Couples Therapy Outcomes?

JungleCatHank · 2023-05-29T03:45:36+00:00

We tried for 6 months until the therapist said we should take a break from couples counseling and each focus on individual therapy. We made some progress but not enough to save the marriage.

I think something paradoxical about couples counseling is that by the time you think you need it, it's too late. If you use couples counseling to proactively put issues to rest early on then I think it will improve the quality of the marriage. But entering couples counseling as a last ditch effort to try to save a broken marriage will likely fail.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-05-29T11:55:52+00:00

Majority of therapists are women trained in ideology to blame and shame men.

They will tell you nonsense like attraction can be negotiated with things like choreplay.

INeverSaidThat89 · 2023-05-28T22:44:04+00:00

Tried in two separate marriages.

The first time the therapist told my wife, in session two, she was violating the rules because she kept yelling at me and interrupting me when It was my turn to talk. She canceled all further appointments, stating the therapist was biased.

The second time in session 1, my stbxw stated. He's the one with all the issues and problems. He's projecting his failures on ne. He's such a failure. He's lucky I let him stay.

I told her 2 days later, I was going to file.

Background-Tax1986 · 2023-05-29T03:46:28+00:00

Our marriage counselor therapist was a LGBT feminist and sessions consisted of wife using her as a sound board. She suggested that we take a week separation. I went to my mothers and by the following week locks were changed and I wasn’t allowed back because she was “scared of me”, even tho she tried to get me to come over for dinner with the kids twice during that week and suggested I come alone and not with my father or sister because it’s a private matter… ya right

FindingMyPrivates · 2023-05-29T10:04:36+00:00

Hank pretty much hit the nail on the wall. Just want to say I tried the same. She wasn’t having my it. Found some individual therapy and that therapist allegedly called me abusive and that she should leave. That was one of the last things she said before leaving the house. I’m fine now. It sucks though man. We just want to fight to keep our family. Good luck bro.

Sea-Mission-6316 · 2023-05-29T14:35:16+00:00

In my experience, marriage counseling is worse than useless. If you are at that point, you are better off to spend your money on a good divorce attorney. Counselors are typically biased towards the woman.

Mesothelioma1021 · 2023-05-29T16:50:46+00:00

We got no where with it, but our relationship was a very dire place by the time we started, so I’m sure that played a role. My ex wife got the impression judged her (she had an affair), and thought the MC had a thing for me based off an outfit she wore to a session.

rhett342 · 2023-05-29T15:05:30+00:00

I thought things were going well with marriage counseling but it turns out my wife couldn't even tell him the truth about her 'friend" from work. I went ballistic when I found out part of the truth and my wife called it quits on me amd the counselor. Turns put she had been lying about even more stiff that I found out about later.

throwaway0677645 · 2023-05-29T20:19:22+00:00

We did therapy several times in the past and usually she quits when they point out that she’s not perfect. After telling me we need to separate she barely wanted to try therapy again, this time the therapist apparently took her side as she became overwhelmingly emotional over irrelevant issues. The therapist fussed at me that I was stuck because I would not give into my wife’s demands. On our next meeting as an individual session, I filled the therapist in on several of the other issues that she ignored in our initial meeting. I suggest meeting separately before coming together, remember that they may provide advice that you don’t like, but you need to examine if you are a part of the problem in your relationship. I know that I am part of our problem, the difficulty is that my wife does not see that she has any fault…

Reflog1791 · 2023-05-30T20:32:41+00:00

Not enough info. What is the problem?

Classic_Dill · 2023-05-30T20:48:55+00:00

Depends on the issues, if it’s infidelity? I don’t think it works out well.

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2023-05-30T21:22:08+00:00

I think couples go to therapy because they want to come out as the person that was right and somehow the other person will straighten up

captainchippsixx · 2023-05-31T14:40:53+00:00

She is going to say he is sexist. Happened to me. Counselor called her out on her shit and mine. Reality it’s a 50/50 issue. But wives want it to be 95 you/ 5

Title	Couples Therapy Outcomes?
Author	richmondknife
Upvotes	12
Comments	31
Date	May 28, 2023 10:20 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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