What Does Genuine Desire Look Like?

RedRum-My-Ego · 2023-11-08T00:23:00+00:00

I don’t think it exists in a way men want it to. They don’t desire us the way that men desire and that’s really what we are all so pissed about. We aren’t wanted we are needed until we are not. We are not desired just for us we are desired for what we do and provide. Men deeply desire women. The sad thing is that most of all this subreddit is just men trying to be as desirable as what ever it is that they desire. They want to be wanted the way that they want and I just don’t think women have that. It’s what ever provides the emotional fix. Sometimes it’s a dude. Sometimes is a novel. Never does a female idolize a man the way a man idolizes women.

RP_Savage001 · 2023-11-08T05:26:50+00:00

For plates mainly this my experience:

They get on your nerves and complain about not getting enough attention, texting, want yo speak on the phone.

Suggestions of trips to places she wants to go with you. This is huge for whatever reason.

Follows your lead, will actually apologize and try to understand you.

Will come over to fuck last minute.

Just likes being with/around you, but respects boundaries(mentality healthy women)

Will pay for stuff, anticipates and does things without being asked or suggested. Gets things that you like, does what needs to be done.

Sticks around even if you say this is not monogamous or long-term, even say give yourself a chance with someone else.

Sends you meems and kisses, love bombing (past 3-6 months)

Loves your smell if even if you don't shower/use deodorant.

Wear your shirts or steals them after you've worn them.

This is just my experience since learning to hold frame for about a year. Not sure what can happen past 1yr.

Importance_Typical · 2023-11-08T07:26:41+00:00

Obsession. When a girl loves you with all her heart, she literally cant stop thinking about you. When you are together with her, she’ll do everything (and I mean EVERYTHING) she can to please you. Totally submissive and obedient. During sex, she’ll show you how much she craves your dick and wants you to fuck her endlessly. When you are away from her, she begs you to come see her because she misses you. You just know that this girl wants you so bad

byteseed · 2023-11-08T08:28:41+00:00

It is when woman looks at you with awe, admiration, you can see it in her eyes, you can feel it when you around her. It does not matter which age she is, you see a small girl in front of you, giggling, warm, full of love and affection, craving your presence, your time, your attention, your touch. You know when it happens, because it absolutely different mental state, I am not sure men can be that way, it is the essence of femininity in your presence. She trusts you completely and you can do whatever you want with her. Sometimes it is even verbalized, but it is not needed to be, you know it just by looking at her. I would say it is one of the most beautiful relationship dynamics that can happen between man and woman. It is also highly addictive. Once you expirienced genuine desire, there is no coming back: you will never want to be with someone who is not giving the same experience. It is like coming home, almost religious.

How it manifests: texts, initiating meetings, phone calls, she cooks for you, wears clothes you like, she lets your do whatever you want with her during sex, she is extremely wet in your presence, she is jealous when you speak with another woman, she makes pictures of you, she talks about you to her girlfriends, she shares with you her fantasies, past, feelings, writings, drawings, music, she eager to meet all the time, travelling huge distances even, she spends money on you, presents, concerts, she laughs from all your stupid jokes, she loves to be kissed by you, and you can feel how intensive her pleasure is when you do so, she creates future with you her head, fantasizing about you. It is almost like an obsession, very sexual, to the point she comes form your voice. She lays on your lap, she pleasures you in different ways, she takes your hand and checks out your hobbies, she learns your mother tongue. She wants to be yours. Ah yeah, she wants kids from you. My exGF bought tickets to a concert which were very expensive for a student. And she travelled to me in COVID times, (busses and trains were forbidden to cross the border, I was in another country) hiding in the truck, she draw a lot of pictures for me. My another ex learned my mother tongue just to please me and were giving me blowjobs each time we had an opportunity(lol).

This state usually does not last long, 6 month -1 year, chemicals evaporat. It is possible to maintain it, but you need to be very congruent in what you are, "holding the frame", which is hard in a long term, otherwise you can crash very hard, femininity can also mean extreme bitchiness and uncontrollable emotions if you allow it. So you need to hold it really tight.

2wo2wo3hree · 2023-11-08T01:21:57+00:00

At its prime: You can kill me if you want. (during sex)

I obviously don’t. But I periodically get her to a level of heightened bliss where she offers me her life.

At its basic: *Is there anything else I can do for you? Are you good? Are you happy? You’d tell me if there’s anything else you want right?

At low points: Wanting to… but not being disrespectful.

Look dude, all this shit ebbs and flows. You have to give it room to do that. Otherwise, you’ll want to quit at low points and be in heaven at high points. You have to be steady as it dips and rises. That steadiness brings the stability needed to push boundaries.

TheNattyJew · 2023-11-08T02:09:32+00:00

Back in my dating days I realized that any time a girl got me and her into a room so that we were alone, that good things were going to happen. That's genuine desire

IamJacksFailedRep · 2023-11-09T12:44:00+00:00

What do you want it to look like?

Like most faggots here, I've spun plates and had some girls be obsessive and/or hypersexual, with a never ending desire to suck and fuck until its exhausting. Craving your attention, bringing gifts, saying I can do anything I want to her, her being creative with her actions. As her 'desire' rises so does her neediness and expectations of attention, bright candles burn fast.

In a live in LTR can you sustain that? I don't know, I am sure her fantasy obsessive ideal of you will die at some point but the actions she did that you kept rewarding should remain.

If not then why are you with her.

businessstravel · 2023-11-08T01:07:15+00:00

I have talked about this over the years in posts and on my Substack not too long ago. The whole term 'Genuine Desire' was coined by retards in the TRP YouTube and social media space to help men become better, or some BS.

The problem being is that it doesn't exist...

Any man that has spent a decent amount of time with a woman, whether it's when dating, in a relationship, or a marriage will know this to be false. Why? Because the real world comes into play.

The whole schtick around the guys that self-promote the term 'Genuine Desire' use it in a way where your dick will constantly get blown 24/7. That's a fantasy. The idea is for you to become attractive and respectable for yourself, in which everything else (i.e. your relationship) will either fall in place or not. Either way, you are too busy living in the real world to worry about terms like this.

gtaIIIstan · 2023-11-08T02:11:22+00:00

One of the more stark examples is when an old plate of mine had her bus break down and got a $200 Uber to make it in time to meet my friends for the first time at a party. I had a lot of things happen starting in my late 20s once I got things handled that totally debunked my notion about money and women. However, it's not lost on me that soon after, I began to lose frame, and within 2 months her behavior started to flip and things soon ended.

Ragnardanneskjunior · 2023-11-08T20:41:02+00:00

When they speak and their entire body echoes what they are expressing with wrapt attention and the words come from deep in the pit of their stomach instead of the usually airy tone. It has all the makings of an alpha imprint when responded to correctly.

In my case it was a younger woman in a class that I had been teaching for awhile and the way she expressed her desire to work with me privately told me everything i needed to know in 2 seconds. She is not a plate to spin mind you, but she is a fantastically attentive and hard working student.

HornsOfApathy · 2023-11-08T10:34:05+00:00

It doesn't exist. Some cope for mens desires being projected into women.

mabden · 2023-11-08T00:28:36+00:00

Look up Doggie Dinner Bowl Look.

kvakerok · 2023-11-08T18:45:32+00:00

What the hell do you mean by "desire"?

Title	What Does Genuine Desire Look Like?
Author	BecomingABetterMan1
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Date	November 8, 2023 12:16 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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