RPW and pregnancy

FastLifePineapple · 2023-07-05T05:29:42+00:00

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ivysaurah · 2023-07-03T00:35:30+00:00

I am 29 weeks with my first currently, have recently gotten uncomfortably large, and though it’s been hard to keep up with it, I have kept up with exercising daily (Pregnancy & Postpartum TV on Youtube) since around 17-18 weeks, which has helped me a lot all around with symptoms and to stay more active and able to squat down and whatnot so far. I rest more often for sure, but I am keeping up with the house and trying to get ahead so things don’t fall apart in the last few weeks.

As for moods… I make an effort to listen to my body throughout the day. Take the nap if you need it. Eat when you’re hungry. HYDRATE. Take some time to focus on how thankful you are for this baby: not all women get to experience what we are currently. It helps me be more consistently positive when my husband gets home. Exercise again has helped this a lot, I notice I am way more grouchy on days that I don’t move my body.

Sex has gotten less spicy, but we find intimacy still. Laying on our side/spooning is probably the most typical position these days. We shower together, which isn’t inherently sexual but it is intimate. Give each other massages after long days. I also leave little notes for him in his lunch and by his computer after he’s done working to let him know how much I love and appreciate all he’s been doing for me. Cooking has always been my love language and I find myself REALLY getting into it these days. Its normal, sex slows down when we get bigger, but you can show intimacy and connection in other ways to make up for it. Honestly we’ve been so close and lovey dovey lately, my husband has been my favorite part of pregnancy aside from the baby kicks.

Not everything is perfect day to day but we’re pregnant, we’ll get our bodies back soon enough. Try to be kind to yourself. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is extremely uneventful!

thesillymachine · 2023-07-03T01:26:05+00:00

I tried not to say no to sex. We would do BJs after the birth. Not immediately after, because that's ridiculous. Maybe it's because one of my main love languages is touch, but I never regretted it. Is it him or you that's preventing sexual activity right now? Getting some of those feel good hormones may actually bring some comfort in the weirdness of pregnancy.

It's a very feminine experience overall, to have a baby and then care for him or her. I highly recommend educating yourself now on breastfeeding. Consider baby wearing, too. Plan to rest and take care of the baby the first 6 weeks, maybe even longer. They consider the first 3 months of a baby's life to be the fourth trimester. I personally would sometimes take naps when the baby napped, so maybe plan on disposable dishes and easy meals.

If hubs and I wanted to go somewhere, we just took the baby with us. It wasn't that big of a deal with baby wearing and breastfeeding. The relationship is important and the baby should not completely take over your lives. If you can, let others babysit. That was not an option for us with the first baby.

AutoModerator · 2023-07-02T21:59:17+00:00

Title: RPW and pregnancy

Full text: For the mothers of RPW: how do RPW principles apply to pregnancy and early motherhood? How do femininity and submission look like in this phase of life? Tips, reflections... stuff you wish you'd known / you'd do differently / you'd do the same... anything really. Thanks!

For context: I'm expecting my first. I'm at that stage of pregnancy where I can still bend down - I just don't know if I'll be able to get up. Tying my shoelaces was much easier when I could see my feet. I'm very happy but I'm big, tired, still nauseated, emotional, grumpy, a bit anxious/controlling, and my sex life went from great to non existent. My wonderful husband is doing so much for us, while I can't do half the things I used to... I feel such a burden. Of course he says that growing our baby is all I need to do right now - and I can't even thank him with a BJ.

Suggestions, commiseration and reality checks are all VERY welcome (but gentle please, I could cry. Sigh.).

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dashdotdott · 2023-07-03T23:17:38+00:00

I'm a mom of four (ranging from 3 to 10). I worked full time up until each was born and went back 2-3mons after. I was always available for sexual stuff (what depended on the phase of pregnancy and postpartum). That was the main thing for me. But I didn't deal with a lot of pain during pregnancies

When it comes to preganancy/children: You do what works for your family at the time. Whether that is way less sex but more cuddles; or hiring a housekeeper because...getting up from the bed is an Olympic fear. Or you use formula vs nursing exclusively. Regardless if the choices you make: there is another person (usually another mom; unfortunately) to judge you.

Best of luck mama! It is worth it!

vintagegirlgame · 2023-07-04T00:38:44+00:00

I’m 4 months! My sex drive is actually quite high but he’s been working a lot and hasn’t been feeling good recently so I’m trying not to bug him 😅 even in the first trimester sex was one of the things that distracted my nausea.

ArkNemesis00 · 2023-07-05T20:45:25+00:00

I'm currently working on a post about this!! It's in the editing phase but you're welcome to peek at my profile

Congratulations on the baby :)

And ginger, ginger, ginger for the nausea if you haven't already. If you're sick of ginger ale, there's ginger tea, ginger snaps, ginger hard candy, etc

kitterkatty · 2023-07-03T05:13:52+00:00

For me, it was not complaining. Just going viking beast mode. But you still want to stand up for yourself medically. Don’t get induced unless you’re SURE it’s the right thing. I got taken advantage of my a predatory doctor who got paid 10x for sections. So her office lied and said the baby was 8 lbs when at birth two weeks later it was barely 7. But she got 30k herself and the hospital got 1k a day for the room plus nicu. So be stoic in the relationship but in the drs office be your own advocate.

Squat, a lot. Frog pose is how I had two vbacs. I caught both of those.

Wrap right after so you get your figure back if your partner puts huge emphasis on your figure a wrap and sleep is the fastest way back.

Title	RPW and pregnancy
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Date	July 2, 2023 9:59 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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