I was terrified, but did 5 approaches anyway.

Harutinator · 2014-11-02T02:56:38+00:00

If you find success in your failure, you can never be defeated.

KMuffin · 2014-11-02T01:36:34+00:00

You go man! This is the beginning of one of the most rewarding self-improvement paths you can travel!

jacks_not_surprised · 2014-11-02T02:49:28+00:00

Well fucking done mate!

I know how hard it is, be proud of yourself! :D

_iplayforkeeps_ · 2014-11-02T04:23:01+00:00

When you start to leave that comfort zone, and the butterflies hit and you get nervous, the initial reaction is to shy away from it and not do it again. But then you force yourself to do it again and again and although the nervousness may persist, soon enough you start to live for the feeling, because it's then that you are truly living.

Well done man. Keep it up.

BallsOfSteeeeel · 2014-11-02T03:58:15+00:00

good work. keep it up man

the more you do it - the easier it gets

chocorroles · 2014-11-02T11:44:47+00:00

That's awesome dude. Some guys are naturals, some of us are average, and some are shy/introverts.

Trust me, you weren't the first and certainly won't be the last to approach these girls.

I've approached lots of girls, so many. So much rejections.

But one of the ones I did approach, is my GF now. Do it.

A "no" is infinite times better than never knowing. Simple algebra.

Lancestrike · 2014-11-02T05:28:52+00:00

Your a winner even if you don't get a number, ain't that high amazing?

scythe7 · 2014-11-02T03:02:10+00:00

nice, ive been trying to do this for a long time too. Good job man.

Ori_553 · 2014-11-02T09:50:32+00:00

"Success means going thorough failures without loss of enthusiasm" - Winston Churchill

Alma_Negra · 2014-11-02T08:21:59+00:00

There will come a time after doing so many approches, everything just clicks and every subsequent approach just becomes a blur.

chain_drive · 2014-11-02T14:05:00+00:00

"Wanna grab a pizza and fuck?" "NO!!!" "What? You don't like pizza!?"

For real though. Good job man. Way to give the effort. Odds are you planted a seed that may grow into something. Keep planting those seeds.

killertubbie · 2014-11-02T04:55:34+00:00

As simple as your thread is, I'm gonna save it and keep it as an inspiration.

baddog992 · 2014-11-02T04:49:58+00:00

Nice. Approaches can be tough. No doubt. Keep up the good work.

2014-11-02T04:54:45+00:00

Good job! Keep at it and soon you'll be on your way to pussy paradise

phaed · 2014-11-02T07:53:05+00:00

Great going man you did it, you've crossed over. There's no going back now.

ahfu285 · 2014-11-02T08:23:57+00:00

When there's people terrified without approaching anything. You should've proud of yourself making first step, good job mate.

txroller · 2014-11-02T15:59:05+00:00

we learn from our failures. the only real loss is quitting

2014-11-02T16:43:13+00:00

You're on your way, bud', and congratulations. Just remember this sage advice:

There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self -- Ernest Hemingway

Keanu_Reefers · 2014-11-02T17:10:17+00:00

I wish I had the balls you have OP, keep it up man and dont worry it will eventually work out!

dave256hali · 2014-11-02T20:50:03+00:00

Instrument instructing was my favorite type. Just think of this. When you are flying IFR, there are only three things you can possibly be doing.

Following highways in the sky with your plane. (ILS courses, airways,)
Getting told exactly what to do by approach. (Radar vectors)
And visual. (You vs. the airport, make it happen!)

You can reduce the meat of instrument flying to these three concepts. Good luck!

stragis · 2014-11-02T08:19:04+00:00

Do or do not, there is no try. -Yoda

P.S. You did it. Now do more.

2014-11-02T05:07:06+00:00

It always so hard to do, but I always feel amazing afterwards. I still have a mental block tho.

The_Turbinator · 2014-11-02T05:56:34+00:00

Kudos to you brother.

ImTheSolution · 2014-11-02T12:06:12+00:00

im so proud, i had this once too, i approached a girl at my school. despite her having a boyfriend i still felt like a boss

no grammar nazi plz its early

djconnexion77 · 2014-11-02T12:08:21+00:00

I can't add to anything from what other people have said. Good work !

dixiedownunder · 2014-11-02T12:47:57+00:00

When I was 23, I got shot down 17 times one night. Still kind of proud of it. The more you swing, the more often you hit the ball. And your batting average just improves.

2014-11-02T14:41:00+00:00

Wow, thats incredibly brave and you handled rejection like a champ. Good for you, man.

rangamatchstick · 2014-11-02T16:21:56+00:00

GG dude, the first few you do suck no dout but next time you will be better, your AA will be down. After all did anything bad happen last time? NO only good! you have less aa and the fact that you have balls bigger than 90% of the guys out there.

DaggerStone · 2014-11-02T16:40:56+00:00

Just keep it up.

POTATO_SOMEPLACE · 2014-11-02T16:54:04+00:00

Also, I felt more alive than I've felt for a long time.

This, right there. It's your emotions and social skills waking up. You have it all inside you, you just need to keep exposing yourself to these things to make your brain shift gears.

I've found that even after a horrible night out, when I was talking to acquaintances the next day I was infinitely more charismatic than usual. It's awesome.

pharmaninja · 2014-11-02T17:45:22+00:00

How did you approach? I never know what to say when I approach.

jdepps113 · 2014-11-02T18:55:32+00:00

Failure is simply a step on the road to success.

PeeInAGi · 2014-11-02T20:38:28+00:00

JUST DO IT

YOU DID IT!

most_likely_bollocks · 2014-11-02T22:18:34+00:00

Right on man! Keep it up :)

2014-11-03T01:45:15+00:00

Dat testosterone and endorphin rush. :)

Good on you, just get over the anxiety and research your problems and work on them so people will receive you better. Don't give up!

koffee_addict · 2014-11-03T01:55:49+00:00

Five!? You should buy yourself a beer. I achieved this (5 approaches) after MONTHS of trying.

AmazingSelf · 2014-11-03T10:03:44+00:00

Dude, this is exactly how you get there. Not by reading 10.000 books on game and etc. My tip, next time you are at the club, don't aproach just girls, go talk to everyone! Have fun with people! A person that is having fun will attract girls naturally. Great job, and btw, you where smilling because of the feeling of adrenaline ;)

itsmevichet · 2014-11-03T15:28:43+00:00

You're doing better than 80 percent of the newbies on this sub who will never make a move.

Turn that 5 approaches into 50. Then 100. Then 500. Then 1000. Then it's just the way that you are and you never think about it, because it's second nature.

kristenrenee · 2014-11-03T18:01:56+00:00

That's the first step. Just getting to the flow of approaching.

But it's more than just getting over the anxiety. It's about naturalizing all the body language, micro movements etc ...

Your on the right track. Forget content for now. Focus on 1 or 2 small things and go for it. Approach. Open, make conversation and don't worry if it falls flat.

However, don't get caught in the trap of merely opening and going in with the idea that your gonna get blown out. Than ur turning approaching into some sort of easy game.

It's much easier to approach w the full intention of getting rejected than opening and trying to get somewhere. Sometimes you get stuck at a stage where u can only open. And do nothing else.

For now, your doing great. But next time round, so not give yourself the easy exit of just openin and literally waiting to be blown out. Go in there and fuckin own it !

that-freakin-guy · 2014-11-02T04:23:46+00:00

Ride that rush. Don't worry about technique too much right now, it's like studying for the LSAT. Get your approach down, and then work on content. During the week, practice basic tricks like magic or something, then go to the club and tell girls you've been practicing and want to show them some tricks.

Do some basic tricks, and then say you have a really hard trick to do, and ask if they are down to help you practice. Then take out a deck of cards or a piece of paper and have them write their name and number on it (to ensure you're not faking it). Then put it in your pocket and start a random trick. When they ask what they wrote their number down for, say it's so you didn't forget to grab it before you left.

Give them a smile, some kino, and be on your way. Be interesting in your approach and they'll just hand you their number. Obviously this is something I did for a long time before working on some other approaches, but it worked well for me and was a great conversation starter.

Alphalfajuice · 2014-11-02T17:46:37+00:00

This sub is some pussy shit

Title	I was terrified, but did 5 approaches anyway.
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Well fucking done mate!