AskReddit survey results - "Women of reddit: How often are you approached by men and how does it make you feel?"

Hi guys. Earlier today I put a post in /r/AskReddit/ titled "Women of reddit: How often are you approached by men and how does it make you feel?"

I have been carefully monitoring the results and have drawn a few generalizations which I would like to share. I think it's very important to have a firm grasp on the female experience of pickup, wouldn't you agree?

Obviously the reddit userbase skews more towards introverted/nerdy, but this is still a decent sized sample set to pull from.

• Women who are rarely hit on tend to be more appreciative of being approached and are more likely to describe it as flattering as opposed to creepy.
• However, women who are rarely hit on are much less socially calibrated and are often very awkward/nervous in the exchange.
• Attractive women are hit on on nearly a daily basis. They completely reject superficial compliments on their appearance and have many socially uncalibrated chumps and AMOGs throwing awful proposals and compliments in their general direction.
• To me this completely validates the HB numbering system with how we have to do our approaches regarding social calibration and bitch shields. So nothing new learned, but an old concept solidified.
• Many women claim to not want to be approached while running errands (e.g. day game). However when out during the day, shields are dropped big time as approaches are much less common than in bars/clubs.
• Approaches in neutral venues like cafes and bookstores seem to be quite well received.
• However, when approached by men in a bar whom they regard as "shy" or "not purely there to pick up girls" it has led to many fruitful relationships and even some marriages.
• This tells me that most regular girls don't want to feel like they're just a notch on a headboard. Try and work some of this into your approaches.
• That being said, they do almost exclusively want men who can "build up the confidence" to approach them and speak to them and take the lead. Confidence is very sexy.
• Bringing up sex in the early stages of a pickup is telling your hand a bit too early according to many of the women.
• I'm not convinced on this one yet, but I'll run more in field tests and see.
• Girls truly like it when guys can make them laugh in the early stages of an interaction.
• Girls like it even more when they feel a mutual connection over something. E.g. you read the same book or like the same sports team.
• This tells us that rapport building is critical and must be done at the earliest stages and that laughter is a great way to hook a set early
• By far the most well received openers are opinion openers and semi-direct "Hi, my name is X, what's yours?" openers.
• Direct openers "You're stunning." will likely flatter a girl with a low self-image but get you stereotyped as just another guy trying to bang an HB7, 8 or 9.
• Not a single mention of kino. This tells me that when applied properly, they don't even notice kino is happening.
• This is a very good sign IMO.
• Almost no thoughts/memories of the followup stage between initial encounter and day-2.
• This tells me that it's almost always determined whether she will call/text you back by the time you finish the interaction (attraction, comfort, rapport, close). The method you employ to follow up with her should not be so important if you do your approaches right.
• Well timed and sincere compliments on beauty have a very powerful effect. Their memory can last for years with some women.
• My initial thought is this is why direct day game is so powerful. I plan to try more of this in field soon, especially with girls who don't go to bars and clubs.
• The "I have a boyfriend" excuse is the #1 method of escaping a pickup situation. However a couple girls admit if they find a man exceptionally attractive, it's not really that big of an obstacle.
• No girls like it when you buy them drinks so stop doing it.
• Remembering girls' names is very important.
• Posture and body language are very important.
• There are a surprisingly alarming number of very nice but low-self-image-having men and women on reddit (and likely in all walks of life.) A lot of PUA is geared towards very beautiful women who get hit on a lot. However for a lot of the casual reformed AFCs here, if you can calibrate your game properly, there is an entire world of HB6s and below who are experiencing the whole 'forever alone' thing you might be going through. It's something you should give some serious thought to. For the casual sedditors, this could be a very great development for you.

What other observations and trends can you draw from the thread, seddit?

In closing, I would like to ask you all to be mindful of women and their opinions. PUAs get a horrible reputation as a bunch of misogynists and I am doing everything I can to stop it. I ask you all to do the same. Women are creatures of beauty and we should always leave them in a better place than we find them, regardless of how our interactions go.