Men will know within months if they want to marry you and we should not give wife benefits until there’s a ring or married because why would they marry you if you give them everything they want. I was taught the more effort, money, and time a man puts into you, the more committed they are and the harder it is for them to let go.

I forgot which post it was on this sub but someone said even if you have sex with a HVM in the early stages of dating, he will actually see it as an advance to the relationship and not dispose of you. Then of course we shouldn’t do that because you can’t know for sure if he’s a HVM that early on.

I understand you don’t put a HVM label just because they do a few HVM things. But hypothetically you meet a genuinely good man and he treats you well (pay for dates, vacations, not misogynist, and wants to get married) but you don’t let him continue to work for you while in a relationship, you just happened to be at that point of your life where you don’t know about FDS, and you cook for him, spent more than 3 days at his place, clean etc. he would still pay for things and doing things without being told. Would he still want to marry you or are you stuck as a forever girlfriend? But then doesn’t that make him a LVM since HVM won’t drag the relationship on if he doesn’t see a future with you. or is it a lost cost because you let him become too comfortable?