How to give off more of a sexual/lover vibe instead of a friendly vibe?

eviiil · 2016-07-02T18:36:46+00:00

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Helmet_Icicle · 2016-07-02T20:21:06+00:00

The difference between a platonic friend and a romantic candidate is that you don't fuck a platonic friend.

So talk about sex, incite dialogue about sexual opinions. Use innuendo and euphemisms, then play innocent when they call you on it. Create opportunities to express your sexuality. There is a lot of power in confidently demonstrating your desire. And most women generally want to be desired.

There are lots of other ways to portray your sexual side. Use a lot of physical contact and eye contact. Imagine the way you wouldn't behave around someone you wouldn't want to attract, and do those things.

eviiil · 2016-07-02T18:39:37+00:00

This is a favorite subject of mine, I'll write a bit about it in a few. edit: this is gonna be longer than I thought edit2: been busy with other things... but with all these upvotes and asking me about it I feel pressure to actually make it good lol. Before I sleep tonight I'll post something I promise.

edit 3: my girlfriend straight up passed out, I met her and her friends in the E.R. I almost went "sorry can't make it, seddit needs me plz dnt die luv u"... but I decided against it.

The reason it takes a long post is because all the little techniques and strategies and game nuances that get things to an immediate sexual level, require the right mindset behind them. Entitlement, comfort with sexuality, understanding of why women enjoy dominance. If you don't have these characteristics, you can't do these techniques and mini routines and openers and escalation tactics. It would be like throwing a punch without good footwork, you flail your arms hopelessly (you get blown out and every girl in the club fucking hates you.) So I want to explain these qualities and practical ways to start building them up before I tell you the actual mechanics of what to do in the field.

leothelion092 · 2016-07-02T18:24:37+00:00

Dude this has been the epicenter of my problems in the seduction game world. I'm a pretty good looking guy, and I'm not too lumpy (just a big dude) but I seem to always get stuck in that area. My friends (who are basically man candy handsome looking mothrfu*kers) seem to get ANY girl they want, and I just can't seem to not be seen as a friend. Just like you, I'm outgoing, energetic and a great socializer. My buddies (who have good experience with all kinds of women) tell me it's because we give off a friendly vibe too early off. They tell me that from the beginning I should be straight forward with what I want, but it's easy for them to say that because they're so experienced in game. Any pointers on how NOT to be like that or how to change a friendly vibe to a "I want to tear your clothes off tonight" vibe would be awesome. #FriendzoneProbs

shoganaiyo · 2016-07-02T19:48:56+00:00

I'm in the same process myself. Dressing well, staying fit, eating healthy are all good for self-care but the power of sexual attraction is mostly mental. Most people who know me would call me a quiet, friendly guy that is intelligent, easy to get along with and likeable. Friendliness and likeability will build rapport, however that doesn't necessarily translate into sexual tension and if you want to get laid, that's what you need.

Sexual tension comes from when there are barriers between us and the object(s) of our desire. The less available it is to us, the higher desirability we assign to it. Creating and maintaining attraction is about really just about just giving them enough to show there's something to have there but not enough that they're satisfied. Being nice, friendly or jolly is good for the initial part of the conversation because it alleviates the pressure on others feeling they have to fill the air. However, once the ice is broken and you start to build attraction, you have to be able to switch it up and make them work for it. You have to be a little sadistic (not too sadistic, that will backfire), you have to cast a little doubt on the outcome of the encounter.

They have to feel that there's a chance they could mess it up. If they feel they could have you at any time, there is no incentive to pursue you. As long as there is uncertainty, there will be tension.

DaygameCoach · 2016-07-03T01:31:26+00:00

Be clear in your intent. If you need help being direct, try the book, Mode One.

And read all the sidebar help/

2016-07-03T04:58:47+00:00

be a challenge to women, tease them, make fun of them in a playful way. Don't be easy and predictable, and show that your own dreams come first

Wh0r3b1tc4 · 2016-07-03T08:52:53+00:00

My biggest failure in the past was lack of body language. Watch documentaries on body language in general to get a better undrrstanding of how you come off in every day situations through your body language alone. Once you become aware of it you'll begin to figure out how to channel it into a sexual display, keep close, having open and inviting arms, lightly touching in a way that gentle and sensual but not creepy, stuff like that.

2016-07-03T09:30:00+00:00

Practice makes perfect. Try the things the others listed out every day. Try them on your brothers girlfriend, try them with relevants, with girls from college, platonic girlfriends etc. Since I better my game on an everyday basis with girls (who I don't neccessarily want to fuck), I'm way more likely to be on point when I need it for dat 9/10 or 10/10. Life is game. This is key. For example, i just used my skills for getting a flat (showing no neediness, building rapport, etc.). Game everybody and everything and you will be a social master who seduces interesting women in no time, because he is used to it.

2016-07-03T20:09:55+00:00

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Overnight_Delivery · 2016-07-03T03:02:09+00:00

practice with the pros with cam / phone

PM_ME_UR_JUMBLIE5 · 2016-07-03T13:41:02+00:00

In my experience, a girl will know or signal in some way what category they are going to place you in (friend, acquaintance, bf/hook up material) within the first 30 seconds of meeting you and talking to you. So, this probably means you're communicating that you're trying too hard to get their attention, when it should be the other way around. It was always one of my more favorite negs to talk to and look at the least attractive girl of a set and ignore everyone else in response to an opener. The girl would get extremely flustered because she wasn't used to the attention, and inevitably the other girls/queen bee would be practically yelling at me to get my attention. But I would ignore it, not turn my head, maintain controlled body language, etc. and just listen to them flounder. Of course, you have to be careful how much attention to give the least attractive, as you quickly need to convey that you're trying to get with the hottest one or whoever you want. But do it on your terms and time frame. Become interested in what they have to say only when they have something interesting to say, and not just because they are attractive. And if they don't ever have anything interesting to talk about? Walk away. Not worth your time and there are plenty more interesting and fun girls out there.

Also, long, controlled eye contact is key. If you don't have that in the first 30 seconds of meeting a girl, you're probably doing it wrong. I find it best to do this the very first time my full attention is on the girl. Conveys that I am an equal and that I'm not afraid to meet on her level, that I can handle her.

Title	How to give off more of a sexual/lover vibe instead of a friendly vibe?
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Upvotes	178
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Date	July 2, 2016 5:41 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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