A little something I use on female friends and ex's. Might work for you.

itsmevichet · 2012-11-30T15:34:08+00:00

This is kind of how I carry myself. Women can sniff out a guy's casual attitude towards sex. The fun ones (in my opinion) stick around.

There's the caveat, though - if you don't have a lot of social proof going for you wherever you are, you absolutely have to have a good sense of humor to pull this off. Being casual about sex with girls you just met CAN work, and can work swimmingly, but they have to believe you. Humor, for whatever reason, helps build people's trust in you.

OP, even better news for you - keep doing this and your pay-offs will escalate over time. Also, you can work on building a good sexual reputation within your social circle as the guy who is good for a casual bang - especially if you've got your shit down in bed. Women talk, and certain opinions about your prowess will open doors for you. Believe me on that one.

Problem is, for any guy who isn't getting enough sex, there's no way he can treat sex casually. This, in my opinion, is why guys who are in relationships seem so much more sexually attractive when they're off the market - they're getting laid regularly, so sex isn't as insanely valuable to them as it was when they weren't getting laid regularly.

NotSpartacus · 2012-12-01T00:07:31+00:00

My barista always does this and it makes me think of him in a sexual way, which i enjoy. But i don't know if he's trying to sleep with me or just joking around. He has only alluded to him and I having sex a couple of times. He typically says something more discreet for example today he mentioned that when he is talking to people they always glance at his package, even men because the package is the epicenter of the body. I looked at his package right after he mentioned it. I guess it's a good thing for men that i don't know if he wants to sleep with me, it keeps me interested and eager to know what his intentions are. Personally I rather him continue with the joking and sexual puns but eventually do something about it or i'll lose interest. But the joking might also prompt me to say initiate something. This is a good tactic for getting women to think of you sexually but like you mentioned this would only work on women who like to joke around and are comfortable talking about sex.
I like suggestive things or something that i can counter. If a guy told me "I'm going to fuck you" I would laugh and respond with a light rejection. "have you ever had your back door smashed in? You wanna?" that's funny and sexy i can see that working on a girl

straponheart · 2012-11-30T20:58:52+00:00

-if any girl moans about bad sex I say 'you ain't met thumper yet have you? And look at my cock.

Haaaahahaha. Hahahahahaa! HAHAHAHA...

Oh... you're being serious? Yikes.

inspector_lee · 2012-12-01T01:48:17+00:00

I see how this communicates two things Mark Manson talks about in Models:

You see the women as sexual beings. Women want to be desired.
You are non-needy. You are comfortable with your sexuality and aren't afraid to say it.

It makes sense. Before, I didn't fully understand how to show desire but in a non-needy way at the same time. Your examples show one way it works.

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theonly764hero · 2012-11-30T20:42:22+00:00

Until you get it in with any of these chicks I would consider this just having fun with a girl. Most guys that joke about sex are joking because they don't get any and they feel if they joke about it they won't be rejected because they have the joke aspect of it as a fallback. It is too easy, not risky, and doesn't require much boldness which doesn't really translate well into attraction. Some of the stuff you said can be classified as flirting and isn't bad. but joking about fucking doesn't get any brownie points

fraGgulty · 2012-12-01T06:17:14+00:00

If you can't fuck em, fuck em.

sexypirates · 2012-11-30T22:01:04+00:00

Is it just me, or did I just witness the realization that cocky & funny works?

Again, isn't really what you say, but how you say it. I'm glad you realized that while this is great for ramping up attraction, home runs take a little more work than that. Anyways, happy to see that learning has occured. Keep up the good work.

OrangeJuice123 · 2012-11-30T21:36:31+00:00

This actually worked for me recently!

Alec105 · 2012-12-01T07:09:27+00:00

Rafi? Is that you?

SenorSpicyBeans · 2012-12-01T11:00:21+00:00

These are the kinds of lines constantly delivered by one guy I know.

Every mutual lady friend of ours constantly tells me what a creeper and a prick he is, and how they wish he'd stop.

Seriously, this is really bad advice, and only perpetuates the 'men don't give a fuck about anything but sex' bullshit.

captshady · 2012-11-30T20:10:16+00:00

I do this as well, but I love turning that shit around on them, and accusing them of trying tactics to get me to sleep with them. Any time they do something nice for me, I tell them they're just trying to get some, or just an excuse to come by and look at my ass, what have you. Now, many of the female friends will throw that in.

Just the other day, a bunch of us were hanging out, and one girl, who bought some cookie dough from my son, gave me the cash for it, and said, "You were fabulous, you're now my favorite gigolo."

positrino · 2012-11-30T14:18:26+00:00

Actually, I think this is a great idea and I use that sort of thing all the time.

shitsfuckedupalot · 2012-12-01T01:33:45+00:00

I think this is kind of shit advice(no offense), and I think I can one up you. Rather then hitting on the hottest girl in a group, always go for her friend. Woman thrive off being jealous of their friends, and the more you can play off that the better you are.

irvinestrangler · 2012-11-30T20:48:18+00:00

I like this. This is how I try to carry myself too. Works great.

Title	A little something I use on female friends and ex's. Might work for you.
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