A Deeper Look Into Body Language

CognitiveExplorer · 2013-05-11T14:06:40+00:00

Just wait until you read more and more on it and spend tons of time watching people. It gets pretty awesome what you can see. It also becomes a game you can play with girls. In addition, you can see things that even they don't realize is happening and this makes for great playful teasing.

I would also suggest adding "what everyBODY is saying". It is a great book written by a former CIA operative who needed to be amazing in order to survive.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0061438294/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1368287612&sr=8-1&pi=SL75

Edited to reflect correct title name and include amazon link.

Kardlonoc · 2013-05-12T00:26:21+00:00

A couple observations about body language:

Anyone with at least a morticum of success knows about body language. You step into a room of businessmen I guarantee none of them are going to be looking into the ground or holding their arm. This isn't a just a PUA thing, this is a real life skill you apply everywhere. Being aware of your own body language and others is a huge advantage over people you don't know it and people who do.

Something body language often doesn't talk about is where a person is in the room. It says a lot if a person is by their lonesome in the corner, near the door or in the middle of the room talking to everyone.

Body language indeed, turns any normal conversation into a game. If you are just getting into the whole PUA and have poor social skills, learn about body language and turn it into a game.

fysreddit · 2013-05-11T15:06:23+00:00

I do believe in this body language thing, it does work to a certain degree, but it's not an over night makeover, and in order to keep it up, you have to work hard at it. Either you need to study study study and practice practice practice (essentially learn how to be an actor) or work even harder and longer and actually become that person with the desired body language so that you no longer need to think about it, you just do it. Anybody can learn it and apply it when going to a club but even if you are doing it right, you have to be able to keep it up, and you get tired after a while. And women are masters at reading body language so if you're not good at it, they're going to know if you're a fake. And you have to be rock solid in your interactions because if she throws shit tests at you, even if you respond gracefully with your words, there's still a lot going on that you can't see that are obvious to her, such as your posture and facial expression.

Furthermore, just because there is a long list of "tells" that a woman gives out when she's interested, it doesn't always mean she's interested in you. If you're talking to her and you notice her pupils are dilated, it could just be because the lighting is dim. And vice versa. And if she flicks or twirls her hair, maybe it's because it's in her face, or she's interested in another guy in the room. But if you're the strong confident guy, you won't care about all that, you'll just go in and either attract her or crash and burn. And if you get rejected, your body language won't change when you walk away, your mind won't be racing about how you fucked up and that you're a loser for even thinking about approaching her, you'll be clear, confident and sure of yourself, and you'll have forgotten about all that by the time you see the next girl watching your dominant walk.

Personally, I would rather invest in the time and effort to change myself, work on my inner game rather than practice confident body language and learn how to read others, and learn off the shelf routines, approaches, openers, walk in on an angle, wear ridiculous pea-cocking attire. It's such a stressful thing to go out in the field and pretend that you're something you're not, or even worse, believe that you're something you're not. I think that could very well be the definition of a douche bag.

le_snake13 · 2013-05-11T18:17:20+00:00

Dr Paul Ekman has many books and documents on this. Was really a trailblazer in this type of thing.

Bawlin_Cawlin · 2013-05-11T15:00:59+00:00

Isn't it great!?! I keep telling everyone at fPUA to read up on body language. I'm glad it's working for you! (I x-posted this over there as a testimony, I hope you don't mind!)

QQ_L2P · 2013-05-12T09:37:14+00:00

I pulled up this link last night and was about to watch it when my friend came it. We chatted for a bit then I mentioned I was about to watch a video. When the page opened, before I'd even clicked the play button, he started crying. I was like... dude, wtf? It turns out he'd seen this video before and a few other TED talk by Brene Brown link1, link2. These video's helped him get through a really difficult time in his life and the original video (the one OP posted) about body language helped him regain some of his confidence. Definitely worth the time to watch.

2013-05-12T23:58:25+00:00

Just bought both books for my kindle. Thanks.

2013-05-11T15:00:03+00:00

lol body language and vocal tone are the easiest ways to figure out what someones thinking. if you wanna get really good at reading people then spend more time people watching. me and my friend used to play a game when were were bored where we would sit in the middle of the quad on his college campus and try to figure out what people were talking about on the other side of the field, based only on interpretting their body language and facial expressions. eventually we started asking our friends what they were actually talking about when we got done guessing, taught me a lot about reading people and remembering key points of their personal life that may be weighing heavily on their mind

Butternife · 2013-05-11T18:42:12+00:00

Her mouth is really dry. Just saying

ysef95 · 2013-05-11T20:32:15+00:00

I dunno seddit always explained the importance of body language and NVC i like yourself have done my own research into it and it is super fun to read people with a girl. Sidenote i usually lie about what i study to be something along the lines of "cetecean behavioural specialist" (dolphin trainer) and then i work in how dolphins are just like people and talk about body language, then phsychology, run the cube etc

frogma · 2013-05-11T23:12:05+00:00

I'm personally not a believer in faking body language. It's all well and good practicing now and then, but when shit hits the fan, your natural self will shine through.

It is useful to know however. It makes people easier to read. Some days if I'm feeling very aggressive or angry, I can actually catch myself standing hands on hips, legs apart. So it can even be useful in identifying how you feel yourself.

RunningWithTheNight · 2013-05-12T01:52:09+00:00

Wait, so is the book the "Definitive Book of Body Language" or is it "what everyBODY is saying?" These are 2 different books.

DeeKan · 2013-05-12T10:51:36+00:00

Just bought it, very interesting read. Thanks OP!

2013-05-11T14:59:48+00:00

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alienscape · 2013-05-11T20:37:07+00:00

i swear is seddit ever going to get past body language, aa, kino, and escalating???!!!!

THESE ARE BASICS AND FUNDEMENTALS THAT ARENT THAT IMPORTANT DEVELOP POLARITY YOU ARE ENOUGH

PillowMonster · 2013-05-11T17:10:55+00:00

Commenting for a reminder.

Thagros · 2013-05-11T23:25:14+00:00

Mehh, just stand up straight, move a little slower, use effective eye contact, smile charmingly, and don't hold your arms like this. Then you're fine.

adarkwindblows · 2013-05-12T01:46:53+00:00

Sweet

Title	A Deeper Look Into Body Language
Author	Bawlin_Cawlin
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Date	May 11, 2013 1:02 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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