Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?

Cam3739 · 2015-09-01T05:48:42+00:00

Friend zone? What you're describing is friendship.

MaceWandru · 2015-09-01T04:21:16+00:00

I'm new to thus sub, but here's my take: I don't know why the friend zone gets berated on reddit so often. Does every guy think they're entitled to hook up with every girl they connect with or they can GTFO? Having a girl friend that you have fun with is a great investment. You'll become better at conversation with girls, (attempt to) better understand their logic, and best of all - meet her friends. Try not to pounce on the first one that comes around or her close friends, but play it cool. Her friends will recognize you as approved by their girl friend and may find interest in you or know a friend..

All that said, if she makes a move on you - go for it.

Spacedust_ · 2015-09-01T04:42:21+00:00

Yes be friendzoned by women that is amazing in my opinion. I have done this just two days ago when the girl I met softly brought up the topic that she is in a relationship. She was amazing and not available why not to be friends with her and expand my social circle. Also she may have hot friends that she can introduce me to.

Most people here are against to be friendzoned because they are assuming that you may get friendzoned by every other girl, which is a huge problem. But if you have no problem attracting other women, friendzoning one is actually a great deal.

Second it sounds like you are afraid of pulling the trigger just because she is hot, you sound like you think that "you are not good enough for her", which is a big no no because it is a big harpoon to destroy your "inner game"

AkimboSavior71 · 2015-09-01T04:44:14+00:00

I just started college and I met this girl from a rural town with sort of a genuine mom-type of personality, which I've never had to deal with. She's kind of cute and when I first met her I was successfully working towards getting in my room. The only thing is when I got her to my room we actually starting having a meaningful conversation where I found out just how gullible she is and how easily she could be taken advantage of. This girl didn't even know what Netflix and Chill ment. I ended up not having sex with her but she did keep coming back to hang out. After she stayed up and helped me study and do well enough on the retake of my math placement test to test out of Calculus after I bombed it the first two times I realized I couldn't mess up our relationship by making it sexual. We're have a brother/sister relationship at this point. I just brush off any sexual advances she rarely does throw at me.

HelicopterSack · 2015-09-01T06:52:19+00:00

Chosen to be in the friend zone? You mean became friends with a girl on a purely platonic basis?

Nothing wrong with that if you have no sexual desire towards her. Otherwise it is gonna lead to frustration and anger...

As you have already stated that you find her kinda hot etc. I would advise against it...

pacg · 2015-09-01T07:35:46+00:00

I put girls in the friendzone when I realize I'm not attracted to them in that certain way especially when our social circles overlap. I'll figure, well, I don't want any weirdness between her and i nor do I want any hurt feelings or misunderstandings or drama. I've gone as far as rebuffing advances politely even when I was sure it'd lead to sex. I mean, geez. There's a point where you've gotten old enough and had enough sex that you're cool about it, where getting laid isn't a big deal. Golly, that sounds weird typed out.

kemar7856 · 2015-09-01T17:38:57+00:00

bad idea imo here what could happen

1.you are friends then one day out of the blue your just going to say I really liked you the entire time. if she sees you as only a friend its possible shes going to feel played

2.shes feels he same and you date

RespondsWithImprov · 2015-09-01T05:33:55+00:00

It is fine as long as you are the one choosing it and she knows it. As long as you know the person wants to be physical with you, you can do it. Be cautious with this.

NaughtyMr · 2015-09-01T05:37:39+00:00

I've never had a girl as a friend in my life that is my own age and have never really tried to connect with women or make friends with them.

LUClEN · 2015-09-01T11:37:14+00:00

Yes. Although it was to get to know her friend better.

Morokweng · 2015-09-01T18:37:36+00:00

Personally, I don't think that women make very good friends, you're a guy, you need to connect with other guys. Find some kind of social hobbies and make friends through them.

xau-the-tau · 2015-09-01T18:52:22+00:00

I met a really cute German girl a while back and really enjoyed spending time with her, I also got the impression she was into me, but I never made a move beyond flirting (she was a natural flirt and therefore just fun to be around and practice with etc). Why did I not make a move you ask? Because of the amount of people she knew, including other hot girls we would hang out with. You come across certain people in your life who are super connectors they know almost everyone and everyone knows them. This is exactly why I never made a move. The amount of girls who were interested with me simply because I had a great time flirting with my buddy was insane (preselection is a BIG deal if you use it well). Recently we've been drifting apart a bit because our schedules haven't really lined up, but I would 100% encourage you to create friendships with girls things didn't quite work out romantically, who knows, you could even help them hook up with some guys (or she could wing girl for you - literally no one expects it, although you have to remember her advice is coming from a woman's perspective and will therefore be biased just like a mans).

2015-09-01T19:14:22+00:00

Friend zone is not the same as being friends with a female.

Friend zone means you want to be with a woman but she doesn't reciprocate and just wants to be friends with you. Friendship is a mutual want to be friends with one another.

Fuck yes, have female friends. Lots of them. I've been introduced to many women through female friends.

2015-09-01T20:48:03+00:00

If she is responding well to you, then it's not technically the Friend Zone. That's when she is just keeping you around for validation and nothing else.

I never understood the whole "there are other hot girls out there" thing. For me, I'm either more attracted to other women or less attracted to other women. If I'm more attracted to other women, nothing serious, if I'm less attracted to other women, relationship.

jetbond · 2015-09-01T22:52:14+00:00

Be her friend! Every time I have not (basically started seeing the girl), it is fun for a while. When I am their friend, its easier to meet other girls that may not even be their friend. Happens to me all the time! Good luck!

IBurnedMyBalls · 2015-09-01T15:46:46+00:00

Its up to you man. Its all up to you.

Title	Have you ever chosen to be in the friend zone?
Author	jdub129
Upvotes	21
Comments	35
Date	September 1, 2015 3:38 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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