Poor social proof on Facebook?

arefx · 2012-03-04T20:45:19+00:00

Just tell them you don't check your fb often... For some people that is the case and they only have their close friends on it... Just don't give a fuck and do you, if that's not good enough for a girl move on to another.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-03-04T21:24:58+00:00

What's the point of trying to build facebook social proof, when you could spend the effort building real social proof?

Dollywoodhogan · 2012-03-04T23:41:24+00:00

The fact that you have the balls to cold approach women more than compensates for a lack of pictures on Facebook. Just tell them you're not into Facebook, and keep slanging and banging!

Ps please make your next post a how to guide on cold approaching women.

crod242 · 2012-03-04T23:13:05+00:00

Delete your facebook or tell them you dont have one!

Edit: this will also make you unlike most men and kind of mysterious

eamonnnn · 2012-03-04T21:43:01+00:00

Wow really? Facebook social proof??? I have about 70 friends on my facebook account and the only picture I have is this. If you want social proof then delete facebook. My 'coolest' friends don't have facebook and my 'loser' friends are the ones with hundreds of facebook friends who update their status daily.

Leave the popularity contest for the teenagers dude, it just comes off as pathetic when adults have over 200 "friends" on their facebook account

2012-03-05T02:01:05+00:00

I deleted mine.

Useless.

DesignMyself · 2012-03-04T23:03:39+00:00

If you have a girl's number, I don't think you have much need to add her on facebook or worry about what she thinks of how you seem on facebook. You can stay mysterious.

I have tons of "social proof" on facebook. It's not getting me laid. Maybe, maybe it makes girls feel more comfortable with me because they see other girls are, but not much else. If you're trying to drop into social circles, facebook helps though.

Insomniac80 · 2012-03-04T22:09:16+00:00

How about avoiding the problem and just disable your account and not use Facebook? It's not unusual for people it to have Facebook accounts these days. Work on real world social proof and making friends in real life rather that on the interwebs. Good luck to you!

MetalAndDonuts · 2012-03-05T01:38:20+00:00

Unless you absolutely need it for work, etc., I recommend to delete your facebook.

2012-03-05T01:53:41+00:00

Just delete your facebook it does not make a difference.

texture · 2012-03-05T00:01:34+00:00

You don't need facebook. Just say you don't really use that shit but they can add you if they want.

2012-03-05T01:17:26+00:00

In general, the people that are out having a good time are the ones that don't have time or don't care about their Facebook social proof. If a woman doesn't like you simply because of the fact that you have little social proof on Facebook then who cares? That's shallow so move on to a girl who doesn't care.

Tha_King · 2012-03-05T03:35:47+00:00

If you think it really will my a difference to you I would delete it completely and then start over from scratch. Only add people that add value to you and just make it clear that you only recently got facebook... but I do think you are making too bid a deal about it.

maugpet · 2012-03-05T05:11:58+00:00

Just say you deleted it because it was a waste of your time.

turtlekitty30 · 2012-03-05T17:09:14+00:00

Wtf. Why are you adding girls you date to your fb page?

Secondly, who cares whether or not you aren't super active on fb. A lot of people are so busy going out and having fun that they don't think about, or care, to post pics and details about their experiences.

victorhn · 2012-03-05T06:49:27+00:00

Create fake profiles with hot girls then add them as your friends and post on your own wall with mysterious messages from their profiles. Problem solved!

2012-03-05T00:00:40+00:00

Make a new one. Delete your facebook. It doesn't mean anything unless you attribute meaning to it.

2012-03-05T00:00:52+00:00

I just have one thing to say from experience. Avoid Facebook. It just causes a shitstorm of jealousy and uncomfortable stalking. I can't count how many times I got into trouble by pictures that others post so I talked most of my friends into quitting too.

Also, you're problem wouldn't exist if you didn't use that site. Who gives a shit about how many pictures or 'friends' you have on your site. Do you still see even 10% of the people on there on a regular basis!?! Just go out, be confident and get numbers like you're supposed to son. Quitting Facebook isn't social suicide... in fact, you'll have better, more personal relationships with your friends and cut off the people that you honestly don't need.

If they ask why you don't have Facebook, tell them you don't need it, prefer more personal relationships, value your privacy, or even talk about all the shit Facebook had been doing that's been surfacing on the news.

Good luck brother.

green_marshmallow · 2012-03-05T05:50:14+00:00

Lockdown your account.

guyguides · 2012-03-05T09:01:22+00:00

make real connections with real people. that may translate to more facebook "friends" - but that pales in comparison to the real relationships you've built.

magicpicturebox · 2012-03-05T13:02:39+00:00

You live on a college campus, just show up to some parties and socialize. College-aged people are most likely eager to meet and 'explore' other people and surroundings.

2012-03-05T17:45:58+00:00

I hide everything on FB. Everyone that I know that uses FB a lot, ie professionally (social media marketing people) hide their friends on their profile, and don't let people see picture they are tagged in. I've even taken it so far as to disable my wall so no one but me can post to it. I do it for professional/career reasons, but everyone I know that is successful does the same. And if you set your page up like that, you won't be able to tell the difference from yourself or me based on FB alone.

2012-03-05T22:25:27+00:00

Add everyone.

emptyopen · 2012-03-07T15:26:33+00:00

I was just discussing this with a friend the other day, and we had pretty opposite opinions. Just an fyi, I'm a 22-year old college kid in Boston.

So I have around 800 friends on fb. You're probably like whoa there emptyopen you probably don't even talk to more than 100 of them. Friends from high school that I don't talk to anymore, friends of friends that I've gone to parties with, and even some random people that I've met once or twice and added me. Yeah, you're right. I don't talk to them. But why would I delete them? I've reconnected with old friends over facebook and been able to easily meet up with them because of the simple communication medium.

My friend constantly likes to go through their friend list and delete people that he doesn't talk to right at every moment. I didn't understand this. He told me that he doesn't want people he doesn't talk to to know what he's doing in life. Just burning bridges left and right.

TL:DR what it boiled down to is he is a person that - in real life -actively avoids talking to people he doesn't want to either become best friends with OR have sex with. I'm the kind of guy who talks to anybody.

going back to OP's post It's impossible to deny that things like facebook social proof will have an impact on girls you meet. Just like your physique, your grades in school, your paycheck, your car, and your house, the amount of facebook friends you have is an indication of the kind of person you are.

However, it's nothing more than an indication. A girl who is really into you shouldn't care how many facebook friends you have. A girl who breaks things off with you for that reason would be doing you a favor. Be who you are and don't let "poor social proof on facebook" lower your confidence.

Sorry it got long and props to you for becoming a cooler dude :)

heckz · 2012-03-08T21:15:50+00:00

put high privacy on Facebook so it just looks like you don't use it or they're not privileged to see the good stuff.

goqo · 2012-03-04T20:48:34+00:00

You can tell the next girl you find that you don't have a facebook, but you'll make one just for her. Then make a new facebook, and add her.

royisabau5 · 2012-03-04T21:14:23+00:00

Add all the suggested friends. I had this same problem and gained about 600 friends in a week. Sure, I only know ~300 and am actually friends with ~40, but it doesn't really matter. It looks like I have a life ;D

amissingchromosome · 2012-03-05T01:20:33+00:00

add random people. add a lot of girls.

Title	Poor social proof on Facebook?
Author	luciiz
Upvotes	25
Comments	54
Date	March 4, 2012 8:41 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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