Be Less Boring

Erd0 · 2010-09-21T13:17:47+00:00

An interesting article but the name example he gave was just... awful.

When a polititian skirts around the issue, people aren't left in suspense. They're left thinking "ffs, jst answer the question".

doriangray · 2010-09-21T16:16:21+00:00

What he was saying seemed to make sense, but every example he gave was ridiculous. A vagabond has value by asking a goofy question? You should answer "Whats you name?" with a diatribe, lest you be judged as "This average looking guy probably lives a boring life"?

When you introduce yourself to a woman, shake her hand, look into her eyes, smile and say "hey, my name is.. - and you are?" and keep holding her hand. Sexual tension. Thats all you need. I hope no one reads this article and starts boring girls to death with "my family named me after my dog"-bullshit. Less is more.

Osmonaut · 2010-09-21T12:30:15+00:00

Hm, wish the article had more examples of what might constitute using an open loop.

ihaveabu · 2010-09-21T13:57:18+00:00

Very similar to the concept of multi-threading combined with never answer a question directly.

throwaway2k7 · 2010-09-21T16:39:21+00:00

It's kind of funny that I come across this now. See, when I was a kid I always used to tell jokes on the bus, which led to some really interesting situations. Anyways, it also had a big effect on my identity at the time which was becoming a guy with a good sense of humor which just kind of ended up sticking. I remember times when I was good, capturing entire rooms with my anecdotes and times where I totally bombed, which was self reinforcing. When I was at the top I became self conscious of it, which made me do worse, which made me close off loops for fear of being caught wasting people's attention.

Anyways, I lead a pretty ridiculous life which gives me all sorts of material for storytelling but it's gotten to the point where more people tell stories about me than I tell stories about myself. Which is bad for a number of reasons because essentially it's more difficult to control my image, but that's besides the point.

What I'm getting at is this whole tension loop thing pretty much fills in the blank of why you can be totally on or off seemingly randomly with your storytelling. Adopting it consciously and using it to the point where it becomes automatic would really help in telling stories consistently. Which would help in the overall confidence and state in general, which reminds me of this other time...

2010-09-21T15:45:48+00:00

I prefer to try and keep women engaged in the conversation rather than trying to get them to listen to me go on and on. If you are interesting and can talk about something relevant to both of you, then you can interact much more.

iforgot120 · 2010-09-22T00:00:10+00:00

How do you avoid becoming "That guy who never finishes his stories"?

rmbarnes · 2010-09-21T11:13:15+00:00

Great article. Grabbing a woman's attention and keeping it early in the pickup is my sticking point at the moment. Stuff like this helps.

1800FREESEX · 2010-09-21T15:46:17+00:00

In my much younger days I was very good at faking sincerity. Worked quite well back then. I feel bad about that now.

mh1111q · 2010-09-21T21:33:19+00:00

I have a good friend, always the life of the party and successful with women, who does this all the time. He'd just be telling a story, and sometimes, without warning or pause, he'd launch into something else. Drove me nuts until I finally just tried doing it myself, when I learned

ArMcK · 2010-09-23T02:16:19+00:00

I forgot about cliffslist. Thank you for reminding me.

AverageDude · 2010-09-21T10:48:33+00:00

Got bored by so much text.

Title	Be Less Boring
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	49
Comments	32
Date	September 21, 2010 8:40 AM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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