Shit Test of the Week - When She Says "I don't Give Out My Number"

ImJustSo · 2018-04-17T15:47:58+00:00

Honestly, I get that sometimes you don't really want to miss a connection with someone, but I believe too strongly in reciprocal interactions.

I have actually only had this happen once and it did catch me off guard, because this woman initiated conversation with me first, on the bus. I smiled at her, said a quick hello and then ten minutes later she started a conversation.

After the remainder of my ride and chat with her, our stops were coming soon. I asked if she'd like to exchange numbers so we could speak again in the future. She declined and things went quiet, then she quickly assured me, "It's not you! I just...don't give out my number..." but she also didn't offer any further way to chat in the future. I responded with, "Well, would you like to continue chatting until our stops then?" and she agreed that she'd like to do that.

So yes, there was chemistry. Yes, we were both enjoying the talk. Unfortunately, she did not help me further with a reciprocation that we should speak further someday and I am not someone that chases. I will dance, and I will lead, but I will not sacrifice an equal standing with a woman.

It's a shame that she said that, but that's who she is and I am who I am. So, oh well. Shit test failure that's acceptable to me, as it's a perfect screening for a woman that doesn't work for me.

Cam2071 · 2018-04-17T20:10:12+00:00

"Then take my number ☺"

I actually prefer giving a number than taking a number. Because if there was a genuine connection she will hit me up.

Tenmagnet · 2018-04-17T14:55:46+00:00

Responses?

ortsnom · 2018-04-17T15:23:04+00:00

Neither do I so What's your number?

rudolftherednosed · 2018-04-17T18:13:20+00:00

If she really likes you, she'll ask for your number. I don't understand these, "Shit tests." It makes it sound like everytime you talk to a woman, you have to prove you have a manhood, which men were born with anyway.

Potosi88 · 2018-04-17T18:26:53+00:00

If you saw her on the bus, good chance you'll see her again. Build more comfortable relations with witty small talk.

ls737100 · 2018-04-18T12:06:55+00:00

Ya, these seem like shit answers. I say move on and find the women in the location that are more likely to be interested.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-04-17T15:55:33+00:00

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I like these posts of yours and the conversations that come with them.

But I gotta say, I'm conflicted on this one.

You meet someone, it’s going great....There is chemistry.....

...And she says “I don’t give out my phone number“.

Her response to the number close, immediately calls into question everything before that.

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First, she might be saying it because she really has some rule about giving her phone number out at bars for some reason.

If there's really a connection then she shouldn't have an issue giving out her number.

Plenty of people make "rules" after they get hurt or something, but those same rules get quickly broken if they meet someone they really hit it off with.

Same concept as when we often see people who keep making the same relationship, and claiming that each time is the last time, and that they're enacting some sort of rule to prevent it next time.

Second, she might be saying it because she likes you but feels awkward giving out her number for some reason.

If she really likes the guy, she won't feel awkward giving out her number. She'll be feeling loss aversion and will go along with a suggestion to exchange contact information.

Third, she might be saying it because she actually just doesn’t like you and is trying to blow you off politely.

This is definitely a possibility.

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I'll add a fourth possibility: Some girls, just like some guys, are incapable of getting involved with someone, without needlessly adding drama, games, and/or manipulation to the process.

Which, in this case, is a red flag. A fail. A bullet to dodge. Rather than a "test" to pass.

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The good news with this STotW is that it isn't one guys will see if the girl is interested, only if she's actually uninterested or manipulative enough that not getting there is actually a bullet dodged.

Title	Shit Test of the Week - When She Says "I don't Give Out My Number"
Author	Tenmagnet
Upvotes	19
Comments	37
Date	April 17, 2018 2:28 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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