What made you come to redpill lifestyle?

cohost3 · 2023-06-10T14:04:31+00:00

I always wanted to have a happy relationship. But I knew nothing about men. I’m pretty sure I was googling “how to be a good girlfriend” when I found RPW.

It was just what I was looking for! Everything I learned worked like a charm. I’ve been with my husband for 6 years now. Couldn’t be happier.

diaryofalostgirl · 2023-06-10T15:34:24+00:00

I realized I liked men much more than my ardently feminist social media sphere wanted me to. I liked being feminine for the male gaze, not in order to be the femme of a femme/butch couple. I believed in monogamy and marriage. So -- time to find people who think like I do and aren't white nationalist evangelicals.

Key-Consideration190 · 2023-06-10T14:32:17+00:00

I grew up without my mother so I’ve never really known how to operate in relationships as a woman. Better yet I’ve never know how to operate at all as a woman. So here I am learning and growing. Sn: I wish we could rebrand as something other than redpill

Jenneapolis · 2023-06-10T15:32:08+00:00

I always dated dominant men but I was trying to control and change them. Eventually, I realized if that’s what I wanted, and I wasn’t willing to compromise, I had to learn work WITH them and their needs.

mistressusa · 2023-06-10T16:14:06+00:00

I didn't know I was a RPW until I happened on this sub. To me, it's just how things are/work irl.

Hot-Pink-Lipstick · 2023-06-10T14:39:20+00:00

I’m not sure I would call it a “lifestyle,” but I grew up without a father and my view of men became maladaptive. The feminist/liberal/modern-conventional view of heterosexual relationships didn’t work for me because I was so inexperienced with men that platitudes about equality and sameness were ineffective on me because I had no other male relationships to look to. I needed a bit of structure to help me be the kind of partner who inspires the kind of behavior I hoped to see in my husband, and RPW theory helped me develop those skills and understand my responsibility to myself and my partner.

BudgetInteraction811 · 2023-06-10T23:08:02+00:00

I’m not a redpiller, but I find this sub to be completely different than the men’s idea of being red pilled. I like it here because there isn’t all the BS you see elsewhere on Reddit about how women should be the ones stepping up and taking charge of relationships, asking men out, babying and coddling poor behaviours, etc. It just seems like a lot of people on Reddit and in real life expect that just because we live in a modern society, women should be taking on every role in a relationship. There is far too much leeway for a man in a relationship to behave like an incompetent teenager and we’re just expected to accept that men are not capable of acting like grown men. I don’t want a man I have to boss around just to get equal effort from in a domestic situation. I want a man to lead naturally and rather teach me things I should learn. Obviously this does go both ways, but it’s sad to see modern women who are completely exhausted because they’re working full-time AND doing 75%-90% of the household responsibilities, just because they’ve swallowed the lie that they are supposed to be able to “do it all”. No thanks, I don’t want to do it all.

I also like this spot because it keeps me in check to read posts even though I’m single right now. I grew up with a single mom who “did it all”, and now I feel like it’s hard to allow a man to help me without feeling like I am being selfish. I also have a lot of masculine personality traits like aggressiveness, brashness, bossiness, and so forth, and I am trying to unlearn these bad habits that make me come across as abrasive. I would like to become softer, gentler, and more feminine, and it doesn’t come naturally to me.

NotoriousJez · 2023-06-10T21:34:58+00:00

I knew I wanted to be married as young as I can remember. I want someone that wakes up and chooses me everyday, pushes me and challenges me, and all the other wonderful things they come from a healthy relationship. I also want to break my generational curses. My mom is past 40 still begging for love, and my Dad is married but not really happily. I saw the negative qualities that caused these issues so I learned what a woman should be and stand for from the Bible which lines up a lot with rpw

Love-reps · 2023-06-10T15:25:03+00:00

i grew up in a traditional home with parents that demonstrated those values but supported me doing whatever feminist bs i wanted

i realized i was very miserable competing with guys i was dating. i want to be taken care of and i want to create a safe home for my partner to come back to.

32vromeo · 2023-06-10T22:49:30+00:00

Well as an anti-feminist 😁, I just think dating and relationships just shouldn’t be this difficult. You would think with social media and our simplistic (advanced) lifestyles that it would be easier now than ever before but today, even just selecting a mate has become as tedious as selecting a movie on Netflix (I’m the worst at). I also think our society has become so unappreciative of men. We’ll overlook all the advancements and conveniences we live on and complain about wars and assault statistics.

ej_v · 2023-06-10T18:26:16+00:00

My abusive conservative dad. Grew up going between evangelical and JW churches. It led to my life imploding early 20's but the values remained.

Realistic_Pass · 2023-06-12T12:17:56+00:00

I was a feminist for a long time (like 6 years? I’m 24).

I thought men and women weren’t that different.

I knew I was interested in masculine men and being feminine I just wasn’t able to. Weak men used me as an emotional punching bag because I allowed them too. I couldn’t be soft. I was too patient, too forgiving.

I prayed for patience, grace, and understanding.

Before my most recent partner broke up with me (4 years over text, he tried to take it back but no thank you) I was watching videos about feminine energy. My favorite creditors are Whitney Hendricks and Shera7 (sprinkle sprinkle!)

Now I’m just doing whatever I want

new_moon_solstice · 2023-06-12T21:56:35+00:00

I was raised in the world of feminism. Was told my whole life I could do anything a man could do. No one ever told me that the things women do were worthwhile. In my world, stay at home moms were failures who couldn't cut it at a career.

So I pursued achievement. Ivy league undergrad and medical school. A few women in my medical school class got pregnant and never worked. The rest of us snickered at them for being weak and "giving up" on their careers. In reality I was just jealous. Continued to work my ass off through training and beyond. Was briefly married. Married a man who could not provide for me but as a feminist, I figured I could be the provider. At 36, finally felt secure enough to try to get pregnant and that very month my husband left me for another woman. He complained I worked too much and wasn't invested in the relationship (he was at least partially right).

Now at 41 there is nothing but work in my life. I take some comfort in taking care of patients, but I feel pain and grief at having no family or children. I was taught that my desire for a family was "socially constructed" by the "patriarchy." But the more I try to bury my desire for family and children, the more it bubbles through the surface. My natural desires to have children and be nurturing are not socially constructed - they are REAL.

When women come on here and post that men ought to provide for them I admit I get jealous that any woman can have that expectation. I wish I was brought up in such a world where a woman had value beyond her career! I feel worthless outside of my job. In my entire life, no man has so much as bought me flowers, so the very idea of a man providing for me is unfathomable.

Anyway, I like this sub because people here see through this dogma. I want to preach to the high heavens that modern feminism is a woman-hating lie, and I want to help other women avoid my fate. Prioritize what matters. Have a family with a good man. Career is secondary.

TheBunk_TB · 2023-06-10T14:44:27+00:00

Brutish realities connected to doing the same things over and over, but then not getting a desired effect.

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