How to friend-zone women you are trying to seduce?

DaygameCode · 2024-02-20T11:57:01+00:00

How to friend-zone women you are trying to seduce? Doing so would be the exact opposite of what every man has ever done(put her on a pedestal), and she’ll go bonkers over it.

Women are perfectly happy to be just friends and nothing more with a guy, heck she won’t believe her luck that a guy finally doesn’t want to insert his dick in her. So this is not the jedi mind trick, or the reverse psychology, you think it is.

What are some ways you would go about friend-zoning a woman you’re interested or maybe even semi-interested to get her to fall for you?

You don’t understand women at all. Women don’t put guys in the friendzone, it’s guys themselves who put themselves in the friendzone by concealing their intentions pretending to be friends, and then they confess their feelings and the girl reminds them that they only see them as friends. She isn’t gonna fall for you, she is just gonna see you as a friend because that’s what you get her used to.

once told a girl we’d make great best friends and she immediately lost the frame lol… “you only see me as a friend?” The look on her face 🤣

You think you outsmarted her or something, as if you used her weapons against her, except all you’ve done is basically told her to move on, and find some other guy. She won’t cry about it, she will be like whatever i have more options and she will sleep with those options while you pat yourself in the back at how you “won”. What did you win exactly? Nothing.

Eros_Abundance · 2024-02-20T07:17:35+00:00

From my experience they only go bonkers if they do like you in the first place, in which case you can just play it normally, or you can try to turn the buyer seller dynamic to your advantage by dropping that you are "already seeing someone else" that works both by 1) showing social proof 2) activate her competition anxiety.

I recently friendzoned a girl who explicitly told me she liked me because i wasn't attracted anyway and she is still obsessed with me indeed, but if you are friendzoning girls to spark attraction you just end up covering your intentions and make your relationship depolarized.

IWouldButImLazy · 2024-02-20T08:40:40+00:00

Friendzoning for men and women works differently. The "friend zone" is a state where your object of interest can't see you as anything more than a friend, while you're trying your damndest to get them to upgrade you. Imo men do this with emotional investment, while women do this with sexual access.

Basically, a guy trapped in the friendzone is simping heavy, doing all the emotional labour of a boyfriend without any of the physical benefits in hopes that the woman will finally see him as the best option.

A woman trapped in the friendzone is a fwb who hopes eventually if she fucks you good and hard enough, you'll make her your girlfriend, basically granting the same sexual access as a gf with none of the emotional obligations that come with being a bf.

In both situations, they are the last options of their object of interest. The guy will only achieve his dream if the woman gets tired of all the playboys and hookups, and decides to settle down with him (even then, that is only in the case she can't find someone else that fulfills those emotional needs), granting him the minimum sexual access needed to secure that investment (if you've ever heard of dudes discovering their frigid vanilla wife who only does missionary with the lights off once a month used to go ass-to-mouth and have trains run on her every weekend in her 20s, this is what happened).

The woman will only achieve her dream if the guy tires of having to pursue women or he loses all his hoes somehow and she's the only remaining option willing to grant that access with the minimum emotional investment (this is the timid, loving wife that is terrified of the man leaving her and changes herself completely to fit the man's preferences, often even being willfully blind to infidelity to maintain the relationship).

Both of these situations are different from simply being actual friends with the opposite sex, with the main difference being that one of the parties has unrequited feelings for the other

birdgirl3333 · 2024-02-20T13:30:56+00:00

Don't do it if you like her. If she has strong self control and loves herself, she will friendzone you back and start dating other guys.

If you like her, just pursue and claim her. She prob wants you too !!

I friendzone men all time bc they do it themselves. Then they act mad when you don't like them ! And a few guys have friendzoned me but I left them and went date other guys. They came crawling back to me but I had moved on. I had to block them too bc they became aggressive.

Don't play games. Your girl will find out and if shes high value, she's out.

rajs1286 · 2024-02-20T07:04:54+00:00

Bang her friend. Literally

Fuzzy-Bottle-4138 · 2024-02-20T15:10:17+00:00

This subreddit should change its name to autistic anonymous

jwaters0122 · 2024-02-20T13:37:41+00:00

you don't. but how do people end up in the friendzone in the first place?

If you just act like a friend/nice guy and expect them to fall for you, then you deserve to be put in the friendzone. As your intentions were not true.

if you did your best to seduce and have romantic/sexual intent, but she puts in the friendzone anyways, just learn from whatever mistake you did and move on. It's not worth the battle to change her mind.

but if you really think she is worth wasting your time for, then your best bet is to get with other women and she sees you as a suitable sexual partner. also, pay NO attention to the girl that friendzoned you. she may have made the mistake of friendzoning you and she might give you attention again. But don't count on it.

for the most part, some women friendzone because they just do NOT find you attractive, not her type, etc. no matter what you do.

STCLS · 2024-02-20T15:31:04+00:00

Jesus Christ dude, what kind of useless, empty question that is

Murder-Machine101 · 2024-02-20T19:04:57+00:00

Lol why tf would you wanna friendzone a girl you wanna get with? That’s some backwards ass game right there.

Aristox · 2024-02-20T17:51:46+00:00

Women aren't gonna get with you because they think it would be an accomplishment. They don't think that way. They'll get with you because you make them feel excited. Trying to do this is just shooting yourself in the foot

dmd2540 · 2024-02-20T18:03:59+00:00

So your trying to fuck a girl by not fucking her ?

AqueousBeats · 2024-02-20T18:35:53+00:00

Doesn’t work that way rly

Vitruvian_Dame · 2024-02-20T09:52:04+00:00

As long as you make the girl feel like you are more valuable than she is (do this tastefully please). "We'd make great best friends" is a weird choice because it could make her question if you're gay or being too nice. I would just use negging like "I like that top. I saw another girl wearing it a few minutes ago" or just generally say things that sound like they're meant to be compliments but knocks down her ego to make her think you're more valuable.

Just keep in mind if you continue to show disinterest and play hard to get with the girl, she will likely lose interest. Even worse, she still finds you unattractive because you f#cked something up in the attraction phase, and you putting her in the friend zone works in her favour—you spare her the need to do it herself.

P.S. do not sleep with her friend. Some advice on here is retarded af no wonder so many can't get girls.

Altruistic-Seat9814 · 2024-02-20T11:59:46+00:00

talk about other women you’re dating

once i was hitting on a girl that explicitly said she didn’t wanna date anyone at that time, after some date i went on a date with a girl that i didn’t know was a close friend of hers, apparently they’re not the jealous kind and she reciprocated me after that

itsamatterofattitude · 2024-02-20T15:00:06+00:00

I'm one of the few men who strongly advocate for friend zoning women, so I think I can answer your question honestly and with a great deal of experience behind me.

Friend zoning a woman who is clearly into you is the single greatest way to make her throw herself at you.

Women are not built and have very little experience with handling rejection. It flies in the face of everything she believes to be true about herself. She NEEDS to believe all men want and desire her, especially the man she's wants and desires. Furthermore, while most men are chasing her and trying to get her into bed, the man who says "I don't (need) to have sex with you. We can just be friends..." stands out as a beacon among the rest, provided he maintains attraction and continues to escalate. If you say "Let's just he friends" and fall into SIMP-mode, then things will get a little dicey. She may lose attraction and respect, and become comfortable with the "friends only" dynamic. But if you say "let's just be friends", but continue to display how amazing and enticing you are romantically and sexually, she will literally throw her panties in your face.

What I usually do is wait towards the end of the first date; after we've kissed and flirted and maybe enjoyed some light touching.

"I'm not trying to be like all the other guys that just want to fuck, so I think it's better if we just focus on being friends for awhile."

Now, the wording of this statement is very important. It adds value to me as I'm consciously setting myself apart from most men she's dealing or dealt with, it shows an interest in maintaining the connection, and it offers a time frame, whoever vague.

In my experience, EVERY SINGLE TIME I've told a woman this, she made an attempt to have sex with me within the next two dates/meet-ups.

Every. Single. Time.

Why it works:

As I mentioned, women aren't built for rejection. When a woman has her sights set on a man, and he pulls away, but maintains attraction, she makes a conscious decision to test him and push for the type of relationship she wants. If nothing else, a woman wants... neh... NEEDS to feel like she WON. She needs to feel like she got a good man, that she was able to seduce him... control him... manipulate him... capture him.

And there's no greater challenge then making him succumb to her feminine and sexual energy when he's taken a stance against it.

Its like her brain goes "Friends? What the hell do you mean just friends? Nah, buddy... you're getting this pussy!'

The second reason this works is women constantly say that want a relationship where they started as friends, but the attraction was undeniable, and became more. What they don't say is that they want a man who's "willing" to be friends first, instead of one who's constantly just trying to hook-up. By showing her you're "that" guy, you flip a switch in her brain, one that increases value and desire. I can't tell you how many times I've heard women say "It's so sexy when a man acts like he's not trying to have sex with you. It makes me want to give it to him even more."

The final component is FOMO. No woman wants to be the "friend" of the amazing guy and see him with another woman... especially when she's still single and had every opportunity to make him more than that. By putting a woman in the friend zone, it puts her in a romantic "fight or flight" mode: she either fights to be the one you desire or runs away knowing she can never have you. And when it comes to the man she wants, a woman is always willing to fight for him. Even if it means fighting AGAINST him. "I'm going to make you want me! I'm going to show you how sexy and enticing and sensual I am and what a great gf/wife/partner I can be. Because I want you... and I'm not okay with you NOT wanting me!"

Friend zoning women is a very under utilized ability. If you know a woman wants you, and you can establish a sexual boundary while continuing to escalate and increase her attraction to you, she will offer herself up to you on a silver platter.

Collegia_Titanica · 2024-02-20T08:25:42+00:00

Duality

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-02-20T19:44:02+00:00

From my experience the girls I like the most are the same ones I need to "friendzone" at the beginning. For someone with ltr potential, it's even more essential to give time and have patience.

During the first couple times spending time with each other, I got this thing where if the girl gets a little bit "lubby dubby" with physical touch such as going for hand holds; I gently grab her wrist and tell her "behave yourself hasty one". This more often than not gets a playful rebuttal that starts a frisky play fight, instantly changing the vibe from romantic to sexual. By withholding my physical touch early and suppressing hers...it results in drastically more spontaneous and fun touching and vibing, it's maximizing polarity. This is when I know I got options with the girl, whether it's have a casual friendship or build a foundation for a relationship. If she plays the "good girl game" a little too much...I know to keep it casual because she can probably suck a bowling ball through a slurpee straw. If she is more on the modest and honest side I'll try to build something with her.

Either way friend zoning women is extremely powerful and they will often be down for however you want them if executed right. Ultimately the easiest thing to do is use the word they never hear from men: "NO". Say no to anything even if u don't have to, it's an aphrodisiac to women.

Zealousideal_Ball308 · 2024-02-21T04:38:01+00:00

I do that all the time. You just treat them how you treat everyone and if you actually are fun to be around people in general will want to be around you. Its then up to you if you want to pursue.

ChampionshipStock870 · 2024-02-21T12:56:48+00:00

Friend zoning women comes down to saying no to them and hoping they don’t have 100 other guys in their inbox to take their attention when you don’t give it to them. In short it only works if they like you already and even then it’s a tight rope.

Epiphanic_Eros · 2024-02-21T16:02:45+00:00

This does work, but I’m not sure it works if it’s not genuine. Also, not sure if it works with women who aren’t super hot, or much hotter than the guy.

One of the most beautiful women I ever dated (she was a ringer for Angelina Jolie) got sit up by this. We went out a few times, not even sleeping together. We had amazing intellectual chemistry, and I found her physically VERY attractive. But I gradually realized that we didn’t really have erotic/romantic chemistry. So I told her we should just be friends. She completely agreed, rightly. But then diverting to her over. I was the first guy to ever reject her sexually, and it caused some kind of existential crisis. She became obsessed. It was quite unpleasant, actually.

Title	How to friend-zone women you are trying to seduce?
Author	Own_Resolution8063
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Date	February 20, 2024 6:38 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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