tl;dr

  • The alpha male and Chad security blankets and means vicarious fantasy wish fullfilment of the two main pills are keeping a lot of men from being effective in their romantic lives.
  • These security blankets are just efforts to avoid mentally accepting nature on its own terms. You look at the animal kingdom and it's just this black consciousness that is practically diabolistic. A never-ending meat grinder. And you're part of it too. And that there's no escape. Schopenhauer shit.
  • Since I do divorce cases and that area of the practice is popping off because of my ability to get disclosure on an unprecedented (their reviews and comments not mine) level by understanding women (I only rep the ex wives)...I can definitely confirm that there is no escape or valhalla paradise of looks/alpha behavior/frame control where you "rise above" the sexual power imbalance.
  • If anything the nice guys fare way better than the Alpha/Chad types because the wives are less hostile toward them.
  • The guys getting fucked over, from my vantage, are disproportionately more the Alpha/Chad types. Maybe they get divorced more, I don't know.
  • The Wall seems to exert a pitiful if any real effect in real life, at least in these circumstances.
  • Just accepting the power imbalance as immutable law will make you more effective but that's for a later post.
  • Suffice it to say, that spending efforts to min-max out alpha traits or Chad traits is not the way to protect yourself.

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The only hope you have is to accept the fact that you're already dead. The sooner you accept that, the sooner you'll be able to function as a soldier is supposed to function: without mercy, without compassion, without remorse. All war depends upon it.

It's only when you can view the world for what it is that you get something better than hope: effectiveness.

You are not just your personal self-worth. You're the stereotypes and tropes people weave about you and project onto you based mostly on your phenotype, but over longer periods of time conduct too.

Your ego blocks you from self-knowledge. You have to kill it.

For me it has always been easy to do that. I've always noticed how women are, for better and worse. It's so obvious. The dynamic is easy to see. Men fight to be survived, women will be survived but fight for their survived to be the fittest.

No level of male escapes the power imbalance not one.

My practice was doing well just with other specialties, but I knew over the years I had developed unique insight into women. So I started taking on divorces. Several years back the very first client I had in this area (who gave the rave reviews and essentially opened the floodgates on what's now by far the big moneymaker of the practice--- could very well make me very wealthy in a year or three), I had the soul read almost immediately.

Pretty standard narrative: co-dependent leaving a narcissist. Victim of narcissist abuse. Dude for sure was an insane prick and did a bunch of insane shit. Which worked out great for her (I don't think I've ever topped her results as in, expectation versus reality, since).

Long story short, most people would call said dude a "Chad," super tall, very good looking, at various points had a successful near 7 figures some years business.

To do my job required full disclosure. Candid disclosure. Women come pre-packaged with varying levels of self-hatred (for whatever whoever they believe they are deep down), defense mechanisms for coping with this person, and a persona that by design leads you to believe they are not this person on multiple levels.

And you can't coax it out by appealing to authority or circumstance, i.e. 'in order to do this effectively you have to be honest with me.' You only get there with skillz.

All the bad things that people think are reserved for "betas" or "losers" or whatever the equivalent term for low quality man is...happened to this guy. In extreme ways.

  • Cheated on in humiliating ways only to have the revelation come out at key moments that combined to make them on par with Social Kombat fatality moves
  • Cuckolded (and the circumstances of the dozens of incidents were...wow)
  • Emasculated brutally and effectively
  • Neon Gaslighting like, holy shit
  • While he had affairs (with less desirable women), he still overall caught drama for it and was prohibited from other women
  • The finessing was so effective that, after she decided he did not like him getting upset and 'abusive' over the initial humiliating cheating, and so ensured her dalliances faced no such prohibition; open and notorious though they were.

Loads of other interesting stuff.

This guy I swear to Christ if you looked at him never would have thought he would have endured well over a decade and a half of marriage with this person.

I've seen many many of these same types of guys (minus the narc aspect, leaving just the high powered Chad) in the same situations. The difference is that because I am able to pick apart extremely sensitive information from the ex-wives that others can't, don't, or are unable to, I am able to completely control the narrative and anticipate anything the opposing side may say.

It might come off as a twist, but in a sense I am the part of the problem men complain about :D

Stuck in a dilemma though because low key it just may make me actually rich. And I'm really really good at it. Just straight up sending a divine Hoover from sky to earth and leaving 'em dry.

With sensitive information, social stereotypes and tropes that so easily slide together and interlock to protect women from any accountability, prideful Chad/Alpha men who do Alpha/Chad men stupid shit in response to my wife getting out of line you get a fortune.

Interestingly enough, the nice guys/beta/normal looking dudes, whatever, usually come out far better than the other type of men.

Moreover, I'd say far more of the men have been the first type than the second. I've had several women come in on the verge of leaving a schlubby nice guy but go back. I literally have never had a woman who was married to a high-powered Chad/Alpha type change her mind.

And these women all were the ones to make the choice to leave (could be a slightly biased sample due to my reputation, though). And at least at one point during the process (usually before I hit them with what I call the big guns motions that guarantee $$$) they break down and beg in some way for her back. Usually the marriages have lasted long enough that these women are mostly what you'd call post Wall.

So, just trust me that the reality of nature and the natural dynamic between men and women cannot be transcended by anyone.

Most every story you read about Alpha or Chad regarding effortless this, women approach that in hagiographic terms is incomplete. I've even heard a few of them from the women (before the deep dive) regarding their husbands, only to later discover that that was just the tip of a very big iceberg. .