Is there a /r/seduction for girls???

paulgualtieri · 2012-10-24T01:28:36+00:00

After going out to the bars with several female friends over time (and going out all the time myself), here's some concrete shit you can do:

Go out with one friend. Many guys are intimidated by big groups of girls. Make the friend a girl, so people don't think you're together. Alone is even better, if you don't mind doing that. I always approach a girl who is unoccupied first.
Don't get into too intense of conversations with your friend. Look around plenty. Have periods of silence. Girls in super intense conversations don't get approached.
Look hot, obviously. Men are visual. But this is no panacea. And yes, showing skin never hurts.
Approach guys. You have an advantage over precisely 99.5% of girls if you do this. Well, most girls at least. :) Even if the girl is way better looking than you! That's the thing. I go out all the time, look pretty good (6'1"/170, lots of lean muscle, white, etc.) and a girl virtually never speaks to me first. I'd say maybe 1 out of every 20 times I go out, or 1/10 at most. I have to do all the work. Any girl that comes up to me first has given herself an advantage over almost anyone else. I try to convince my female friends to do this, but they never do.
As someone else said, smile and keep your phone in your pocket. Girls furiously texting don't get approached much.
Wear a conversation starter. I kid you not, I've sometimes literally chosen a different girl to approach because the one I saw first had nothing on her that stood out for me to comment on and strike up a convo. Big, unusual earrings, a big necklace, something. it's called "peacocking." Works for women even better than men, I'd say.
If you just want sex, be easy. Be very easy. Again, you give yourself an advantage over most girls if you do that.
If you want something more than just sex, don't assume you can't get it at a bar. Have a nice conversation, maybe even kiss if the mood strikes you, and give the guy your number. He can take you out on a proper date just as easily having met you at a bar as if he had met you through your grandma, if he likes you enough.

Anything else, feel free to ask.

I write this cuz I find it amazing that I've gone out with those girls, decent looking girls too, and they stand around ALL night repeatedly...looking pretty, and not a single guy approaches in hours. This has to stop.

TofuTofu · 2012-10-24T01:10:44+00:00

/r/fpua exists but is pretty sparse. Honestly, most of the advice here applies almost equally to women with a bit more focus on outward appearance and learning how to appear welcoming (pro-tip: smile and put the cell phone down).

Neutr4lNumb3r · 2012-10-24T16:04:34+00:00

I'm going to say that most men never had a girl try to pick them up. You'll be setting yourself apart by doing so that's for sure.

2012-10-24T05:48:21+00:00

Say hi, smile, quit texting, just make it very obvious that you're interested.

Rainymood_XI · 2012-10-24T11:22:55+00:00

[Insert offensive 'just spread your legs' joke here]

SnowRidin · 2012-10-24T14:47:01+00:00

One of the best things you can do to grab some attention for yourself from your man of choice is simply to get next to him at the bar, make sure he knows your there, when your about to order, look over at him "what do you want." I had a girl do this to me, actually twice & it was really different & sends out the message of "hey, come talk to me stupid." It'll work.

YessingtoHard · 2012-10-24T16:09:20+00:00

Yeah and this is it:

Be attractive, wait for guys to come to you

done.

Brodellsky · 2012-10-24T19:38:03+00:00

Yes, it's called /r/gonewild.

TheDisillusionist · 2012-10-25T02:03:26+00:00

/r/everyonealreadywantstofuckyou

Knight_of_Malta · 2012-10-24T14:04:32+00:00

/r/mensrights

Ah I jest. That is a loaded topic.

Pickup is the exact same if the genders are reversed. Get over your approach anxiety, work on state control, do kino escalation. Luckily you shouldn't have any resistance, if anything you will end up with way more numbers that you will know what to do with.

Also beware that this will blow other girls' childish attention games OUT OF THE FUCKING WATER. And they will resent you for that. A lot.

The most important thing you can do is put your cellphone away and not touch it at all. Girls looking at phones, and yes, even holding them is so fucking annoying and disparaging. Don't do it. Leave it in the car if you can't help yourself.

bubblybooble · 2012-10-27T18:17:16+00:00

Just proposition. You're a girl. That's all it takes.

crbiker · 2012-10-24T01:08:29+00:00

/r/gonewild

misterzd · 2012-10-24T12:13:08+00:00

Just approach. Times have changed lady, time to man up and hit on guys you find promising. Just walk over, say hi I am anon, and you are ? or something like that. Keep it simple and smile.

I swear there wouldn't be need for all this PUA drama and trickery if women also kept it simple and approached guys they fancied instead of just standing there like a douche expecting others to do all the work.

Sorry rant over.

2012-10-24T01:00:36+00:00

I don't know if there is one, but I do know that most of the tips here that are guy oriented will work for women (with a slight modification) pursuing men who see them as equals.

lBLOPl · 2012-10-24T06:45:02+00:00

I found this same question (hunting) in the sidebar. So, reference for you :D

adviceneed · 2012-10-24T02:48:46+00:00

you're already a girl.. what more do you want??

2012-10-24T11:20:06+00:00

Here we go again. I think there is info over this in the side bar.

Title	Is there a /r/seduction for girls???
Author	bored-collegestudent
Upvotes	27
Comments	63
Date	October 23, 2012 11:55 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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