Any experience with vibrators?

abudun79 · 2018-08-17T15:23:01+00:00

It's like playing a guitar. The music is in the fingers, not the instrument. Give Mark Knopfler or Angus Young a cheap guitar and they will sound like Dire Straits and AC/DC. If you give me one of their guitars it will sound like crap.

So, if you haven't "got it" a vibrator is no gurantee to make her come. But if you've got it, the brand and model make only a small difference.

But to answer your question: Try to find out if she's even open to that before you waste your money on a toy that you're not going to use on her. Since it's about her you ask, it doesn't matter what we think the best vibrator is. For the beginning, go for something that doesn't scare her and try to match the intensity of the tool to what she likes during sex. Gentle touching down there preferred? Don't by a hitachi. Does it have to be insertable? Don't go too big. I'd say start cheap and rather small than large, but not to weak in vibration, you can usually turn down and the battery will last longer.

But be careful though, a lot of girls don't like the idea of getting touched by a sex-toy that was used on another girl before, no matter much you cleaned it.

Terdmuffin · 2018-08-17T18:41:14+00:00

I had a plate that had this little remote control vib that she'd put in when we'd go out. Had a little remote the size of a key fob and id randomly turn it on. I don't think she ever got off in public from it but by the time we got back home she was more than ready to go so it made things easier from that standpoint. An alternative is a vibrating d ring too. I've always used toys as more of like a foreplay/early into the sex thing to get them going which makes it easier for them to get off than to actually directly get them off.

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-08-17T19:26:20+00:00

Does she currently use a vibrator herself to get off when she masturbates? That will tell you everything you need to know. If she does then use hers - if she doesn't then get her to do it in front of you and/or show you how she does it to herself.

If she doesn't masturbate then run, because she's either a liar or a complete sex prude.

ThatOneDrunkUncle · 2018-08-17T15:21:28+00:00

Go from penetration to clitoral stimulation with it. Tell her to close her eyes and relax, always be kissing her neck or sucking on her nipple while you're using it.

HelloSexyNerds2 · 2018-08-17T23:59:51+00:00

I use this remote with my girlfriend. It is quiet and has many settings all controlled by the phone. We have used it at parties to keep her nice and wet during the event. Also at restaurants while she is ordering. Sometimes we do the r/femaleorgasmdenial thing where I will turn it on high and tell her she is not allowed to cum. Otherwise I do the r/orgasmcontrolthing where I give her multiple forced orgasms and she has to try to remain looking normal in public. We attend fairly sexy parties so we feel free to do it at those. Sometimes I pass the control to others and make her guess who is controlling her and make her cum in front of everyone (again these are sexy parties so everyone is more than OK with it). Most of the time though I just like to keep it high enough where she is begging for more, then pull it out and fuck her after she can't take being teased more.

Also have used it long distance since we don't live together as a way of playing together.

CalvinRichland · 2018-08-17T16:35:12+00:00

Bad idea

Oceansdrive · 2018-08-17T21:24:46+00:00

The best for during sex are the small ones. Like as long as your middle finger. These fit onto the clit in various positions. Just hold it and move it around based on how she seems to like it.

Its just a nice bonus and the vibrator often makes them come quicker. Also your hand wont get tired.

Win win

light-----------dark · 2018-08-17T15:32:18+00:00

Do you want to live life always depending on a tool to accomplish an objective that you can do yourself?

Practice makes better. Use your fingers and tongue until you master it.

Title	Any experience with vibrators?
Author	chazthundergut
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	August 17, 2018 3:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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