How to answer the "you only use me for sex bla bla" line

Kloohorn · 2014-05-02T17:30:56+00:00

"That's not all I want, unless that's all you've got."

folderol · 2014-05-02T18:12:25+00:00

Yeah, like she is using you only for spiritual stimulation or something. I wouldn't even comment. Why is it that once we have sex we are immediately assumed to have met our ultimate goal? Once I spent a lot of money to fly a woman out to my place for a couple of weeks. Our first couple nights of intercourse I concentrated entirely on her pleasure because I just felt like it. I took her around town to show her the sites, I cooked for her, I did what I could to make her comfortable (not on a pedestal but comfortable). She got home and the first thing she did on Facebook was mention that she was home from my "booty call". I was like, fuck really? Obviously I did all that shit and spent all that money because I wanted to cum. OK, whatever. So now I chalk her up as a booty call based on her own attitude. I won't apologize for that. She labeled herself as just a piece of ass, not me.

HitboxOfASnail · 2014-05-02T17:22:57+00:00

"no way, YOU are using ME for sex!!"

2014-05-02T16:53:20+00:00

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MuzikVillain · 2014-05-02T19:01:52+00:00

"That's not true.. I want you to make me sandwiches too". smirk

Used this more than a couple times. They just laugh and forget they even asked.

2014-05-03T03:01:43+00:00

"You only use me for my wallet bla bla".

zerogravityii · 2014-05-02T17:24:44+00:00

Be honest. Tell her what you really want and how you really feel. Girls don't want a guy thats afraid to be honest.

Afeni02 · 2014-05-02T20:12:41+00:00

"duh"

2014-05-02T21:20:08+00:00

"You're only with me cause it makes you happy, so what am I just being used for?"

ragenFOX · 2014-05-03T00:04:07+00:00

smartass reply

blondedre3000 · 2014-05-03T01:25:46+00:00

This is exactly the right answer. If she presses any further and I'm not interested I'll make it clear that I'm not looking for a girlfriend or to date anyone seriously at the moment (unless I'm considering her as a girlfriend). She will probably think things over for a few days, but if you're honest, upfront, stick to your guns and don't waiver she will want you that much more. It also doesn't hurt to be good in the sack and fun to be around.

Tyrien · 2014-05-03T03:06:59+00:00

If you're in a casual hook up/fwb situation then just reply "Yes, that's what we do most of the time, do you want something more? Because I don't think I do."

daddy01 · 2014-05-02T19:54:27+00:00

"Well make me a sandwich"

2014-05-03T05:41:36+00:00

If you only see her for sex, man up and tell her that. Otherwise you're just lying to her and that's for pussies. Be prepared to lose her if it comes to that. She's a human being who deserves a straight answer and if she wants more and you don't, you're wasting her time.

2014-05-02T17:41:15+00:00

Noice

2014-05-02T19:00:10+00:00

2014-05-02T21:20:52+00:00

I'd probably just be honest with whoever you're seeing really. There are plenty of people who are fine with a casual-sex-only kind of arrangement, so if you're with someone who expects more and might get hurt, I'd just be straight up with them and move on.

mmilike · 2014-05-03T01:38:03+00:00

It take two tango, especially in horizontal tango....

masterrod · 2014-05-02T23:02:28+00:00

Well when this happens it can be really be damaging to the lady.. It's critical that you tell the truth, but also critical that you try to understand her motivation for the question at the time.. If it's because of feelings then proceed with caution...

Situations like this can really fuck up a girl.. I'd say in this situation it's important to also invite her to leave if she can't handle it..

I like to promise also, "I don't know how long I will be with you, but I promise that you will be better off after me than before me.."

NahDudeFkThat · 2014-05-03T12:38:28+00:00

"Oh come on girl. And sandwiches. Why do yall always forget the sandwiches!?"

2014-05-02T16:57:57+00:00

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Marvster · 2014-05-02T18:37:51+00:00

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Mchubbs · 2014-05-02T21:15:30+00:00

quality post

2014-05-02T21:10:25+00:00

you are such a cool guy

Title	How to answer the "you only use me for sex bla bla" line
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Date	May 2, 2014 4:17 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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