My Size CONSTANTLY Bothers Me As a Man

Hans-Cheezburger · 2023-10-01T00:35:31+00:00

Life is a game of cards, you play with the hand you're dealt with buddy.

At least you have hands and wrists, imagine trying to pull chicks with no arms and legs. Yet there are people who have to work with that.

Realize what you have and work on what you lack as best as you can. That's about all the advice I can give

restartOver210 · 2023-10-01T00:32:14+00:00

Just fill it out as best you can and work with it bro. Highlight your best features. I have small wrists and ankles, but doing exercises that's thickened my hands has made them look like mallets and the smaller bone structure makes my muscles look bigger. I get looks. Granted, I will be be honest and tell you that I have a very pronounced natural V-shape torso that is probably what gets female attention, but you know for most of my life I was too fat for it to even show. I had to work hard in order to leverage my natural gifts!

I'm still chunky, but now I have this filled out frame that looks really masculine despite my smaller wrists and ankles. My hands are average size for my height in length, but they're meaty as hell due to forearm curls and arm wrestling exercises. I'm overcoming it, bro! And if I could do it, you can too. And now I get attention and it feels good for all this stuff to be easier.

You just gotta not be a bitch, dude. No one is coming to save you. No one is going to magically fix it. There is no amount frustrated complaining against the world and your lot in life that is going to make it okay. Your complaints accomplish nothing. You could be making yourself stronger instead of complaining right now.

Let the boy die. Be a man.

marc_nawwer · 2023-10-01T02:08:19+00:00

Completely agree with what has been said here, you gotta play with the cards given, some people really have it worse and still aren't concerned about their shit.

Can grantee you look freaking good man, be wary of body dysmorphia. Almost two years ago I had very similar thoughts (183cm 75kg back then, after the first real cut in my life), abs and defined muscles were cool yet I felt small as fuck, small wrist/hands, and def not very broad shoulders...

Ended up dirty bulking for the sake of getting big, 9 months later I was a fat fuck, body image worse than before without realizing cause in the mirror "you are getting big"... bs. Wasn't till I almost reached 100kg and realized the change of behavior of people around me that I realized fuck this may have gone too far.

I don't care how bad you think you look right now, I can guarantee you won't see yourself better being fat nor you will get more women.

Guaran fucking tee.

You will just be playing for men's validation. Once I cut down again and stopped social media magic happened, it was all mental. Women perceive physical attractiveness mostly based on your leanness (and muscle to a degree). Go see some female gaze examples, notice they don't have a lot of size just an athletic build.

I don't know your age nor how much years you've been training, but if you already pulling women I wouldn't consider juice for the sake of size.

Prolly this essay won't be enough as sometimes one must experience the lessons 1st person to get it ingrained. If you feel small go on a bulk and put size. Whatever in your control go fix it, if not let go.

The_Pine · 2023-10-01T03:29:46+00:00

... dude, you are fcking young take it easy on yourself.

Don't take drastic measures that you may regret later in life.

I understand your struggles, most of us went through similar things.

Our issues are always the BIGGEST but trust me, only time and continuing to pull girls you will slowly interiorize that the way you are is ok.

Confidence takes a lot of success and proof that we can make it to actually become internalized.

You are on the right path, with time you overcome those thoughts of inadequacy.

Let me tell you something, I am 5'1".

You read that right.

I'm 1,55m tall.

I will never know what it's like to go the adult section and wear something off the rack.

But my height has not deterred me from going after what I want.

Even when I was a skinny dork, my personality alone landed me a couple of girlfriends in my 18/19.

Then, becoming TRP aware I started improving areas that I was severely lacking.

I was your prototype Nice Guy TM.

I still feel inadequate EVEN THOUGH the universe has told me time and time again I AM ADEQUATE.

Almost ALL the girls I pull are taller than me.

I actually find it kinda funny, what else is there to do.

The only thing I can do is to keep on proving myself with results and success.

Overtime, my height has become less of an issue.

Don't worry about your hands or size.

You are already on the path, let time take care of your beliefs.

Stay strong, safe and healthy brother.

Follow your passions, earn enough money to be free and all will fall into place.

I know you want everything as quick as possible.

I also did.

But there are things that only consistent action will fix.

Take your time and enjoy your life in the meantime.

GivMeLiberty · 2023-10-01T06:24:58+00:00

What the guy said about playing the cards your dealt^{^{^}}

I’m assuming your width/broadness is the small thing you’re worried about: Lots of high volume lat pull downs on back day (minimum 4 sets of 15+ reps, AMRAP, heavy as you can). Don’t do shoulders on chest day, give shoulders their own day and do high volume. Look up how Arnold did incline DB bench and do that, stretching as far back as you can on the bottom. Do NOT train your traps/shrugs, the bigger/taller they are the more it will take away from your width.

Start training MMA. It will help to overcome any underlying/subconscious intimidation from bigger men. I’ve always been one of the biggest guys I knew but I would still get my ass beat in fights and it dings your confidence big time.

Bulk then cut (if you get too heavy or fat). Especially if you already have a roster. Do not attempt super clean gains if you’re concerned about size, unless you’re already fat or unless you are on absurd amounts of steroids.

Men shit test, too. Be conscious of your behavior and attitude around bigger men. Do NOT perceive them as a threat. Be careful how you engage when they test you, spit a little back. Obviously don’t have like little man syndrome and don’t piss people off, but big guys do not see you as a threat and will have more respect for you if you can take it and dish it back out in a alpha way that kind of mimics camaraderie. A lot of my friends would not be my friends today and would not have my respect had they reacted differently the first time I called them a “pussy” or “little man” or whatever.

advice from a former tall/skinny guy who juiced up

troy_caster · 2023-10-01T08:01:18+00:00

Nah women like skinny dudes sometimes. There's someone out therefor everyone. Coming from a dude with skinny wrists laying in bed next to a first date fuck. She's asleep right now.

Woujo · 2023-10-01T00:44:49+00:00

Dude, 179 cm is 5'8". That's not short at all. And 72 kg comes out to around 158 lbs, which is not supper skinny either. This is all in your head.

Even if you were abnormally small, thinking about it does not solve anything. Neuroticism and thinking about yourself is the same thing. Just focus on the things you can improve and be thankful that a man can become attractive in many ways other than just looks.

4ktx · 2023-10-01T01:13:47+00:00

Accept yourself no one’s perfect

Natural_Gain_5200 · 2023-10-01T06:57:36+00:00

You're women, the women who falls in love with you, she will love you for you, she does not give a shit if you're 5'7" or 6'3" infact one of the biggest if not the biggest ladies men I knew was only 5'6". I'm telling you everyone really is a 10 in someone elses eyes. You have to embrace that uniqueness and that's when you'll really shine, nobody attracts people(women included) like a unique person who's confident in being themselves. You get to be that guy. Got dealt a hand, sees it for what it is and plays anyways. That's a winner.

edit: also you're 5'10" bro, that's plenty tall

WiiWynn · 2023-10-01T12:59:52+00:00

I really think you have body image issues. You’re average height, and at your weight, if you’re lean, you’re probably pretty aesthetic.

If you want to put on some mass, do some heavy lifting. Powerlifting and Strongman type stuff. Then eat a shit ton of calories while you’re doing it.

I have small wrists too and am shorter than you by a few cm (I also was very unathletic growing up). But I packed slabs of muscle with heavy lifting. My body didn’t respond well to body building type stuff.

But ultimately, my own body image issues were fixed not with ‘accepting my body’. It was demonstrating to myself just how amazing it was! How it was such a gift to be able to deadlift 225kg, hike up mountains, swim a mile, perform beautiful throws in Judo, beat up people much bigger than me with jiu jitsu, do my first pullup, then several years later do pull-ups with 3 plates strapped to my body. All of this in my 30s and 40s.

I focus on PERFORMANCE more. Aesthetics are generally for the BASIC masses. They know shit about what real performance athleticism is. A 220 lbs jacked guy could get his ass beat by some trained 150 lbs teenager at my gym. I’ve seen it. I hope this helps. Because I genuinely sad when people don’t appreciate their bodies. I’m so grateful for mine. Even though it was average, it became extraordinary. I really believe if I could do it in my mid 30s (naturally), anyone can do it.

Note: not shitting on bodybuilders. I know plenty. And the ones with healthy mindset about it see it more as an ‘art’, and their body as a canvas. It’s just most folks that don’t train have more superficiality associated to a good physique.

BetaCuckSimp · 2023-10-01T01:47:28+00:00

Eat till you’re sick and keep eating, then drink a gallon of milk everyday. And/or get on gear

Edit to add: and by gear imo T alone can make a huge difference, so maybe talk to a Dr about TRT

BecomingABetterMan1 · 2023-10-01T00:52:01+00:00

Based on what my doctor said last year, there's a small chance I have fertility problems I am infertile I am definitely hopping on gear to gain weight,

Or you could just eat like someone trying to put on size or something. Crazy thought, I know.

Gear only amplifies what you're currently doing, and currently you're not doing much but obsessing about the size of your hands.

Go get your test checked if you insist, but you know damn well you're just looking for justification to take the easy route.

thetonybvd · 2023-10-01T06:28:38+00:00

So just go bear mode and lean bulk, eat whole foods, do some cardio to keep the heart healthy, especially if you have planned to blast gear one day

Focus on compound movements like barbell rows, dips, upright rows, pullovers, trapbar deadlifts etc etc and if you want bigger forearms/hands start to ignoring the lifting straps and put fatgrips on your dumbells and barbells. Plus you can spam the wrist roller

If you want to blast gear you should search TRT and alternating with HCG. Don't go crazy on steroids, we still need to be aesthetics, not bulky bodybuilders

Oh and spam lateral raises for your frame

Tylerjjs · 2023-10-01T07:26:30+00:00

I’m 5’11 and probably around 130 lbs I have a 3 year old and probably a body count of 100+ it’s just your insecurity holding you back

Edit: for context I’m aged 25-30 on the lower end

Icy-Assignment-9344 · 2023-10-01T07:59:12+00:00

I'm 1,80m of height too and I weight 90kg... XD dont do that man believe me... For our height 82kg should be the max , if you go above that you'll be overweight and you'll accumulate fat. Believe me set as a goal max 80 / 81kg and no more than that

BeetleLord · 2023-10-01T08:13:17+00:00

You have a really shallow view of masculinity if you think that being huge and having large wrists/hands is what makes you masculine or attractive. The essence of masculinity is in the mind. Which is why a woman who "becomes" a man still acts very much like a woman, and vice-versa.

Since it's physically impossible for you change immutable physical traits like wrist and hand size, you need to expand the breadth of possibilities in your mind. Think about masculine examples like Bruce Lee. Or think of men who express their masculinity through intelligence, drive and skill primarily, rather than sheer physicality. Masculinity is more than a narrow stereotype.

And yes, you can and should continue to build muscle and lift weights. But you should have appreciation for the kind of aesthetic you are capable of developing, rather than envy for an aesthetic that is completely different from yours.

Ikem32 · 2023-10-01T08:30:05+00:00

If you have a fertility problem, maybe you have a problem with low testosterone?

donnymufc · 2023-10-01T08:53:02+00:00

How old are you? I used to dislike my body shape too, I've always been tall but up until age 25 I used to be skinny as fuck and couldn't put weight on if I tried. Started training and eating better and now I'm pretty big (especially arms and shoulders) and I haven't looked back.

nostalgebra · 2023-10-01T09:43:14+00:00

Your obsession with mens hands makes you sound like uncle Jack from always sunny.

Amazing_Egg · 2023-10-01T11:09:10+00:00

Dude, even if you were still 58kgs you'd be alright. I see couples where the girl is hot as fuck and the guy is probably no more than 60kgs wherever I go. Hell, I weigh 55-58kg (varies from time to time) and I've still had decent success despite not lifting weights.

ass-thetics · 2023-10-01T12:48:06+00:00

This black pill shit does'nt fly in the real world. You just admitted to dating multiple women, yet you feel discontent? The amount of times I've seen cute girls go home with the short skinny friend blows my mind. Looks isnt everything. It just makes things a bit easier. You aren't even short bro. Girls are not analyzing your hands and wrists. It's the way you look as a whole and carry yourself.

goblinboglin · 2023-10-01T13:53:23+00:00

you are fking 72kg, that sounds like a holocaust survivor.

go back to gym and when you get to 105kg come back and then rant about your feminine wrists

RuskinBondFan · 2023-10-01T13:57:04+00:00

If you can't change it, find peace in acceptance.

mikey_blah_blah · 2023-10-01T13:54:51+00:00

Before you hop on gear, you should be trying to trying to get absolutely dirty strong on every lift.

Every time you touch the bar you should be attacking five more pounds/1.25-2.5kg more or another rep gained.

Do that for one year. And then, and only then, you’ll understand why the unsung power of the gym and muscles and “go lift.”

Title	My Size CONSTANTLY Bothers Me As a Man
Author	AaViOnBando
Upvotes	10
Comments	55
Date	October 1, 2023 12:19 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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