Getting ghosted leads to feeling demotivated

Agitated-Fee-6497 · 2023-09-28T17:26:02+00:00

I wouldn't think anything of getting ghosted....just the way things are. So many options out there for people to meet these days. Getting ghosted is just part of the dating game. Keep expectations in check....one date isn't anything....if months go by that's something different....but 9x out of 10 it's probably because they are exploring other options.

MNCPA · 2023-09-28T16:46:56+00:00

The illusion of dating options. Look it up.

You may be ghosted, not because you are a bad person. Heck, they might have liked you and wanted a relationship with you.

On the other side is the illusion of dating options. The perfect person, at that point in life, may still be out there....but the illusion is that the perfect person may already be in a relationship or just not like you.

So, don't feel bad about being ghosted. You are in competition with all possible options. Guys tend to get less likes than females, so guys have less options and less of the illusion of options.

Reflog1791 · 2023-09-28T17:52:32+00:00

Setup dates with more women. Takes all the pressure off. Bad date or ghost? Next.

The dates will be more into you. Women can sense a man with options from across a parking lot. They can also sense desperation in the same way.

Hit the gym harder and line up more dates. Even two at the same time. One of them will cancel and if they don’t you gracefully make up an excuse and reschedule. Don’t do it at the last minute or anything just line up more than one date at a time.

If this is breaking your brain you gotta hit the gym harder so you don’t care so much.

HuckleberryVarenja · 2023-09-28T15:29:35+00:00

You improve yourself like Tony Stark improved Iron Man.

techrmd3 · 2023-09-28T18:38:07+00:00

there are tons of scammers of various stripes

Just make a rule like I do. Until I meet a woman in person in my area... she's just and internet figment of my imagination.

There are just too many profiles out there that lead to online people who are not in the right country, right marital status, right relationship status, right gender to be playing games

I see them irl or I just think they are a bot.

Jimbothebimbo696969 · 2023-09-28T22:05:26+00:00

Unfortunately the days of honest dating are gone. Everyone male or female want to have many partners before they even want to start serious dating. Social media grants instant gratification. So if someone sees a better picture, they go for it. It sucks

KirkG2G · 2023-09-29T02:35:39+00:00

I agree with the spirit of what u/Reflog1791 is saying... mostly. We have to maximize our likelihood of success by increasing our opportunities. A good place to start is by being attractive before you say anything. If you do that effectively, women will start a conversation with you. They will contact you. They will let you know they are ready for you to make a move, etc.

How do you feel your body language, eye contact, & facial expressions might be influencing your dates? How often do you get compliments on your physique, how you smell, or what you're wearing?

Title	Getting ghosted leads to feeling demotivated
Author	DeanG30
Upvotes	11
Comments	19
Date	September 28, 2023 3:24 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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