I discovered Seddit about two and a half years ago, and I've made incredible life changes and improved with women immensely. Over the past two years, I've been with more girls than in the past three decades before that time. It's come to my attention that all of the girls that I've been with told me the same two things. I hope sharing this can help someone like many of you have helped me.

  1. "You're confident." Sometimes, they tell me that I'm full of myself. It's true. You have to believe in yourself if you want to accomplish anything. I treat everyone with respect, but I do not care what they think about me. When confronted with choices on what to say or do, I always make the bold choice. I constantly ask myself "Will my life be any different than it was before if I do this?" This is especially helpful if you are having difficulty escalating or approaching.

  2. "You care about me." Other variations were that I listened to her, was nice to her or treated her well. I only have one goal with women: to get to know them to see if we are compatible. I am upfront about this from the beginning. If she's not interested, or I don't think that it will work, that's fine. I wish her luck, and move on. The best skills that I employ here are active listening, the ability to give her space and being upfront with my intentions.

Confidence is everything. To develop confidence, you have to have goals that fulfill you besides chasing girls, pride in your physical appearance and outcome independence. Value yourself and your time above all else. No one on their deathbed wishes that they spent more time orbiting girls and playing video games.