Why do I always get told to workout?

MsTinaFey · 2018-10-31T20:16:59+00:00

Working out tends to improve your confidence and appearance so it's just always solid advice, especially from strangers who don't know much more about you.

lowtiergodz · 2018-10-31T19:58:51+00:00

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SpinPlates · 2018-10-31T23:28:40+00:00

Working out is fucking amazing for your mental and physical wellbeing.

dogenes09 · 2018-10-31T20:13:28+00:00

Apparently something about your physique is transmitting an almost repulsive level of weakness and lack of fitness. It's not fair, but if women are telling you this, you should listen. You don't need to get swole, but apparently you need a little size, or presence, or testosterone. Who knows.

Either way you should workout just because life is relatively unhealthy these days and you need to make up for all the sitting and bad eating.

Foobyx · 2018-10-31T23:56:20+00:00

You like women with curves - breasts, waist, hips- right? Women like men with curves - muscles.

But if you are lazy and dont want to improve, it s ok, just dont complain.

Nitro666999 · 2018-11-01T01:15:57+00:00

It’s just something you gotta do, like brushing your teeth.

zoyzause · 2018-11-01T01:50:57+00:00

Who's telling you this? People in person or online? If online, then it's because we don't know what you look like but working out (or any exercise really) has been shown to improve confidence, mood, and health.

If in person and it's friends of yours, they may be concerned about your health

recyclablebanthas · 2018-11-01T04:09:53+00:00

However I’m not really into going to the gym. I don’t understand why this is always what people bring up when I mention improving myself. It seems like nothing else.

You may think that "nothing else" is being suggested, but that's just confirmation bias. There are plenty of suggestions that involve mindset issues, that are arguably as important or more so, then being fit.

That said, being fit is just something you should be doing for yourself. You only get one body and it's your only way to move around and experience this world we live in. Do you really want to treat it like crap and lessen your own ability to move around and have fun?

Lotus_1 · 2018-10-31T21:43:38+00:00

It's a good spot to find other people trying to improve themselves one way or another, the way I see it.

Either mentally or physically. It's the idea of trying to beat your personal best everyday, and on top of that, you feel great.

dailymanup · 2018-11-01T01:01:24+00:00

It's because women find muscles attractive. Let me give you some extra advice. Forget women. Learn to love the gym because it reduces stress, depression, anxiety, medical problems, and can be a social environment. Learn to love it for that. I'll guarantee you two things: when you first start going to the gym you're going to hate it. You'll be sore. You won't want to do it. You'll feel tired. You'll say shit like: "maybe tomorrow."

Forget all that. Force yourself to go to the gym daily (at least 5 days a week). In about 1 or 2 weeks you'll wake up one morning sore as fuck, you'll stretch out and think: man I feel fucking good. Then you'll start going regularly. It won't seem like a chore. You'll actually enjoy it. And then, bonus: girls will start looking at you different. Like really. Like you ever notice chicks checking you out now? I'm guessing not. Get ready for an eyeball raping. Yes it happens. But only after you put on some bulk.

BTW, once you accomplish this and see girls at the gym checking you out. Make sure to add them to your network. Don't hit on them cold. That's not the gym way. Check out the college approach for more info.

kayama57 · 2018-11-01T01:08:10+00:00

Kind of like when your Mom or whoever raised you says wash your hands, eat your vegetables, do your homework and/or clean up your room. You don’t absolutely have to do it in order to live a technically valid human life, but at the end of the day the advice was right, those tedious annoying things will work over time and make you and your life 100% better and whether you want to or not is irrelevant. Because you deserve better than to be in a place where everybody tells you to do what is obvious when they see you from outside. I spent a long time when I didn’t WANT nor even desperately NEED a job. I had a sufficient passive income going on and Incould play my video games in peace and a lot of people were on my case all the damned time about “get a job and bla bla bla” and then one day I let it happen, I got a job, and I’ve never looked back, and I lost so much damned time that you’d punch me in the face real hard with both of your unfit fists if you knew how much normal adult life time I allowed to pass by just by being a stubborn dumbass

LingeringGnome · 2018-11-01T01:42:57+00:00

If you have time to turn on your TV, you have time to hit the weights at the gym.

WhirlpoolOfHorrors · 2018-11-01T03:04:50+00:00

As someone who has begun doing strength and cardio workouts every day (except on rest days) allow me to explain a few good points as to why everybody should exercise/go to the gym:

Workouts especially good ones release endorphins into people's brains, this is mostly to deal with the amount of soreness a person feels after a workout. But, it also effects the person's mood as they are now in a good state of mind, even if they weren't previously.
Workouts make you tired. Why is this useful? Because for starters it calms down people with depression and anxiety (speaking from experience) as well as makes you enter a "fuck it" state of mind. When in this mental state, you don't feel as inhibited by your fears because your tired, making talking to people/asking people out easier.
Because working out leads to better habits. If you haven't pick up the book "The Power of Habit" by Charles Duhigg the guy talks about several aspects of self-improvement and habits. But he also discusses how core habits like working out on a set schedule leads to changes in other aspects of life such as diet, approaches to problems, and more.

Overall, it's got great benefits. That being said if the gym isn't your thing, you can just run or jog which provides the same benefits.

Joan_Zeroz · 2018-11-01T04:37:32+00:00

Be healthy but do not fall into the idea that you need to hit the gym, they may tell you this because you look insecure or affraid about everything, man up.

Zeroz

2018-11-01T12:33:24+00:00

Lifting is an absolute part of life. You won't get anywhere until you've accepted this truth. If there was a drug that gave you confidence, stamina, better looks and energy, with not many downsides, wouldn't you take it? That drug is called a barbell.

People would be saying it because you look skinny, weak and depressed.

If you aren't rebuilding your body with as much muscle as possible, you are going to struggle to be assertive with women (and men) or look good to them at first glance, making everything else you put effort into more of an uphill battle. You need to be the one striding into a room, feeling confident and looking around to catch people's eyes.

Bonus, if the gym does feature in your life, you'll hit 30 and not be balding with a paunch that never goes away. You'll be pretty youthful still and able to chase after girls in their 20's for another decade. I'm in my 30's and after taking diet and lifting seriously I can barely describe how my entire outlook on life has turned so positive.

Jacob_961 · 2018-11-01T13:26:11+00:00

You look better, women become easier. Strong correlation. It takes time, effort and dedication but worth it if your verbals suck.

the_real_lunch_box · 2018-11-01T13:32:56+00:00

when you lift your appearance improves due to fat loss. you look healthier. you look more masculine. you are more attractive. game and style aren't enough. when you can bench press 1.5x your body weight for reps, you have a very strong aura of confidence.

judahman8 · 2018-11-02T09:02:55+00:00

Because everyone should workout. That’s like someone telling you to brush your teeth. No one is better off not brushing their teeth lol. Who cares if you like to brush your teeth, that’s so irrelevant. Your health is extremely important and working out is extremely important to your health.

Working out is probably the easiest way to improve yourself with the least effort in the shortest amount of time. If you won’t do that then there’s very little chance that you will do anything else that will actually have a drastic effect on your self improvement.

You can workout an hour a day and be completely transformed mentally and physically in about a year. You would have to spend like 16 hours a day reading and comprehending books to just be mentally transformed in a year. But then you still have to spend another year actively implementing the things you learned to have any long lasting effects. Finding a hobby would take ten times as long and doing something drastic like backpacking around the world would take ten times the commitment.

Self improvement is really about creating new habits and changing your perception. Working out is just an easy habit to create that has a drastic impact on you. If you are really wanting to improve then maybe you should just try what everyone is telling you and see what happens.

hunterpua · 2018-10-31T20:08:07+00:00

Who are you talking to exactly?

People around you?

These people aren't necessarily improving themselves. They're just like a mainstream crowd trying to make comments about boxing or MMA. They don't really know shit so you should ignore them when it comes to serious advice.

Red Pill guys or a weird subsection of the seduction community that think being jacked is everything?

Yeah, their game is shit which is why they try to make up for it by trying to build a nice body.

Part of self improvement is about improving the state of your body though. So you don't necessarily need to go to the gym to try and look pretty. There are tons of other things you can get into, martial arts, cold exposure like the Wim Hof method, tinkering with your diet, MovNat or stuff with Ido Portal (the guy that trains Conor McGregor to do all those weird/cool stuff with his body), Parkour, Cycling, Trail Running...stuff like that.

But if you're looking for improvement in things of the non-physical nature then I'd say learn to make money and learn to grow money (two different things), learn to use game to network and build social circles, learn to speak in front of a crowd, and maybe learn how to free up a bunch of time and work from anywhere in the world so that you can go anywhere and do anything you want to do.

Grifos · 2018-10-31T20:30:30+00:00

Women are attracted to indicators of testosterone. Muscles are big indicators of testosterone and healthy eating. You get muscles by working out.

Indyrect4Lyfe · 2018-11-01T06:41:14+00:00

It's just an easy suggestion to make, and it puts them in the dominant position in conversation.

The vast majority going to the gym are not going to see a major improvement without chemical assistance. The few who do, already had exceptionally high hormone levels innately. Some study finding that weightlifting raised testosterone by 20 or even 40 percent is negligible. You'd want at least 300-400% increase to see a visible difference.

Most of the "benefits" of gym are mental, or delusional. It seems to get guys and their egos pumped up, even if they have little to show for it in their sleeves. It can also be a transformative experience to "nerds" who've been strangers to physical exercise their whole lives. It's a non-competitive environment so they don't quickly get disqualified like in popular team sports.

Title	Why do I always get told to workout?
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Date	October 31, 2018 7:47 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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