So you consider yourself a smart, charming, somewhat sardonic humored man who can often understand abstract concepts but almost always misunderstood, told you are being rude and wonder why you never connect with anyone?

Instead you would rather stay at home, read a book, watch a movie, investigate an area of research or work on your screenplays. You have horrible sleeping habits, you probably take too many medications and you dislike exercise because going to the gym makes you feel tired.

This guide is for you, Introverted Analytical Man of Our Era.

Point 1: Firstly, you have to understand that we live a generation that prefers quick replies rather than long, thoughtful letters. Most likely, you would've fit in with the intellectuals of the Renaissance or the letter writing poets of the 19th and early 20th centuries. Our generation is dependent on short, often incomprehensible blurts of small-mindedness and silliness that doesn't configure with your personality. Just know that this isn't something you need to change, rather you have to think about how to attract what you are and not fight against what you aren't.

If you spend a lot of time reading books, join a book club or better yet, create your own. Chances are likely higher that you will meet a lady with a similar mindset as opposed to a dating app where people don't care about intelligence nor education. Dating apps are for people who mainly like the cheap thrill of hookup culture. It's the same people who like going to clubs and bars and or the women who hang out at hotel bars hoping to land some traveling rich guy they can get their hooks into.

Thoughtful, considerate, analytical women don't hang out in these kinds of spaces. They are like you, at home, reading a book, watching a movie, investigating an area of research and working on their screenplays.

So start your own club and invite people you like to join. Then those people will invite other similar minded people to join and chances are increasingly higher that eventually, you'll end up meeting someone through a friend of a friend of a friend of another acquaintance. That's how people meet people, connecting with others, not going to a bar or club hoping to get laid. And let's face it, you're not even interested in getting laid, because you're probably either a sapiosexual or a demisexual whose attraction builds over time and rather disgusted or even slyly amused by the savages who can't control themselves in public and need to grind and sniff on any woman wearing too much synthetic perfume.

Don't tell yourself, I have to be more outgoing and start going to clubs and put myself out on dating apps. Those things aren't you and you'll end up attracting the wrong type of attention. Focus on what you like and then expand on it.

Point 2: Start random conversations and see where it goes. Someone who approaches you and starts a conversation isn't going to bite your head off. She's probably most likely curious about you and interested in witty dialogue. If you keep thinking over and over how much of a fool you're going to make of yourself, well, you'll just sit there and do nothing, then have many regrets later. Don't do that. Just talk. Women's primary motives aren't to try to humiliate you, they're just looking for some stimulating ideas of conversation. They're not trying to find out all your secrets and then publish them on reddit lol. They just want to know more about you, and start some dialogue. Always go in with the mindset that you're out to make new friends and to learn something new. This puts the pressure off you to perform like a charming monkey doing amusing tricks for the audience. You're not being graded on how charming and witty you are, rather you're there just to find out about other people and learn something new. When you have this mindset, your entire mentality shifts, and you'll be more relaxed and open to conversation. You're not desperate to impress. Most people have the same insecurities. If you go and talk to anyone with the mindset, I'm just here to make new friends and learn something new, you'll never come off as a desperate guy trying to land a date. And if a woman doesn't like you, so what? Maybe she has friends whom you'll get on like a house on fire. Most men think if they're rejected by a woman, then because of their fragile egos, they merely ghost and stop talking to her. But the truth is, maybe she knows someone whom you will get along with and have lots of chemistry. Ask her, hey, do you know anyone you can introduce me to? So don't dismiss a woman even if she rejects you, because then you'll be starting from zero. Always make friends and always learn something new. A-list actors get turned down for roles an average of 80% of the time when they audition for roles. Founders of now iconic companies got rejected for funding 95% of the time when they were starting out. Rejection is a part of life, get used to it. It doesn't mean you're not worthy, it just means there's something better out there you have not yet discovered.

Point 3: Don't settle for mediocrity. Oh you know it, all your friends are married and settling down for whatever reason. There's family pressure, social pressure and all sorts of pressure to be coupled up. If you're single, you're perceived to be strange. But, strange is good. You're different, you're on your own journey in life, it doesn't mean you have to settle for mediocrity like everyone else. Most people are afraid to be alone, hence why they choose to be in toxic relationships or develop relationships with people who drain all their emotional energy. It's not that they like being in toxic relationships, they're just afraid of being alone and literally anyone could stand in for whomever they need to fill in that void. Every action has an intent and consequences. You could literally just tell yourself, I'm going to marry the next woman who walks in through that door, and you might just do it. But that's just playing Russian roulette with your life. Instead, think to yourself of what you actually want. Most people have no clue what they want aside from having more money and time for travel. If you ask them about their dreams, their passions, what they hope to accomplish, they say, they don't know and hence they sleepwalk through life going through the motions, focused on getting more money and time to travel. That's a boring kind of life. You need a focus and you need to do it. If you tell yourself, I'm going to be the most iconic writer of my generation, and people are going to write about me and analyze all my works for thousands of years after, that's not having a big ego. That's having a goal. Vincent van Gogh said in his letters to his brother, there will be a time when my paintings will be worth more than all the paintings in the world today. Well damn, he was right. What he predicted about himself came true. His paintings are the most expensive in the world today. You may be surrounded by mediocrity, of people telling you to get a real job and why don't you make more money etc. Just remember most people are focused on practical things like bill paying and providing for their young children. This isn't a bad thing, but you're most likely not one of those people who are good at that. You have a creative vision and you understand your own talent, but you've been beaten down by society to tell you that you're a loser unless you're a rich guy. Most rich men of today won't be remembered after they die. Don't fit a square peg into a round hole. Your talent isn't acquiring mass amounts of wealth. And honestly, you don't even like that kind of thing. You have to set an intention for yourself. Sure, you may balk at building legacies because you find it egotistical. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with being egotistical. That's how legends are made. Be an egoist.

Point 3: Your emotional states aren't neuroses. In human life, we have times when we're sad, angry, filled with anxiety and fear. That's normal. However, in our hyper mobilized society of self-diagnosing psychiatrists online, they are quick to point the finger and scream: They're a narcissist! Everyone's a narcissist! No one ever takes responsibility of their own actions these days. It's always someone else's fault. I'm depressed and sad because of my parents, my background, my ex, my childhood...it's an ever nonstop set of excuses not to take responsibility for their own selves. They are driven by what they perceive as their own neuroses. However, it is human to feel, to love, to get sad, to feel angry sometimes. Being a human is great. Having emotions is a type of strength, of energy, of inspiration, it's not a detriment to life, it's a short-cut to learning. Imagine if you saw someone kill a puppy. Wouldn't you become enraged? We as humans, have a natural instinct to protect, to love and to feel. Only a cold-blooded snake would watch on as someone kills a puppy and feel absolutely nothing, yet this is what psychiatry tells us we should do, to feel nothing, to be numbed by the human experience. We play violent video games or watch violent movies and feel nothing. They tell us to take pills to numb our emotions so that we feel nothing. If we're in a mood, they tell us we have bipolar disorder or some sort of anxiety disorder or that we suffer from whatever the DSM VII tells us we have. The fact is, having emotions is a type of strength, certainly it needs to be balanced with our analytical side, but sometimes, analytical types have more intense emotions than other people because we hide emotions so well so that they become magnified when they're finally brought to the surface. Once you develop your ability to feel with intensity, you will build more intense and stronger connections.

In conclusion, the introverted analytical man of today is often at war between his head and his heart. Society's ideals don't fit in with what you may be. You don't need to change yourself to fit into their mold, you have to embrace your own self. Once you embrace your own self, you will find the One.