How many of you guys have bagged milfs? Especially the 19-21 year old guys? Any tips?

sparxxxx · 2012-09-15T07:12:22+00:00

I don't specialize in cougars, but my buddy does and recently I asked him about it, he is 25 years old if that helps.

He gave me the following tips for bagging a cougar: 1. Go out early, cougars get grouchy by 11pm. You should be closing before 10pm. 2. Direct openers work a lot better than indirect, I hear him call older women beautiful fairly early in the conversation. To me I think it is a mistake, but he is really damn successful, so i can't hate. 3. Make them feel young. Example: I was telling him about a cougar 2 set I had worked on the previous night When they playfully said "why are you talking to us were so old" I said because you are the only chicks in here that will buy me a boat, big smirk. I thought it was a good line when I told him about it he thought it was garbage because he thought I made them feel old. He would have said look around the bar it is obvious why I'm talking to you, your the hottest girls in here. 4. Last go for kino as quick as possible, show her she doesn't intimidate you

Good luck man let's use this advice and swap cougar stories soon.

sparklyteenvampire · 2012-09-15T07:47:27+00:00

Sparxxx's advice is great; also, they will ALWAYS shit test you about their age. Have a response ready and waiting:

"How old are you?" "I'm twelve, actually. Don't tell anyone, I think they bought my fake ID"

"You're too young for me" "I know, I'm like a helpless little lamb. You aren't the big bad wolf, are you?"

"I'm too old for you" "No, you're supposed to say you're too hot for me. Omg, haven't you ever played this game before?" (eyeroll)

Finally, her friends are much more important than usual. She doesn't want to get shit from them for fucking the college kid. Charm her friends as much as possible, and isolate as soon as you can. And find her an excuse not to go home with them.

Good luck.

Ginntonic13 · 2012-09-15T14:53:36+00:00

Watch out for spanks, and pantyhose underneath pants. I never new how much fat they contained.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-09-15T13:27:41+00:00

When I was about 22, I was living with a hot blonde cougar about 40 years old, my first LTGF. We lived together for years, she was sexually insatiable. I think our record was 8 times in one day.

Older women are not like young girls who like to play games. They know what they want and are pretty direct about it. I remember when I realized the cougar was into me, I pulled her into me, kissed her and squeezed her butt and it was on.

One general tip about the age, it's a generally accepted way to deal with the age question is as a shit test. She asks "how old are you?" and you respond with "I'm too young for you." Do not say, "you're too old for me." It's a subtle difference, but if you say she's too old, you're saying you're not interested; if you're too young, you've disqualified yourself and now you're a challenge for her.

Geckel · 2012-09-15T14:17:39+00:00

Nailed my 40yr old Massage Therapist, who happens to also be a yoga instructor. I'm 23. We met in a first aid class.

Played it very, very straightforward. Moved her into the recovery position and heard her sigh. So when I put a sling on her, I approached from behind and moved up against her bum. I got her number for a massage. When I asked her to get a drink, she just told me she had her pajamas on and that I should come over for a drink instead.

Showed up, listened to her stories, told some of my more reckless ones. She asked me what I was doing with an older woman like her, I told her I still had a lot to learn (or some other equally shitty but direct line).

After sex we talked about my game. She told me she felt me when I moved up behind her in class. She also told me I should have been more direct. Instead of asking for a drink I should have just told her that I wanted to "come over and party". I took that advice with a grain of salt as, in my experience, women don't usually know or can admit what they actually want.

Anyway, it was a good learning experience. Confidence goes a long way with older girls. Much more so than vulnerability.

nobody2000 · 2012-09-15T17:46:50+00:00

Warning - long post, I'll try to tl;dr it up in the end nicely.

I bagged a cougar when I was 20 (she was 42, no kids). My buddy bagged his boss - a 33 year old "Milf" (we never saw her - only the messages, and he refused to show a picture, so we figured that the "ILF" part was subjective...)

My backstory: The cougar I banged was actually a college professor who was doing a summer program with a small class doing research. The people who were of age (and me with a Fake ID) would go out on Tuesday and Thursday nights, and hang. I was a great student who put a ton of effort into all I did and even improved our methodology when we ran out of diluent (a special detergent used in the process of looking at the brain sections we were testing).

My buddy worked at a Michael's craft store in the framing department. He was the only young male that worked at a store full of crazy women and 1-2 old timers who knew a great deal about working with wood.

Some things:

Both my buddy and me got laid in moments of desperation for the woman. My professor had formally begun the separation process with her husband the week prior. My buddy's boss had some step children older than my buddy, and her own kids were about 8-9. Her husband was super detached and sexually blah. We both were great listeners and took time to listen to the problems with the failing marriages.
We both were in situations where we commanded expertise. In my situation, I took to my professor's passion like a duck to water. I memorized the process and when it seemed like we'd have to close down for a few days, I rationalized an alternative, and saved the day. I was eager to learn, and despite me just being an almost-Junior in college, I managed to discuss things with her on a higher level. I was also the first to show up for things, and talked to her very confidently about my skills in biology and immunohistochemistry. As for my buddy, it seems like it helped he looks like John Mayer, and he was able to work in the framing department doing a job that few could do at that store.
We both started the innuendos early, and communicated that we were sexual beasts, and we were interested. I was already comfortable talking with my professor, so at the bar, even in front of everyone, I cozied up to her and casually talked, touched, and joked with her. It was clear very quickly that something was going to happen. I can't speak for my buddy, but I know that he accidentally sent a sexual text to his boss and they both rolled with it.
My only mistake was moving slowly, but my professor filled in the gaps where I fell short. We were having a good time in my dorm room, and then everyone left. I knew my buddy would be back, but then again I wasn't sure. She suggested we go for a walk, and then eventually I was going to bring her to a park bench by the lake. Before we got there, she asked ME for a kiss. I can't speak for my buddy other that his boss drove 200 miles to arrange for a hotel room for the 2 of them.
Eventually the night ended with heavy petting with my professor and I. We sobered up and then the 'oh shit' moment hit me that I still had to show up to the small research class. After an awkward class, I manned up, called her up and left a message. I had to be very careful because even though I knew she was separated, I didn't want to fuck up anything. I left her a message that probably wasn't very well disguised, but it was clear. She called me back and we hung out more.
We had a fling, and hid it from the class (2 of my friends/classmates knew). We had a very sexually satisfying relationship and then ended it. I think some of the other professors knew, but didn't say anything. It was an interesting summer to say the least.

The Key Takeaways from this situation are:

Cougars/MILFs want to recapture some part of their youth they feel they've lost. Whether it was due to having kids too early, or simply the wrath of father time - they want to feel sexy with someone who is sexy.
Cougars/MILFs can be highly defensive, or they can be like shooting fish in a barrel. After my experience with my professor, I gained a taste for older women. I learned from being rejected online and in person that many single, older women are conscious about who they date, and even those who seek only a sexual relationship are worried about the appropriateness of dating someone half their age. One quipped that I was younger than their daughter... Only now that I'm aware of some of the major points of seduction, I can put into perspective where I went wrong with them, and right with my professor.
The same rules apply to older women that apply to women in their 20s, but I've found that they're more drawn to passion and intellect. A 20-something might look at your passion and call you a nerd - someone older, or with kids looks at most passions as Passion. Your weird collection is actually not so weird because you talk about it with passion.
You still have to portray yourself as interesting and sexual. These are women who HAVE been burned in some way - they're more experienced. While a "cub's youth" is a major bonus, they still don't want to just give it up for some uninteresting schmuck.

TL;DR - My buddy and I each banged a different cougar/milf. We were great listeners, portrayed ourselves as confident, sexual, and interesting. Discussing my passions made me super attractive, and most of all, my buddy didn't remind his MILF of her kids/stepkids. Otherwise, most of the same rules apply.

(oh funny story - my buddy's MILF gave him her stepson's handmedowns)

mcsrafc · 2012-09-15T18:53:47+00:00

I'm 22 and ended up in bed with a 39 year old last Monday. To be honest, I'm still trying to figure out a bit what exactly happened...

I guess the main thing is to make them have a good time. Enjoy yourself, but make sure they're having a blast as well. In a way you want them to feel young again, while on the other hand you don't really want to bring up age. The age gap is obvious enough, no need to talk about.

Looking at other posts I get two other big points, being direct works. I guess this was the case for me as well. The other point is going out early, ditto for me.

Good luck, and more importantly, have fun!

justthrowmeout · 2012-09-15T22:27:23+00:00

You'll have the rest of your lives to shag old women after 35. Go for the young hot ones now while you can.

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locotx · 2012-09-15T16:08:22+00:00

Somewhere down the line, lean down to her ear, get close and tell her "..I really like you and wanna have fun with you" then lean back drop a BigSmile and take a sip of your drink. . . I know it sounds cheezy, but its indirect enough so it's not rude or disresepctful . . if she wants to fuck she'll know that's what "have fun" means, if she doesn't want to she'll say some shit like "we are having fun!" and that's your cue to move on . . or if she says "What do you mean by fun?" . .and that line gets answered with "whatever you want"

Funkyfookarate · 2012-09-15T12:11:34+00:00

Once you've gotten somewhere, the last wall you'll have to break when your going in is " I dunno you're too young for me" or any other common way of saying OMG our ages are too different. Its a big shit test that makes guys clam-up when going for the Milfs.

ps, You'll have lots of fun. Age=Experience.

ThrowawaySweden · 2012-09-15T13:35:39+00:00

I got a 34 year old when I was 19. It wasn't that much different actually, I approached, isolated her, then bounced with her and her friend and my friends to another place and then bounced back to her place. Pretty straight forward.

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Jimbodogg · 2012-09-15T09:40:09+00:00

Bagged a milf at 21. Although she was my age ;) lol

2012-09-15T09:43:31+00:00

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Title	How many of you guys have bagged milfs? Especially the 19-21 year old guys? Any tips?
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Date	September 15, 2012 6:13 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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