okay, I kissed the girl. then what?

Tortfeasor55 · 2013-05-05T01:17:07+00:00

kiss --> sexy kiss --> touchy touchy --> remove clothes --> more touchy touchy --> wet touchy touchy --> dock the rocket --> cleanup

royisabau5 · 2013-05-05T03:31:55+00:00

AlwaysLateToThreads · 2013-05-05T01:16:22+00:00

Tell her to come over to watch a movie. This is code for I want to have sex with you. Watch the movie, have a TV set up conveniently so the best place to watch the movie is in your bed. Ask her if she would like for you to make her a drink. Alcohol is the best wingman. During the movie, hold her, try kissing her again. Make out, and touch her and gauge her reaction. Depending on her reaction escalate or decelerate. Make sure you also have condoms on hand.

Basically at this point, you want her to know that you desire her and are willing to initiate sex. Even if she says no she now knows you're willing to initiate sex. To put it bluntly, if you don't show her you're willing to take initiative she'll think you're a bitch.

DancesWithCanoes · 2013-05-05T05:40:43+00:00

Put your hands everywhere till you get stopped. If you don't get stopped keep going

jdb050 · 2013-05-05T01:24:07+00:00

Invite her over for the 1on1 sesh.

Your hands are the leaders of pretty much all physical escalation.

You have many, many options...

A.) rub her outside of her clothes B.) squeeze her ass C.) go on an adventure in her pants D.) go on an adventure inside of her shirt E.) take clothes off F.) take more clothes off

Or,

G.) don't do anything, have an adventure inside of your own pants... Not quite as fun.

After clothes are off, it's pretty easy to move the interaction in the direction of putting your penis inside of the vagina and doing the sex stuffs.

My anxiety usually peaks at the part where I know I should be making the move for the kiss, and completely fades after I get it. Once you've gotten that far it's pretty easy to close.

Willem20 · 2013-05-05T01:24:53+00:00

Despite all the 'funny' trolls here, what point do you mean? Directly after you've kissed her or 'the day after'?

After you kissed her: keep dancing or w/e, hold eye contact, smile and you may kiss her again.

The day after: If you got her number, set up a date. Like watching a movie or something, I don't care, find something.

It's not that hard bro

bl1y · 2013-05-05T03:43:13+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tXB5gmL-HD0

2013-05-05T06:51:13+00:00

give her a prize

it's your penis

Orcatype · 2013-05-05T01:13:24+00:00

Stick... stick your penis in it...

I'm sorry, I don't have a real answer. It seems to be natural progression and I never know what it is exactly that I do.

LavenderCactus · 2013-05-05T06:12:03+00:00

So, you kissed the girl?

Ethical-mustard · 2013-05-05T04:38:31+00:00

did you like it?

sagelydrunk_sedditor · 2013-05-05T05:17:51+00:00

Escalating is always about ramping up the intensity, not necessarily about proceeding on a linear progression of more intimate physicality.

You don't have to touch a boob or grab an ass even, just start transitioning towards taking command physically. If you don't have the context to get clothes off just bring her body into yours dominantly. Press yourself into her, if she feels like you want her intensely her mood will escalate naturally.

Your physicality is an extension of your desire, let that desire dictate your actions and stop filtering or suppressing it because you're not sure what the next 'right' move is.

derekscurveball · 2013-05-05T01:51:11+00:00

Grab her boob.

Headhongular · 2013-05-05T14:19:09+00:00

Don't put it in your head that you have to have sex by the third date. It completely depends on the girl, I've had sex on the first date and I've had sex after 5+ dates, so stick with when you feel like it xD

To answer your actual question, don't try and escalate too quickly, also you want to get her to say no, you want to have her pull your hands away, push the comfort zone. Kiss her and start feeling her lower back/legs area, sometimes I even go with both hands to these areas. Then keep escalating to ass/breasts, try to get her to say no, but don't be disrespectful. Once she pulls your hands away, just kind of laugh it off, smile and just cuddle for a bit, continue talking and then move in for the kiss again, this time you know where she will say no, so build up to it very slowly and sensually with one hand, the other hand should move up to the neck/hair area. Start by running your hands through her hair and then pull it slightly, angle her head so you can start kissing her neck and or nibbling on her ear, be aware of piercings though xD. Once you are kissing the neck area/slightly pulling the hair, the other hand can start feeling her up (tits ass w/e). Once again you are trying to find where she says no. If you get stuck on the same spot for a couple tries, usually hand to vag, just stop, wait a long time have a nice talk cuddle casually make out and maybe after awhile try again, but is time kind of mess with her, I'll hold both her hands down with my one hand and then kind if tease her, she uses her legs I use mine, but just tease, when she wants you to have it she will let you. Until then your job is to make her say no, you're the man after all.

TL;DR get her to say no, then reset build up to it slower and try again.

unmystery · 2013-05-05T18:02:45+00:00

This is what I do:

When we are in my place we go to the living room and talk a little about random stuff then after some time I tell her that I want to show her some funny videos in my room TV, so we go and I turn on my Apple TV and go to my YouTube favorites where I already have some preselected videos, we sit on the edge of my bed in front of the TV as I show her some videos, then after some time I show her some music videos and then I make my move, I just start to kiss her and we go from the sit position to a lay position, the movement feels very natural so it isn't awkard, as we start kissing then we go touching and then I start to kiss her neck as I remove her top, then I remove my shoes, actually removing the shoes is the critical time when you know if she wants to do it, if she remove her shoes too then you are in the game! removing everything else should feel natural and never stop kissing her as she removes her clothes.

I hope this help you.

Ben_KickassAcademy · 2013-05-06T01:07:55+00:00

DIRTY TALK - discovering how to do this right was life changing for me

2013-05-06T17:00:04+00:00

This is what you need.

Concealus · 2013-05-07T22:27:59+00:00

There's a huge guide in the sidebar which might help you ! But, invite her over to watch a 'movie'. That's always codeword for hookup. After she gets there, turn on a film, and escalate from there, let your hands wander, and don't be afraid to escalate. Do what YOU want! That shows sexual confidence, and girls really dig that.

maxavien · 2013-05-08T15:18:11+00:00

Part of the fun is not knowing!

RoboPimp · 2013-05-05T13:53:06+00:00

Put ur dick in her

PrinceofSpades · 2013-05-05T05:36:35+00:00

Insert DiCarlo Escalation Ladder link here.

Title	okay, I kissed the girl. then what?
Author	gofigureitoutokay
Upvotes	102
Comments	71
Date	May 5, 2013 12:59 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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