For instance, if things are going good, we're chatting chatting, and I go in for the neck bite (I actually do the ear whisper and neck bite before I go in for the kiss. I think this makes the kino sexual, but doesn't illicit her canned response for getting kissed), in about 3/4 of instances where I do something that escalates the interaction, she will look me in the eyes to see what game we are playing. Are we playing the chode "I'm kind of nervous, but I'm going to bite you, and you might reject me, and I hope this work" game? In that game, she is supposed to play the "I am not attracted to you, I'll let you come on to me a little bit, but then I'll push you away".

Or, she can see in my eyes "I'm not doing this for the results. I'm doing this because it pumps my own state and I'm having fun. It doesn't matter if you reject me, because you're a girl, and I'm a guy, and I'll just keep going. Eventually you will fuck me, because you are a girl. Right now, I'm just having fun", then she will play the role of "We're equals, we're just chatting, having fun, I'll enjoy the feelings he's giving me, and if I get horny enough, maybe tonight is the night I finally find that guy who knows how to fuck me without making me feel weird about it, and I get laid. score!".

What's interesting is that subconsciously, girls know what these games are, and they know how to play them on cue. But the important part is, she looks to me to see what type of game this interaction is, what dance we are doing. I'm getting more and more intranced with the power of strong instinctual frame control through the eyes.

EDIT: I should point out that the main thing about this that strikes me is how clockwork it is. I escalate. She looks in my eyes. we fluff a bit more. I escalate. she looks in my eyes. it's like finding a switch in a dark room. If I don't know it's there, it'll take forever. But if I know it's there, it is so easy.