The most effective way to seduce women is something everyone is capable of doing, and that's listening. When most people listen, they don't actually listen properly, but rather, wait until it is there turn to speak. People love to talk about themselves, but women especially love to do so. The reason listening is so seductive is because very rarely do we as humans interact with someone who demonstrates with their behaviors that they are actually interested in them as a person. If you can demonstrate to someone that you actually care about what they have to say, you can make them obsessed with you.

In order to become a good listener, you must have presence. Presence in conversation is your ability to tune out everything going on around you and solely focus on what the person is saying. You don't have to make death starting eye contact, but you have to demonstrate (and actually do) that you are fully invested and immersed in what they are saying.

Have you ever spoken to someone and you could tell through their non verbal cues and facial expressions that they were not actually interested or listening to what you had to say? That is very anti seductive and incredibly frustrating because you are essentially communicating that you do not care about what the person speaking has to say. So, don't pay attention to events or people in the background (staring at other people or events going on) when someone is speaking, just pay attention to the person speaking and give them your full and undivided attention.

Many guys when on dates or approaching women always try to come up with scripts of things to say, or have ideas of what to say next when someone is speaking. If you do this, you are not being present in the conversation, because in order to be present your full and undivided attention has to be given to the person speaking. So, if you are actually listening to the person speaking, and concerned with how they feel during the interaction, you should never have trouble coming up with things to say next as you are actually interested and listening to what the person is saying. These questions should come naturally.

Most people are inwardly oriented (focused on how they feel) when interacting with others. However, in order to be seductive, you must be outwardly oriented ( focused and concerned with how others feel) . Like I mentioned earlier, this is so seductive because very rarely do we humans get this type of feeling from strangers because everyone is so concerned with how they feel, that rarely do others DEMONSTRATE that they actually care about or are interested in others.

One huge mistake men make is they learn how to be good listeners, and they ask very good questions that indicate that they are listening and the woman in question does feel cared for.

HOWEVER, they are still women you are romantically interested in, so you can't just be a good listener and be boring. Most guys ask good questions and listen but they are just far too boring. Like I mentioned in a post earlier this week on this forum, you have to stimulate a woman's emotions, and one of the best ways to do that is by having playful and fun conversations with her. So, make sure while on a date that you are physically escalating with the woman, stimulating her emotions by being playful and fun, and making sure she knows that you are romantically interested in her. You do not want to be a boring guy with good social skills, you will leave no emotional impact and she will not want to go out with you again.

You can practice being present and being a good listener on literally anyone you interact with. Try it on new people, and you will leave an amazing first impression, even if it is a guy. They will like you very much for it and consider you to be a good person, despite them knowing nothing about you. People will literally talk about themselves for days if you let them. Additionally, being a good listener will most likely grant you with opportunities in life because of how much people (not just women you are dating) will like you.

One observation I've made is the importance of first impressions. If you try this on people you know compared to people you're just meeting, you may get treated slightly different. For example, people you've known for a long time will still like talking about themselves and will still feel good, but if it is incongruent with ways you have behaved before they will on a subconscious level think you are being disingenuous. They will never verbalize it, but it's true. So, be careful who you give your presence to. You will notice a complete difference in how new people you interact with treat you and those who already know you well will treat you when practicing this skill. First impressions are very hard, if not impossible, to change. It's just human nature.

Also, you will notice how people love talking about themselves and probably get annoyed at having to listen to people blabber. Just do it. Being a good listener is a superpower that will yield remarkable results if done properly in your dating and personal life. Women do care about you, but they are more concerned with how you make them feel.

Being present and giving your attention to someone when they're speaking requires much energy and can be exhausting having to do, so be careful who you give your presence to. Having to devote your attention solely to one person speaking gets tiring and old after doing it for a while, so develop this skill so you can have it at your disposal when you need it, not to always make others feel good.

Last thing, if you behave this way with people you meet, being a good listener, playful and fun, being outwardly oriented, and you are not always this way, people may think there is something wrong with you. This is why I stress the importance of using this wisely, because presence requires much energy and focus and is exhausting like mentioned earlier. Every time someone sees you, they will associate very good feelings with you, so when they try speaking to you again and you are not behaving in a way that indicates they have your full focus and attention they will be confused and think maybe you are a little bipolar, when in reality this is just very tiring to do multiple times a day.

This article goes into more specific detail: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-seduce-any-woman?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

TL;DR STOP BEING LAZY AND READ