Girl meets guy. They have common interests, they are attracted to one another, they have sex, he shows genuine interest and she's ready to move on. The lesson: Never give a woman more attention than it takes to get laid.

Jake-Orion · 2020-09-18T02:31:29+00:00

She said she was in a 10 year relationship that ended last year but her marriage was supposed to be 2 years ago this week?

So....she broke off the engagement 2 years ago but stayed with the guy for another year before finally axing him.

Hmmm....

Pretty sure when you call off the wedding like that the relationship is over.

This alone makes me question her entire post.

MadeYouMadDownvoteMe · 2020-09-18T03:36:30+00:00

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newaccttrial · 2020-09-18T02:28:38+00:00

it was 2 years ago this week we were supposed to get married

2 years?!? Get over it.

Girl. Throw him back for someone who will treat him right and stop the silly games.

Honest_Solution · 2020-09-18T02:58:53+00:00

I could be a bit skeptical as I’ve been burned by covert narcissists in the past BUT, I sense she’s a covert narcissist. She’s got an avoidance attachment personality, she is repelled by a guy being genuinely decent to her, and on and on. I can smell these people a mile away now, once you’ve been around a covert narcissist you can spot them in no time.

Burgutkhan · 2020-09-18T05:07:22+00:00

To her, he is just a run buddy. Yeah, they fucked once, but it's not a big deal. Just a one night thing. She probably had dozens of those one night guys before, during, and after her "real relationship". Sex is cheap and easily available. Just because they fucked, doesn't mean anything. She has an abundance mindset.

To him she is the prise he was always looking for. Most women never gave him a time of the day and now after years of loneliness he finally found the one, someone who accepted him and made love with him. He has no other girls in his life, so this one looks special. He is in a "sniper mode". He probably is very confused why she is pulling away after sharing the most precious thing, love, with him. He has a scarcity mindset.

This scarcity signals low social status and will drive her away.

Those two people live in two very different socio-sexual worlds. They both ate bluepills the society freely gives away, to women - be strong, free and independent from judgment of men; to men - suppress your masculinity and prop up womankind at your own expenses.

Those kind of pills lead to tragedy.

geyejoe7 · 2020-09-18T04:51:37+00:00

Wait... He's not spitting on my face and treating me like shit????

He's coming on too strong!!!

How am I supposed to love him if he tries his hardest to take me on lovely dates and tries so hard to make me happy!?!?

We only had sex. And then he holds my hand. As if we were "intimate" or something...

asdf333aza · 2020-09-18T04:49:05+00:00

If you start off giving a woman your attention and treating her like she's "the one" and not just an option, you're fucked.

MattyK414 · 2020-09-18T04:19:46+00:00

It's so sad that he really likes her as she wastes his time, trying to figure out how to UTILIZE him. If she "really liked him", she'd match his energy.

Anyways...Wratgm?

2020-09-18T05:12:31+00:00

Ok, she was horny, realized it was a mistake to have sex with him, and now she wants to friendzone him. He's either completely oblivious and she's giving him strong signs that she wants to stick him in the friend zone, or she's bottling all these negative emotions inside and seeing what unfolds from his infatuation with her. Maybe hoping she can milk something from it.

Either way, the girl is a bitch. She should be an adult and speak up if she really doesn't like what's going on instead of asking strangers on Reddit. I guess expecting accountability out of a woman is too much. Shit like this is why women end up alone and ask WAATGM.

No-Cry-4771 · 2020-09-18T06:40:58+00:00

How are you comfortable enough to FUCK somebody but get uncomfortable when they are walking next to you in public??

Yokohama88 · 2020-09-18T04:45:06+00:00

She’s going to end up all alone at 45 wondering where all the good men are at.

2020-09-18T07:35:03+00:00

She only talks on the phone with people she knows really well but opens her legs for people she doesn’t....strange lol

nitro-666 · 2020-09-18T06:56:13+00:00

She is not in love with him, as simple as that. She tries to convince herself to love him 'cause it's in her own interest to have a commited provider male, but the tingles are just not there. Time to move on for both of them.

ColonelGray · 2020-09-18T08:42:22+00:00

Dude needs to just keep running and not stop.

Chiliresident · 2020-09-18T08:00:45+00:00

agree with the consensus that she is irretrievably broken - once they go the bad boy route they can’t flip a switch and make themselves like normal men. if being treated with decency is a turnoff to her there is no future with her. She will eventually walk away and chase another bad boy, the more degenerate the better in her warped brain.

thetotalpackage7 · 2020-09-18T11:45:02+00:00

This woman is a twat but there is also a lesson here for us men: woman date “up.” It’s in their nature, so when a guy comes on as strong as a garlic milkshake right out of the gate, it signals to women that he isn’t a high value man. A high value man doesn’t need to be so eager right out of the gate.

Ever wonder why jerks get the pussy? It makes women think, “wow, this guy is treating me like he doesn’t care if I come or go, he must have a lot of other options (ie high value)

silly_birb · 2020-09-18T08:54:43+00:00

Women care for the attentions that are difficult to get.

That's why marriages fail, she sees the guy everyday!

2020-09-18T05:35:01+00:00

What a child.

p3ngwin · 2020-09-18T12:24:32+00:00

"this time of year is always difficult for me ... not difficult enough not to fuck a guy, but you know, holding hands and shit ..."

2020-09-18T13:46:09+00:00

Jesus what a fucking mess. It's also a great exposition of women's thought processes on their relationships and why women are constantly fucking them up.

broke off engagement/10 year relationship. Finds a "great guy", dates him for a month, sex one time, he is unfailingly good to her.

This guy is an FDS wet dream. This is PRECISELY the "high value man" FDS women claim to want. Yet she doesn't want him. She wants him to not be so romantic because they've been "dating" only a month. He's getting too "boyfriendy".

What this proves to me is that men should just escalate and go for what they want. Make her shut it down if she doesn't want him.

Also proves that women don't know what they want. "I want a boyfriend, but he has to do things that aren't TOO "boyfriendy". He has to escalate to sex and take things slowly at the same time. He has to plan and be spontaneous, be sensitive and strong, go at exactly MY speed but with his leadership."

To the OP woman: yes. call it. Cut this guy loose and go be alone until you get your shit sorted. You're still hung up on your 10 year ex fiance. If you're still thinking shit like "2 years ago this week we were supposed to get married and this time of year is always hard and weird for me" - you're not ready for another relationship. Cut him loose. If she can't do it, the guy in the relationship should end things with her immediately. He is not what she wants. She will utterly destroy him if he stays with her.

lolwutbro_ · 2020-09-18T06:25:51+00:00

Box of wine isle 7, cat food and kittle litter isle 3.

comptejete · 2020-09-18T10:48:55+00:00

Nothing makes you more attractive that when you appear to have options, and the opposite is also true.

Ishabaka · 2020-09-18T12:00:34+00:00

Take home message: if you do everything women SAY they want men to do, they will despise you.

grrrlgonecray999 · 2020-09-18T14:41:08+00:00

She just isn’t attracted to the guy but trying to kid herself. Move on and let this guy be a good partner to someone who isn’t a dumb cooze. Go back to getting your face smashed in a pillow like you deserve.

BluepillProfessor · 2020-09-18T15:01:25+00:00

Send the guy to a Red Pill sub. Married Red Pill, TRP, or WAATGM will probably work- if he is ready for the message. Most likely he will be ready when his manic pixie dream girl dumps him for Harley McBadass. Harley does NOT plan romantic cruises...and he sometimes lets the girl edge closer to him, but never him closer to her (except to initiate sex of course). Harley lets Thotiana edge closer to her, not the other way around.

We had sex once....a month ago

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TottenhamAreShit21 · 2020-09-18T10:30:26+00:00

No way that's real, it's almost as if 'she' is saying exactly what we would expect.

Nero9214 · 2020-09-18T12:59:21+00:00

To be fair, clinginess and over-eagerness is pretty cringe when both men and women do it. The guy sounds like a beta, and she sounds like a standard girl aka a cunt

imapotato99 · 2020-09-18T20:50:46+00:00

Entitled woman doesn't want to lose a resource but isn't attractive to him

She will marry him and make his fucking life miserable and she will laugh as she tells the story of how she didn't like him at first but he was persistent at family gatherings & that is how "they fell in love"

then she'll fuck her boyfriend in a mall parking lot the next day

2020-09-18T21:09:50+00:00

What a dumb bitch holy shit, yeah push him away and go slut around. Women like her make me sick.

onlypinhead2000 · 2020-09-18T14:57:17+00:00

The narration of this post reads like a man wrote it.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2020-09-19T04:30:38+00:00

New guy is all about her, available, and willing.

Women hate that shit.

If he ghosted her two weeks at a time, she would be blowing him after every run.

thaillmatic1 · 2020-09-18T14:04:24+00:00

How do I respond to this girl in real life? I feel like I have solid life advice to give.

queennyla · 2020-09-20T19:05:23+00:00

Sounds like she’s trying to force herself to like this guy because he matches some form of checklist.. its just she’s not naturally attracted to him tho. She needs to be grown about her feelings or maybe she’s still trying to find out that lack of attraction is a thing and its not bad. Just dont string him along cus you dont want to admit you might still like whats not for you

theRealJuicyJay · 2020-09-18T12:47:49+00:00

Op if that is your conclusion than you really don't understand women. The side is clearly moving to fast and trying to spend so much time with her that it seems like he has nothing else going on in his life, which is a turn of to both sex's. All she said is she wants him to pump the breaks.

kaotic_red · 2020-09-18T13:51:32+00:00

Honestly, I dont see a problem here. Meaning it doesn't fit this sub well. She isn't unreasonable in her question. The obvious answer is that she is scared of commitment and this guy is moving too quickly. Regardless, I don't see how this fits the "Where are all the good men" sub. Silly: yes, fit for this sub: no

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