Family mediation

Objective-Fan-5464 · 2023-10-09T18:51:58+00:00

There are so many items to consider and it's hard to share in one post.

Here are some thoughts specific to what you asked to include in a parenting plan.

If either parent plans to live with someone who is not related to them by blood or marriage, such person must pass a background check, and the other parent must receive a copy of the background check report at least a week before the scheduled move.
Each parent will be allowed to take the children to funerals, births, weddings, graduations, or events of similar significance during the other parent's parenting time, as reasonable.
The children must not be left alone with a parent's romantic partner unless the partner is legally married to the parent.

Other items to consider

Each parent's residence must have the following when that parent houses the children: Basic necessities, such as running water, electricity, and heat. Single-gender sleeping quarters for the children separate from the adults. All medications and other items that could pose a danger stored in a location inaccessible to the children. Active smoke and carbon monoxide alarms by each sleeping area and on each level of the residence. An active and monitored home security system.
If at any point a parent does not have a home, experiences utility disruptions due to non-payment, or has a non-functioning air conditioning or heating system for more than three days, they must relinquish all overnight parenting time with the children until a stable and appropriate living environment is re-established.
Without the written consent of the other parent or until further order of the Court, neither parent will move the children's residence outside of the school attendance zone(s)
During exchanges, if one parent fails to notify the other parent that they will be late, the other parent need only wait 15 minutes past the scheduled exchange time. If the parent was beginning a parenting time period when they were late and the waiting period expires before they arrive, the parenting time period is canceled, unless the parents agree otherwise. The parent who did not arrive on time must deposit $50.00 in each children savings account within 7 days if the waiting period expires before they arrive.
For parenting schedule, Parents must request any temporary changes to the parenting time schedule at least 7 days in advance.
If the parenting time schedule cannot be kept due to illness or other unavailability of the children then the non-custodial parent will receive atleast XX number of overnights with the children. If necessary, the parents must coordinate makeup parenting time, which may occur in the following month if it's not possible to schedule sufficient makeup time for the month when the violation of the parenting time minimum occurred.
Both parents will have access to school, medical, dental, other healthcare, mental health, and government / law enforcement records. When only one parent has information required to access records that this parenting plan permits the other parent to access, the parent with the information must promptly supply it to the other parent.
Both parents will have access to children's bank, investment, school, phone, computer, other electronics, email, social media, messaging, and vide gaming accounts.
You will keep the children's original documents for identification and travel, including the children's birth certificates, Social Security cards, passports and ID cards. You will provide the other parent the document in reasonable time and they must be returned within 7 days of use. The other parent may not obtain or keep any reissued versions of these documents.
Both parents will share mail pertaining to children within 7 days.
Before non-emergency overnight travel, the parent will give the other parent 7 day notice, detailed itinerary, contact info, and other travelers' information.
Detail of who pays for health insurance and how medical expenses are handled. Typically, in-network expenses are shared equally and out-of-network (non-emergency) are paid by the parent requesting the service.
Childcare required due to employment is 100% the responsibility of the parent causing the disruption.
Who pays for kids' cell phones if applicable and also how are reimbursements handled.
Parents must deposit any money gifted to a child into the child's savings account. Parents must spend any gift cards gifted to a child on purchases for the child's direct benefit. Neither parent may take money from a child or a child's account, except to spend or invest for the child's direct benefit.
Both parents will pay an allowance of $XX due on the 1st of the month directly into the child's account.
Parents will alternate claiming children on tax returns and an IRS 8332 form will be provided by the parent if required.

Hope it helps

guy_n_cognito_tu · 2023-10-09T18:01:44+00:00

Trying to regulate morality in a parenting plan rarely works. Lets think about your alcohol limitation for a minute. Does that include parties and family events? Does that include restaurants? What about other people's houses? What are you going to do if a future woman in your life likes to have an occasional glass of wine?

Clauses like these survive for the duration of your parenting plan, and can't be changed without total agreement or a change in circumstances.

Reflog1791 · 2023-10-09T19:36:19+00:00

Let go of what happens at the other house. No parenting plan is going to help. What you do is build a wonderful home for your kids when they are with you so that they trust you if, God forbid, some serious (read cops, cps, or courts) issue develops you can respond appropriately.

You will waste money, brains, and time trying to orchestrate your kid’s life at the other house. Just let it go and control what you can control: your household. Fighting this or trying to cajole some fine print in the divorce paperwork is ineffective in my opinion.

Even if you had a significant other clause in the divorce, IT IS UNENFORCEABLE.

captainchippsixx · 2023-10-09T19:00:01+00:00

Definitely establish she cannot sign up kids for stuff and say gimme money. There needs to be a approval by you and receipts. You would be surprised how often the ex claims they bought something and they didn’t and you never verified it so she keeps doing it. Or inflating the cost to pad it as a tip for her.

Drop off and pickup should not be you 100%. This is a way she can pass on the time and expense to you. I did this and it really does cost you miles, gas and time in the car.

albertabest1 · 2023-10-10T07:58:14+00:00

Try using ChatGPT. Just tell it what you'd like to prevent and it will give you a good list to start with. You can then ask it to be more specific about certain things you're concerned with.

Title	Family mediation
Author	mcw33
Upvotes	6
Comments	21
Date	October 9, 2023 5:44 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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