Anyone else having trouble with attraction??

ranger69danger · 2023-07-02T04:04:18+00:00

Sunshine + Safe Motorbiking or similar is my Rx.

And yeah, most women these days are….modern.

Striking-Trainer8148 · 2023-07-02T00:45:33+00:00

Sounds like depression.

I recommend as much sunshine as possible.

jgjg9999 · 2023-07-02T09:29:00+00:00

I'm still attracted, not for relationships though. I'm almost 2 years out. My few brief attempts at dating make me think I'm not capable of falling for someone after what my X put me through.

SelectionNo3078 · 2023-07-02T12:47:26+00:00

it's a really hard time. long marriage? kids?

i've met some new people and made some sort of friendships since the separation but only one of them actually reaches out to me and suggests a get together (we have a drink about once a week the past few months)

i have learned to go out alone a lot. because i work from home and some days the only people i see are at the gym or grocery store.

Mountain_Collar_7620 · 2023-07-02T14:02:41+00:00

Sounds like Common Sense to me … once you have a safe house keeper , food supply is secured and a quality silicone toy molded off a professional why would I EVER listen to the babblings of someone using me as free therapy and admin assistant ?

Of course if anyone applied who added something to my life and was cool with my need to ensure you NEVER are in a position to harm me I might consider that. Fat Rich Arab Lady who enjoys Cooking Cleaning and Massaging in exchange for love , I’m looking at you 👀 (hotels only though , obvs 🙄)

SecretDoctor8121 · 2023-07-02T20:14:00+00:00

Its the opposite on my side....noone find me attractive. Single Dad not wanted in the dating market and most women avoid them anyway so...

Bipolar_investor · 2023-07-03T07:52:05+00:00

Well, 2 years divorced, and 9 women met for mostly hookups, I'm almost convinced most women don't offer anything but trouble. This sounds bad, and wrong. And It probably is, but the good ones are all taken it seems.

MoodyMusical · 2023-07-02T13:07:26+00:00

I've been going through this too. We have to work on rediscovering ourselves. It's hard. My best advice is to put other people out of your mind completely and work on your relationship with yourself. Take care of yourself, work for yourself, and take time to connect with and understand yourself. Part of doing that is understanding the need for social connection and working towards giving that to yourself. You have to be friends with yourself first and part of that is recognizing when your friend is in pain and being willing to put in effort to help them get past it.

Noodletrousers · 2023-07-02T13:08:56+00:00

I felt this way for a long time too, sans the wondering if I’ll ever be attracted to another woman.

In one respect it’s very good actually. You have set a high bar and it’s the exact right thing to do. It does mean that it’ll take longer for you to find the woman who sets your pants on fire. Don’t give up, but realize that the best things in life are often the ones you need to have the most patience for.

ronin2722 · 2023-07-05T19:32:29+00:00

I feel ya. Lost contact with almost all my friends during my marriage, and now I just don't have interest to put in any effort. I do miss having someone though, coming home and being able to talk or to send a text and chat. Thats why this chat group has been really helpful just to talk about my situation and read others in similar situations. It helps to keep my mind off my current situation but it does get lonely at times. Obviously talking to a female is different and I do miss that but all the apps I looked at is mostly people looking to hook up and I have zero interest in that currently.

My stbxw certainly did some damage to me both mentally and emotionally, it will be a while before I feel whole again, but I'm not letting her win. I just would like a female to talk to and be able to discuss life and such, not looking to date or anything yet. But the effort seems too much right now.

Title	Anyone else having trouble with attraction??
Author	Wacodunk
Upvotes	13
Comments	13
Date	July 2, 2023 12:34 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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