I'm a 30 year old virgin. I never approached a girl in my life because of my severe social anxiety, but I finally did it today.

I went to a bar with live music alone. It's the third time I've been to this bar and always alone. I usually stand by the bar and watch people dance all night, but this time I made a change. This woman was with her friends near me, but she seemed to be by herself and just as alone as me. She made eye contact with me and smiled and I smiled back. It took me maybe 40 minutes after making the initial eye contact to finally approach her. I squeezed myself passed her friends (With no plan in my mind) and leaned over the counter next to her, while making sure my arm came in contact with hers. I looked her in the eyes and offered to buy her a drink. She declined and told me that she was the driver. I asked her about her night, made comments about the music and she reciprocated to the conversation a lot - and she really made an effort when I was lost for words, which happened often. I asked her if she wanted to dance and mentioned that I don't dance, but I'm willing to try, and she said yes, but somehow we kept talking instead of dancing. The band had just stopped playing and was on break, so we chatted for maybe 30 minutes.

Then she told me she was leaving, and she told me that I could walk out with her. I accepted and followed her outside the bar. We spoke a little bit face to face, about a foot from each other. And I asked if I could come home with her - she declined. I then asked for a kiss - that's right, I ASKED (totally against the techniques taught here) and we kissed. I followed her lead with the kiss and ran my hand against her back. She left, I left, then we texted a bit when I got home. I tried to tease her by text and she misunderstood (note to self: keep texting to a minimum), but I told her that I wanted to take her out some time. She said I was very handsome, and I told her she was very beautiful. We texted our good nights.

By the way, she's likely 5-10 years older than me, which doesn't matter to me, but it made it easier for me to ask for the kiss, rather than take it - because she was willing to lead, which I find extremely hot since I lack experience.

Jesus is real

By the way, I lied to her. When she asked me why I was there alone I told her that I just exited a relationship and was feeling down. I felt nervous about telling her the truth - which was: I was there because I'm lonely. Think I should confess my lie when I see her? She and her drunk friend lied to me about her job when I had asked, and then she confessed to me her real job when we spoke outside.