At the mid-way point of the Above The Game kickstarter campaign... AMA about the book, girls, whatever!

thrownfurther · 2013-06-08T15:27:26+00:00

About the book:

What is the online dating chapter going to include? Are you consulting others on it, or are you an expert at that as well?
When will the book be ready - for people who went for the advanced copy and those who didn't?
What exactly am I missing out on by not paying anything?

About girls/practical matters:

Could you comment on the Mark Manson concept of showing vulnerability? What does it mean to you and are you going to be harping on about it in your book?
Can I be honest that I'm still a virgin with girls or does that hurt my chances too much?

TofuTofu · 2013-06-08T15:49:31+00:00

Any advice for people who just want to build up a new network, (girls and guys), like for someone who is new to a city with 0 friends.

AwayFishing · 2013-06-08T15:31:04+00:00

Another user on r/seduction claimed that you are overweight. Do you feel that being overweight hinders you significantly in obtaining a lay, or a long time relationship?

Additionally, do you ever see yourself being in a long-term relationship and settling down? How will you know when the time is right?

lapuma · 2013-06-08T15:37:47+00:00

I really like the fact that every single post in the above the game series on /r/seduction has action items attached to it.

Will that be a regular occurrence for the different chapters/sub-sections of the book? That is probably the most useful part of the ATG posts so far, since reading the content is one thing, but going out and having a goal to practice is a whole different story

Xplicitable · 2013-06-08T15:15:07+00:00

What have you got planned after Above the Game?

ASDDASDQWE · 2013-06-08T17:25:42+00:00

Hey. Got a few questions. First of all, I'm a teenager (17 later this year) and I live in europe(Got no car and can't go to clubs/bars before I'm 18) I asked out a girl recently and we decided to meet in a few days (We haven't decided what we are going to do, just the time) and this will be my first date ever.

What would you say is the best place to go for a first date? Since we (normally) can't get into a bar/club. Is taking her out for coffee (or something similar) good?
I'm from a small town and I know pretty much no places where I can take a girl out on a date in the closest city. (Except the cinema and that will not work if you don't know eachother) Is it a good tactic to meet her somewhere in downtown and then just wander around for some time until you find something intresting? (Like a cafe, concert, something)
Is there anything I can do to stop me from overthinking stuff? I usually think way too much about upcoming "new"/important stuff and end up getting very nervous.

TofuTofu · 2013-06-08T17:32:26+00:00

Has the human centipede opener worked yet? (In my experience its still a no)

What do you do when you lose the game and find yourself in a committed relationship with a girl you actually care about? I'm going through this now and it just feels weird to me having someone after being by myself for so long.

Lastly, dude I'm so proud of you for this. I miss you so much, and going out in SF isn't the same with out you. Fear and Loathing in Reno was one of the highlights of my life, I gotta come visit you in CT sometime soon.

CrcPua · 2013-06-08T17:44:21+00:00

Hello TofuTofu, before asking you my main question(s), just first wanted to let you know that I'm a huge fan of yours, your style, your work and your mentality. Now I recently listened to RSD's The Blueprint Decoded, and in one of the sessions near the end, Tyler mentioned the Newbie's Paradox, and how because of the lack of first-hand reference experience, it will be hard for newbies such as myself, to establish the "assume attraction" mentality; thus he suggested to shift the focus from being confident in the beginning to instead being just indifferent, or outcome independent. So here's my question for you:

How long did it take you to go from AFC to an intermediate level, which I will just arbitrarily define as surpassing the "indifference threshold" that Tyler talked about; and then from there, to the level you are at right now, which to me seems pretty close, if not identical to mastery.

Of course I understand that the journey is different for everyone, and can be heavily influenced by many factors such as a person's innate personality, but I am just curious :)

TofuTofu · 2013-06-08T16:53:53+00:00

What is your favorite date to take girls on?
What is your favorite alcoholic drink?
How do you feel about people pirating your book?
Have you written any fan fictions lately?

PUAdog · 2013-06-08T17:43:53+00:00

Is there any way the to extra chapters who's (or whom's, unsure) stretch goal hasn't been reached will be posted another time if we don't reach them? I'm really pumped about the extra chapters and can't help but feel a little sad that I can't use the free seminars for anything as it would be crazy expensive for me to fly to USA.

TofuTofu · 2013-06-08T21:15:38+00:00

Okay, three questions:

How do you feel small town game is different than city game? I live in a town of 100,000; last year I lived in a town with a few thousand. I definitely notice a social difference in cold approach compared to when I've visited big cities. What say you?
Would you ever be interested in assisting in putting together a curriculum based on AtG for teachers? It applies greatly; I believe many teachers would be more successful with it.
The obvious: 50 duck sized horses or 1 horse sized duck?

salsamander · 2013-06-09T00:37:52+00:00

How do I establish a fwb? Should I just be straight up with her?

Squally425 · 2013-06-09T02:46:52+00:00

I barely know you.
I only hear about you.
I've only skimmed over this project you're writing about.
You know what? I'm pledging.

Rock on, dude!

JayZizek · 2013-06-08T15:07:39+00:00

What will make your book different from other pickup material out there?

Where is all of the money going?

scenny · 2013-06-08T17:47:19+00:00

Hey tofu, always appreciate your insight and posts, looking forward to the book.

Ran into this yesterday. Last night I met a chick here for a month. Made out with her, she was with a dude who was clearly into her. She was definitely into me, but he wouldn't let me isolate and was full on cockblocking. My wing was high on coke so he wasn't much use either. I had her agree to come home with me, but she felt bad about leaving her friend as she's the only person he's met here (no surprise there). I got her number so I might give her a call today, but any idea how to deal with this dude if he's out again? Or a similar situation in the future? I tried to befriend him and shit, he was cool, but he just doesn't seem to want to realize he's friend zoned, so he fucjed shit up for me.

PUAdog · 2013-06-08T19:53:32+00:00

Are there going to be any pointers on how to turn the conversation sexual in "Above the Game"?

PestySamurai · 2013-06-08T22:37:37+00:00

I'm looking forward to a modern book about seduction and pumped about the extra chapters and I've put forth my donation, wish I could come to the seminars but I'm in Australia. Just one question -

Can you give any tips/advice regarding seduction in relationships? I've met a woman who's definitely girlfriend material and we've been dating a while now. It's all good but I want to know how to keep it fresh, and be able to seduce her even though it's readily available you know what I mean? I don't wanna just have sexy times I want to seduce her.

ysef95 · 2013-06-08T23:16:58+00:00

i loved your post on logistics and i really think that this is my main issue i.e. living with my parents and not having a place to bring girls back to but on this note then whats the weirdest place youve ever had sex with a girl?

r0b2489 · 2013-06-09T00:37:33+00:00

Holy shit dude you live in Milford? I just moved from Milford to LA.. Going to pledge.. Thanks!

uberafc · 2013-06-09T04:39:37+00:00

What other books do you recommend? PUA books as well as NON pua books that you have read that you found valuable in your life/career/relationships?

What other practicies do you do that you feel brings value in your life? What things do you recommend other guys incorporate into their life?

Who are you motivated or inspired by?

koolaidman123 · 2013-06-09T07:39:34+00:00

I find myself relying on day game a lot more over night game. For me personally, I find it a lot easier to open a girl when she's by herself, such is usually the case during day game, whereas I tend to have a lot of trouble opening groups. As well, I like to follow an overarching "script" while improvising the small details so when I adopted day game model by Mark Mason, I found it to be right up my alley.

However, what I'm wondering is that I tend to think of my reliance on day game (girls by themselves is usually when I come off as my best) as my "style", but in actuality, is it more of a crutch that I rely on? Also, what are some not well known places for day game?

markerje3 · 2013-06-21T19:39:24+00:00

can't believe this got on kickstarter. seduction is NOT about disrespecting women. learn from a master like Ross Jeffries http://www.youtube.com/user/speedseduction?feature=watch

TofuTofu · 2013-06-08T15:48:41+00:00

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TofuTofu · 2013-06-08T20:54:59+00:00

Hey TofuTofu,

I am an 18 year old who recently got over my approach anxiety and approached a girl a year younger and asked her out for coffee. She said yes and I # closed her. The date was set up a week from that day, and I did not text her at all other than to make sure the date was still on. So on Thursday, we went out to get coffee and I would say the date went pretty well. Sadly there was no kino escalation and the date ended with me asking if she wanted to go out again. She replied saying "sure". I thought it was a good idea to message her on facebook later in the night (my phone is broken) saying "I had a good time today, let me know when your free next week so we can go out again." Where I'm confused is why is she ignoring me? It's been three days now and no reply. Did I come off as needy/desperate by messaging her too soon?

TofuTofu · 2013-06-09T14:30:22+00:00

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Title	At the mid-way point of the Above The Game kickstarter campaign... AMA about the book, girls, whatever!
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Upvotes	73
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Date	June 8, 2013 3:04 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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