What is your personal goal with game?

CapAWESOMEst · 2013-12-02T17:51:29+00:00

As frivolous as it sounds: Sex. Maybe even meet a girl worth dating. Having a wider set of choices if I ever decide to date. My end-game for now is all about having fun.

jimmyayo · 2013-12-02T18:26:12+00:00

I was literally just talking w/ a good friend about this. I've been at this for over a year now and finally have some good ideas on what my goal is. I realize that for me, it's not so much about getting laid, but really about social success on a much larger scale.

Being a leader of men + having/creating a large circle of influence. Being able to help guys become better versions of themselves. Lead by example, be a positive source of influence in the lives of people around me.
Giving/bringing value. For women - I want to offer value by being social and charming, knowing great places to hit up and being connected to the people who work there. For venues: I want to offer value to venues and their staff by bringing fun, interesting people there to party and socialize. Be the guy that they want back.
Derive value from within (not be externally validated). I want to always live an interesting life, travel places, try exotic food, keep up w/ a good career, stay well-read. Not to impress anyone or attain some external validation, but for myself, because I value myself and my time.
Having abundance (I believe this to be a natural outcome of the above three goals). By becoming self-validated and non-needy, giving value, and having a large circle of influence, I am adopting the mentality and traits of a high-value male that is surrounded by high quality women.

I'm still working on these goals/points, but I think that's pretty much it for me.

sharkacolypse · 2013-12-02T17:47:30+00:00

Mostly, I wanted to learn how to escalate touching. It's something I thought was counter-intuitive in high school, but seeing as I didn't get much action in high school I was obviously wrong. I feel like I've come a long way, and I've attracted enough women now to prove it to myself. I stick around, now, because I think I have a good handle on the subject and I like sharing what I've learned.

Thanks for this question! I hope you get some insightful answers.

2013-12-02T19:50:55+00:00

BED SOME BAD BITCHES

Jaruseleh · 2013-12-02T19:41:54+00:00

My long term goal is to find someone I can spend the rest of my life with. However, along the way, I have set - and met - some short term goals, since I pretty much had zero game when I started. Here are the goals I've set, and either met, or have yet to meet:

1.) Go out by myself - Met

2.) Talk to random people while I'm out - Met; but still not great at it

3.) Number close - Met...a lot!

4.) Go on dates - Met...sort of. Hasn't been many, and got a lot of flakes, but definitely doing better than I was.

5.) Escalate/Kino - In progress. I still struggle with this...

6.) Kiss Close - Happened once since I started gaming, but was as much because she just wanted it as it was how good my game was.

7.) F Close - See #6.

8.a.) Start a relationship - Met.

8.b.) Keep said relationship - Not yet met.

To put this into perspective, I was shy, introverted, paranoid, etc. and have been at this for about 5 years now. Prior to learning game, I was pretty much retarded when it came to women, and in hindsight, it's a miracle I had any relationships at all up to that point. Since I've started studying game, body language, etc., I've been MUCH better with women, and my confidence is higher than it's ever been. I'm currently not in a relationship, nor am I banging women every other night, but what I AM that I wasn't before is picky. I now know there are lots of women out there that I could pretty much take home on any given night, but I choose not to, because I refuse to settle as I used to in the past. I know my worth now, and I want someone who meets the standards I've set.

tl;dr - I have one major goal, but set many smaller goals and met them along the way.

electricumbrella · 2013-12-02T21:42:35+00:00

Shallow though it may be, it's still mine: when I've lost my v card and/or am actively dating someone.

officialpoypoy · 2013-12-02T18:24:11+00:00

making life more fun interesting and improving enhancing my willpower personality and making cool life moments!

jimmyjoejimbob · 2013-12-02T18:37:29+00:00

It's part of my own goal of improving all the aspects of my life.

I have just ended a long term relationship. Bought my first home. Accepted a new job in the new year doing things that I am interested in.

2013-12-02T18:39:20+00:00

I want to form a large and constantly expanding social group of like-minded friends and girlfriends. I love meeting new people and trying new things, but over the past couple of years I've because more conservative and significantly more introverted. I want to go back to having a life where people are always calling with fun shit to do and I'm all over it. I want to go back to having something awesome to do every day of the week. I want to go back to meeting beautiful woman and having an awesome time with them.

I used to practice this stuff a few years back, but I found a really cool girl I wanted to keep around and put seduction on the back burner. It's funny how when you do that you become rusty and "forget" a bunch of the stuff you took pains to learn.

I'm rejoining the community now and I hope to make some serious progress by the first quarter of 2014. Hell, I hope to make some serious progress by the end of this week.

2013-12-02T19:42:07+00:00

My only goal is to find a girl who is perfect for me and who I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Stickman_Bob · 2013-12-02T20:17:10+00:00

It is kind of assholish, but... To know I managed to get a girl to like me. I don't even need to kiss her, I just want to feel loved (like a lot of people I guess).

occupykony · 2013-12-02T18:45:06+00:00

Improving my conversational skills to the point where I can truly enjoy making connections with others and not sit there worrying about running out of topics of conversation. From there, find an amazing girl to date. I'm 23 and have slept with about a dozen women but have yet to have a serious relationship, so that's topping my list right now. Becoming a great conversationalist is part and parcel of that and will also improve my quality of life in general.

2013-12-02T20:30:44+00:00

On a conscious surface level, it would be social success and success with women. These seem to be base needs that most men have or want.

On a deeper level, everything comes down to power and control over your life. Whether this means to you having the ability to manipulate other people for your own purposes, or controlling your own mental state so you can see the world in a certain light, game to me really comes down to self-empowerment.

TheSicilianDude · 2013-12-02T20:55:29+00:00

Make life more awesome. Above all else. I do this by...

Improving myself
Becoming more confident and learning to love who I've become
Talking to any girl I find attractive
Going on more dates with girls
And of course, getting more sex

jimmyayo · 2013-12-02T21:04:53+00:00

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centurijon · 2013-12-02T22:07:29+00:00

I've spent a good amount of time just screwing around. Right now I want (and have) a solid relationship. Longer-er term is using parts of the game to keep that relationship flowing and exciting.

Afeni02 · 2013-12-03T00:02:56+00:00

One of the best lesson I learned and glad I did is: be outcome independent and do it to have FUN, don't expect shit, just focus on having fun!

To answer your question: self improvement

2013-12-03T00:23:29+00:00

As I approach the 100 partner mark, it's all about escalation for me. So first night bareback anal is what I'm after. Yeah, I know it's risky. But I've always been a gambling man. Besides, HIV/AIDS is almost licked at this point. Such is the life of a sex addict.

jetlag84 · 2013-12-03T01:08:42+00:00

I came to this community as somewhat of a natural, meaning I've been using rough versions of these techniques to get laid since I was a teenager. I dismissed the online seduction stuff at first, mostly I think because of the connection to Mystery/peacocking/etc, but when I actually started to read some of it I realized that it was all familiar. It was all on point, as far as my anecdotal experience. I realized I was basically like an untrained musician. I could play the instrument but I couldn't read music, and that was holding me back. I started going back in my mind and thinking of all the times I could've probably done better or closed over the years if I had been more self-aware of the techniques I was instinctively using. So my main goal with game is just to smooth out the edges of what I already have.

A long term relationship is always my preference, but I like to experience as many possible women in the meantime. I've always been pretty good with women, but since I've been studying seduction, my close rate has become........incredibly reliable.

TheNaughtyGarbageMan · 2013-12-03T01:25:43+00:00

I just want a girlfriend that I find attractive, will stay faithful, and make me happy.

rusty84 · 2013-12-03T03:36:35+00:00

As funny as it sounds seddit changed my life. Because of Seddit, I got the idea of dividing my life into areas — gym, school, PUA, work, hobbies, friends and family, etcetera. I worked on all areas and I am now super confident, and the most happy I have ever been. I get my happiness from my hobbies, not from people like I used to before, and friends have noticed that and they want to hang out with me more. I also started dressing better, but because I feel I am worth the money and looking good. And most importantly, I am an alpha, when I walk into a room, I own it: everyone there validates themselves for me.

So, I guess my goal is just self-improvement, and being less reliant on people for happiness. Scoring is a good byproduct though :)

2013-12-03T05:37:24+00:00

End game, I want to develop the skills and value to determine the terms of my relationships. How much I get out of it (in terms of sex, affection, time, respect) and how much I put into it (same), without unnecessary nonsense on the side (nagging, cheating, wasting money). I want to be able to lay out something fair and mutualy fulfilling, and my own experience suggests that the more I'm able to be the man in the relationship, the happier we both are.

Frankly, I refuse to fall into that trap of a so-called "equal partnership" that turns into an unhappy de facto woman-ruled relationship. So I need to master my ability to build atraction, handle shit tests, and so forth.

In the meantime, being able to have good sex with quality women on short notice works too.

WonderBoy59 · 2013-12-03T01:00:08+00:00

Fuck bitches, Get Money.

2013-12-02T19:13:27+00:00

Having multiple incredible high-quality women involved in my life. I want 2 - 4 beautiful, confident, fun women that love being around me and i love being around. I want to fall in love with each of these women and develop really deep emotional connections with them.

Eventually to develop the kind of emotional connection I want I will need to commit to a singular woman. However my life is in too much of a state of flux to do so at the moment.

I'm not interested in sleeping with a new girl every week. I'd rather sleep with the same girl 10 times than 10 girls once. However, I do want to have the behavior and looks to be able to do so.

I have many other personal and social goals, but the above covers my goal with women.

Title	What is your personal goal with game?
Author	k-lloyd
Upvotes	19
Comments	30
Date	December 2, 2013 5:04 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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