Did any of you get your shot at AP?

Spudlink9 · 2023-09-02T21:17:33+00:00

I found out my wife was cheating 9 days ago. I don’t even care who it is. It’s her job to do what’s right. Not some stranger to honor our family and commitment. She is 100% responsible.

TenuousOgre · 2023-09-03T08:20:25+00:00

Don’t do anything illegal. I honestly wouldn’t bother with him since it’s only your wife who owned you faithfulness. He doesn’t. But if you must get your pound of flesh talk to a lawyer first. See if there's a way to do it legally. And really consider dropping it. Twenty years ago I might have advised you to wait a year and then give him a late night 'accidental' meeting with the side of a building. But honestly, why risk jail for a loser? Doesn’t take much thinking to realize even if he deliberately tried to break your family, your wife is the guilty one for it breaking. He is just a cause she should have ignored.

ijustdontcare74 · 2023-09-02T21:36:26+00:00

I didn’t get a physical altercation (mores the pity) but I did find out AP was married and outed him to his wife. I sent her all the screen shots, timelines and hotel bills. Never heard back about what happened but my exw went very quiet for a few days so more than likely she got a blast from his wife.

Lumpy-Prior3261 · 2023-09-03T05:56:12+00:00

Yeah I told his wife what was going on while him and my wife were fking in Las Vegas then when she got home Sunday night ( I knew they were going I found all the messages a week before ) so I let her go she said it was with gf but it wasn't just them she got to the house her shit was packed in a uhaul his wife on ewu changed the locks and code on garage door . After her begging for me to let her in he come hailing ass into my driveway saying I ruined his life . I laughed my ass off and told him go out in the street and practice bleeding I will be out in a minute.

Reflog1791 · 2023-09-03T10:42:12+00:00

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Early days I wanted vengeance badly. 4 years later the concept is ridiculous because I have too much to do.

I did not beat up AP. Ex wife obviously sold him a bill of goods. Now, I’m the one with the hot girlfriend getting two hour bjs in my golf course house. I have no use for vengeance against anybody in the world and it feels good.

It took hard work and a concerted effort to have a good attitude, despite what other people are doing.

Before you get all holier than thou with these AP’s, you should realize the next woman you talk to could easily be lying about her relationship status. The unwitting/manipulated AP is far far more common than this evil caricature getting off on betrayal and family destruction.

Some idiot shakes your hand at a bbq and fucks your ugly ass wife. GOOD YOU CAN HAVE HER, NEXT!

TastyWheat67 · 2023-09-03T15:36:44+00:00

"Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed—and you haven’t been."

-Marcus Arelius

This quote has helped me a lot. It's like a superpower.

But I remember that this previously seemed impossible. Time makes it easier.

jkw118 · 2023-09-03T15:41:12+00:00

So i didnt know half of my now exs APs...its not worth it. Its not worth messing. Ive also been dating for a few years. Twice the ladies had husbands who didnt know about it.. i found out after we had sex. and i kicked em out.. im not into messing up someone elses marriage. Granted a bit late..but its life.. The only other time was with one lady who, was contemplating divorce.. her husband had been repeatedly cheating on her for years. But still didnt know in the beginning. So i get both sides of it. The guy/lady isnt always aware of whats going on. Its the person in the relationships responsibility/trust..

Dismal_Elevator_110 · 2023-09-03T18:13:31+00:00

Listen I know you want revenge for what They did to you I had a chance more than once to get mine . came real close but in the long run think about it what will you gain nothing bit you'll loose everything . it's ok to be mad as h. e .LL we lost everything to this AP but like everyone else says it's her fault to let this man in .

redragtop99 · 2023-09-04T01:52:03+00:00

Your best revenge is he’s the one who has to deal w her

i_am_buzz_lightyear · 2023-09-03T01:36:42+00:00

I was asked by the church if I wanted to talk to him. I denied. Nothing good can come from that. I used the church to end it. They met on the worship team. He was married as well.

bddfcinci707 · 2023-09-03T07:22:48+00:00

This wasn't a wife, just a long term gf...and it happened before, but still a decent story. Long story short, there was a guy that was kind of an enemy of mine..we had fought years before at his house in his backyard...I choked him unconscious in front of his then gf. Later on, he fucked mine...lol anyway that caused our breakup obviously but I took some solace in the fact that at least I had already kicked his ass. He knew it and she knew it. So any time she would try to goad me I would tell her " Don't get Jeff's ass kicked for him again"... and he would tell her " I'm not fighting him for YOU..." HAHA. softened the blow a little.

Title	Did any of you get your shot at AP?
Author	AdvancedAd3507
Upvotes	12
Comments	27
Date	September 2, 2023 7:18 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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