This one thing alone has gotten me countless dates, new girls into my life, helped me revive dying or dead leads, and create new opportunities.
Too many times I see students missing out on opportunities with connections they have made with amazing and beautiful girls.
If you find that girls you meet or match with:
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Don’t want to meet up with you and feel like time wasters
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Flaking on dates.
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Constantly showing concerns around safety when meeting you
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Not willing to meet up at your place.
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THEN you need to start picking up the phone and calling.
A call is something immensely powerful. If done right, it can create massive engagement and curiosity. She will think about you and await your next call. It’s a gesture symbolic of masculinity of confidence. It creates a deeper connection and builds rapport as she can experience MORE of you.
Also, the pure fact that no other guy is calling means you stand out in her mind, and if you can develop a sexy phone voice, it’s a value spike just in itself.
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This guide teaches you how to achieve this from acquiring the number itself until close.
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Getting The Number From Cold Approach:
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The reason why girls usually don’t want to talk on the phone is the same reason we don’t want to approach. It can create some anxiety especially in younger girls who grew up on messenger and likely don’t even call their friends anymore, because what if it gets awkward on the phone?
When it comes to cold approach I number close the following way to remove some of that anxiety and set up the frame that calling is fun and chill.
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1) Seed the date and make plans to see the girl again. After this ask for her phone to place your number, at this point she may object as she doesn’t want to be the one to feel obliged to message first. Meet her objection by saying “Oh no, it’s just my phones about to die I’ll just call myself so I have your number”.
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2) Then call your own number. I usually add in some humour to break the silence “Actually I'm just calling my mum, just letting her know I'm… Safe / Met a nice Italian girl / Found a Wife etc etc
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3) As your phone begins to ring act like its someone else calling and pass it on to the girl “oh shit, can you please get this” *answer phone and pass it to her*
Then begin talking “Hello, hey, um yeah, I just met this really cool girl, but I think she might be a little weird..”
I have this conversation as I walk away from her, so now she is most likely going to continue this role play while having the first instance of a phone conversation with you. It helps to reduce the awkwardness and uncomfortableness that can be associated with a phone call.
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4) I then mention “I’ll give you a call over the next few days to organise/confirm *date*.
This then sets the expectation that you will call again and she will wait eagerly for your call.
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How To Call Her:
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Now the right time to call is when she has her phone in her hand. Never ask to speak on the phone because her answer will almost always be no. Exception being typically to older career women who are comfortable with this.
You should ideally only call when you know she has her phone in her hand. Otherwise its too easy to come up with an excuse.
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Send out a value offering text or a re opening text depending on the situation.
Wait for her to reply (content itself is irrelevant)
I then call immediately. As the phone is ringing a few things usually go through the girl’s mind. The two main things are why is he calling me and how long will I be on the phone.
To meet these concerns, start your conversation with a false time constraint and explain why you are calling.
“Hey, I'm about to.. Head out for some drinks / Meet with friends / Go to the gym .. so its easier to call.. how was your day, do anything fun?
After she answers then share something about your day that displays value, or a very short funny incident.
Then from here you can basically just vibe a little bit with her, if at this point she’s investing then I would organise or confirm a date (wine at my place).
If it doesn’t feel like it’s on then I would seed the idea of a date “later I'm heading to this new bar, my friend told me about it, they play salsa music and have amazing cocktails, it sounds like a place you’d love actually (but don’t invite her). Later, you can then tell her how much of a good time you had and use it to organise a drink out with her.
Now when the conversation is on a high i.e. she’s investing and almost finished a story, or she’s laughing from something you said, then cut the conversation.
“sorry I have to go now (can reference your time constraint), talk soon.”
This leaves her with a void, and makes her look forward to talking to you again.
I will also reward and encourage talking on the phone with a follow up message. “you sound so sexy on the phone”
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If She Doesn’t Answer:
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Then I frame it that I'm a confident man that she’s too shy to talk to on the phone with.
“I understand if you’re too shy to talk on the phone”
Now, you may actually get a legit logistical reason why she can’t “I'm eating dinner with my family right now”. In this case I usually say “Cool, when are you free for a quick call” or just continue with text game, I usually reference why I was calling though “was just quickly calling to chat, about to head to the gym”
If she acknowledges that she doesn’t like talking on the phone then I just continue text game and don’t push the call. Some girls will just refuse to talk on the phone and you don’t want to ruin the interaction by making her uncomfortable.
“It’s cool, I’d get nervous talking to me too… “
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How Often To Call:
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I call to set plans, then to confirm the night before and then usually have the girl call me when she arrives at the location.
For girls that you continue to see I find that you don’t have to call that often compared to texting. I usually will call a girl from every 1 week to 1 month.
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Tips To Improve Your Confidence On The Phone:
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- Call a friend first to build ‘momentum’
- Have the phone on loud speaker
- Talk into a mirror
- Remember it doesn’t have to be particularly fascinating! Just believe what you’re saying is good enough and share some stories
No idea why the last two work, but I found them helpful and since, so have most of our students.
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I know a lot of guys are big fans of voice memos now.
This is something that I have just started testing out and I’m loving it. Much of the principles are the same but has the advantage of removing any awkwardness or uncomfortable feelings the girl might have from a call. However, most girls in Australia (not sure about other areas) don’t use whatsapp and I usually just get the girls number, so voice memos are not available to use. Also, I mainly use them as a transition to calling. I still want to stand out from other guys, and still feel that a call has a lot more benefits.
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If implemented correctly and practiced over time, this should drastically increase your number close to meet up ratio! Let me know if you have any questions 📷😊