Once again it is very pertinent you get to know the woman you are dealing with. This requires time and effort. Once again this is me writing for the man, who wants to take the time to get to know and date a woman (long term). A woman who will stick with him through thick or thin.

Game Says:

1)Cold approach her.

2)Dont text her except to set up a date.

3)Appear unbothered.

4)Take her out.

5)Kino, kino, and more kino to escalate.

6)If you are charming, play your cards right, push pull etc - you are in her pants! *High Five*

Reality:

1)Most woman who are self assured, would rarely says yes to cold approach. Especially where a man says "You are gorgeous/pretty/damnnnnnnnn". SET YOURSELF APART.

A friend asked me- what will it take for me to say yes to a guy who cold approaches me? I always say no, no matter who he is and what he looks like. My response:

Maybe if he comes up to me and doesn't make it about my looks? And if he says "Hey I am looking to find cool people. Someone interesting to meet, maybe date and you caught my eye. Would it be possible for us to get to know each other a little bit and see if there is something here?" - I might at this point be like you know what? Sure i'd like to get to know this man!

2)There are no rules to texting confident, strong and caring women. Text away! If you want to start small then maybe the first day - tell her "It was nice meeting you and I am excited to see where this goes. Hope you have a wonderful day". Next day onwards have smaller conversations and then overtime, escalate them to longer conversations.

3)If she is responsive, her text responses are getting longer and quicker (sometimes she could be busy but if she always laughs, jokes back you should be okay). Then ask her when is she available to go out. A lot of women might need some more time to get to know you before we place ourselves in a position to go out with a random stranger. It is not to play games or hurt your feelings. We are not "feeling comfortable". It could be our past or various other reasons. If confused, JUST ASK.

4)DO NOT APPEAR UNBOTHERED. A lot of times this is read as disinterest. She will wonder if this is something you do with various people, and on a regular basis or if you are even remotely serious about her? No one and I assure you no human wants to be number 17 on anyone's list of folks we are saying the same exact things to. You won't put up with that yourself. Do not do this others.

5)Take her out, be yourself! Talk to her like you would to any other human. If you are nervous, IT IS OKAY! She is probably nervous too. Some nervousness is good! That means both of you care enough for each other to ensure this will go well! An intelligent person understands that some places nervousness is unavoidable - such as job interviews! The best of the best loose their nerves and stutter. Many interviewers want someone polished but understand they were once being interviewed too. Going on the first or second date is similar! If it gets too obvious, joke about it and let her know that you haven't met someone so cool in a long time hence you don't want to mess this up and want to see where it leads.

6)Kino or not to Kino? Many women have gone through sexual abuse, have been harassed and unnecessarily groped by people they din't want to be touched by. Be cognizant of that. Many of us might be dying to make out with you or even go to bed with you - if we seriously like you. But would like to wait. This is where your intentions matter the most. If she starts to sense you are pouncing at her, her curiosity will be to figure out if this is the behavior pattern you have with every single girl or is she special? One of my ex's said on our first date "I want you so bad" - I immediately pulled back. But he explained as a man he is very attracted to me, but respects my decision for whenever I am ready to be physical. It's about being authentic and winning her trust.

DON'T lie to win her trust just to sleep with her. This is where you can discuss "intimacy expectations" - where does she stand : first date? 10 dates? 6 months? never? Women who might say 10 dates (random number I am throwing out), might sleep with you day two if things feel right. She wasn't giving you last minute resistance. She really likes you but wants to make sure you do too. If things seem to get awkward just say "I am sorry did I say something inappropriate?" Show her you care about her comfort and you put it first over your desire for her.

Hope this helps folks understand that each situation, person and date is different. No need to panic or memorize rules when you are with an emotionally mature caring woman. <3