Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?

Cosima_Fan_Tutte · 2023-08-10T16:58:02+00:00

I've only really felt out of place when I read Mommy forums and some woman says "ugh, my husband wants to have sex and I'm only 2 years postpartum" and then they all chime in like, "ugh, what a man child, grow up buddy, it's not all about you anymore!!!!"

almost feel guilty about wanting to get married and wanting a big family in the future.

How old are you, where do you live, what's your social class and social mileu? What kind of media do you consume? I'm a millennial in a second-tier city in the Midwest and I've never felt like marriage or kids were something shameful or abnormal. On the contrary, once women here hit the mid-late 20s, their social feeds will be flooded with pictures of friends' engagements, weddings, baby showers, and so on.

I suppose it's different in big cosmopolitan coastal cities, though, especially in very woke circles. The more I read rwp, the more I think everyone here needs to live in flyover country.

diaryofalostgirl · 2023-08-10T14:42:03+00:00

I never do, because to me, RP doesn't mean having a picket-fence life. It means I lean a lot more into what my grandmother's generation did to win men over, with a dash of modernity that allows me to be appealing to modern men.

At the same time, it's liberating to know that aspiring SAHM and such are not my natural enemies -- we're all just reaching for the same set of tools, looking for the man who's right for us.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2023-08-10T15:37:46+00:00

I almost feel guilty about wanting to get married and wanting a big family in the future.

That’s exactly what they want. Feminism is built on a series of absolute lies that are unnatural, immoral, and flat out wrong, and has since morphed into a female supremacy movement.

The problem that they face is they have to keep defending the lies. Over the long-haul women are happier, being married, and having kids - and don’t believe that BS “study“ that shows single women are the happiest. Single, childless women are quite happy when they’re young and (comparatively) hot and have the world at their feet. Check back in between 40 and 80 and the numbers get bad, quick. What is the profile of the unhappiest person in America? A 42-year-old single childless career chick.

So the key here is, is to pursue your life in such a way as will make you happy, and everyone else can FOAD.

PsychoticNurse · 2023-08-10T17:01:50+00:00

I definitely feel out of place irl. Online is the only place I can be open and free to talk about how I truly feel (besides to my husband). Liberals/feminists have taken over and ruined things horribly. It's to the point now where you cannot even express a different opinion because they will attack you. I've been banned from a sub here on reddit just because I belong to Redpillwomen. I've been told by feminists that they hope I get sexually assaulted (they actually said the R word) by men because I dared to say that women shouldn't go to a man's home on the first or second date, they should get to know the man before they go to his home/sleep with him. I've been called names because I said women need to stop acting like men and be more feminine, and to let the man lead in the relationship.

Don't ever feel guilty about wanting marriage and a family. Feminists are trying to destroy the family. They're trying to make hook ups and random sex be normal and guilt women who want marriage. They are trying to delude young women into thinking they don't need a man (both genders need each other), and that it's ok to sleep with lots of men. Feminists are telling young women that they cannot be a wife/mom and have a career, they can only pick one. I'm happily married with 6 kids and I have a successful career. Plenty of RP/conservative women also have families and careers.

They are also making men hate us, since there's no way for a man to know if you're a feminist or not. I always joke with my husband that I wish there were pins we can wear on our clothes to show we are not feminists. I truly do not know what their end game is or why they're doing this.

As a side note, my son and stepson are old enough to start dating. I'm giving them tips on how to determine if a woman is a feminist so they can avoid her and not waste their time.

KittenHotel · 2023-08-10T11:53:56+00:00

Developing ourselves in any area leads to abnormality. It goes well past the red pill. It's just something we have to learn to overcome, or even embrace. But it always helps to surround yourself with supportive people who have similar goals. It makes the journey less lonely.

MatterRemote · 2023-08-10T18:52:20+00:00

I used to, at first when I was newly introduced to the idea. Nowadays, the approach I take is - no one really needs to know about your exact relationship dynamic, as long as it’s working, whether it be RP, or any other dynamic, the goal is that you find an approach that makes you and your partner happy.

From the outside, no one would think I have RP approach in a relationship - I have a degree from top 10 uni in the world, working in high finance (in my specific area, less than 20% women in the workforce because of how competitive it is), known for my academic accomplishments etc. This is all for me, not to show off to the world or to the man I’m sharing my life with.

However with my boyfriend I always allow him to pay (he has provider mentality and never lets me spend my money), he’s very supportive of my goals and is proud of me. He’s also very smart & successful and we connect on so many levels, even though I’m 8 years younger than him. When it comes to our relationship, I lean back - I’m a different person at academia & workplace vs when I’m with him - and we both enjoy this dynamic. I like to take care of myself and always make sure I stay fit & feminine.

Now the outside world doesn’t really need to know how I treat my boyfriend - it’s for two of us and I don’t share much with my friends/family about the exact dynamic, they just know that our relationship is good and that’s what they need to know.

My advice is just be yourself, live the life the way you want but we live in a world where everyone has differing views and RP isn’t as common, so watch out what kind of people you share sensitive information with, I’d go as far as saying it’s better if you don’t share at all

thesillymachine · 2023-08-11T04:02:16+00:00

Being on Reddit as a Redpill stinks. So many times someone wants to argue with me and I end up looking at their profile to see how not RP their life is. I think the last one was a blue haired overweight woman. We stand out, but so do the other side. The ones in the middle probably don't have the time or energy to care. Lol. I feel like love and respect are absolute foreign ideas to some folks. Like, move on. Get a hobby that isn't Reddit three hours a day.

Fae_Leaf · 2023-08-10T16:22:08+00:00

I'm definitely open to chat if you need it!

InevitableKiwi5776 · 2023-08-10T13:30:56+00:00

Idk for me, learning about RP in terms of relationships wasn't as much a huge revelation as a confirmation of things I had secretly felt naturally, but was confused by because they went against what I was being told. So I would say I felt more out of place before learning RP.

The parts that did change my views was understanding the basically anti-male propaganda that gets repeated so much that it becomes accepted as fact. It doesn't come up much in my day to day life, but you just have to assume people aren't going to be receptive to hearing something different from you. I'm not like making it my cause or anything, but I try to push back against it a bit when I can.

youllknowwhenitstime · 2023-08-10T18:55:17+00:00

It gets so bad when you're prepping to have a kid! Finding a non-blue-pilled mom group is just... impossible. *sigh* All I want is a space where women aren't jumping down their husbands' throats over every little thing and then airing their dirty laundry expecting their girlfriends to pile on...

But I refuse to feel anything akin to guilt. More like indignation and fervor. Find your inner rebel!

Jewelry_lover · 2023-08-10T15:31:09+00:00

Not exactly. I’m an immigrant from a patriarchal country so RP values are not exactly new to me or people around me. Just apply what works for me

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1uniquerose · 2023-08-11T08:07:44+00:00

What does it mean to be red pilled? I just came across the sub.

GapGroundbreaking536 · 2023-08-14T04:26:14+00:00

No lol. Reddit is so obsessed with persecution fetishes . Most people in IRL aren’t confrontational. Who in your life is shaming you for wanting a family or marriage. Like how is marriage and a family not mainstream. I know plenty of gay, conservative, liberal, who want those things.

I am a childless (AntiNatalist), extremely liberal, have a STEM career. I could care less if you or anyone want a big family. Because I do not put my personal ideology. I am very vocal about my belief and values and so are my friends who are completely opposite.

Please go meet people IRL.

Title	Do you ever feel out of place these days being red pilled?
Author	Charming-Paper-1564
Upvotes	34
Comments	29
Date	August 10, 2023 11:20 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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