.... so you poke a little using some techniques. Are those feelz doing well? Ok? Moving on. I like to think that a HVM genuinely cares about everyone in his crew and this becomes a necessity to the HVM with a busy and abundant life.

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Otherwise it consumes too much of his time from not leading in this area. This is a side effect of the example given here about /u/red-sfpplus

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This is not bluepill bullshit about catering to a relationship. The relationship is STILL her job. You just set the boundaries of it and tell her, do with her, or do TO her what you like, then just let her know in whatever way you want that you were congruently pleased with her value.

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If you can manage to thread this needle with this simple plan, your life becomes a cycle of gifting leadership and praising the gains your woman makes which amplify yours. The feminine grows through praise.

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So why the simplified plan and telling the 12 levels of Dread to Fuck Off?

Because it doesn't work for a HVM. Nowhere in the 12 LoD does it indicate you should be leading your woman to add value to your life. And if there is anything I've learned in my journey here at MRP that has become an iron rule for me it's this: The feminine grows through praise.

I have previously given you my mental model of how I began converting dread into desire. And despite that effort, I have discovered that there still remains a natural level of dread that is in some cases too much for the average woman to handle without leadership of how to exit the maze. Your woman was never led or taught how to handle a man like you, and in fact they were told the opposite - just like you believed in the bluepill.

I have now given you my mental model of how to convert any remaining dread into a desire for leadership. As a man one of your greatest gifts to a woman is your leadership and clarity to cut through the bullshit and get straight to the "heart" of the matter.

Plus, it allows you to skip all those hysterical crying messes that are secretly veiled as comfort tests for leadership anyways.

Embracing your gift fearlessly is all that you need to do.