Working out and eating healthy has changed my perspective on life for the better. If you haven’t started lifting weights, do it now

FlomTV · 2019-07-19T13:11:27+00:00

I know I'm just a stranger on Reddit but I'm proud of you! Life is hard as it is, and it's even harder when you're overweight (I've been there too). Making a change is always a challenge, but accessing your inner strength to make that change can be an even bigger process at times. Congratulations on finding the power to improve your life, and best of luck for your continued growth!

bugxter · 2019-07-19T15:41:35+00:00

My 2 cents just because I think it's fair people come in with accurate expectations.

Lifting and taking better care of my nutrition has been one of the best changes I've ever done to my lifestyle. Prior to this, I also read several studies and articles explaining how lifting and taking care of your body will automatically make you more confident and have more success with women.

This was totally not my experience. If you have self-esteem and confidence issues the gym is not the silver bullet, you will still have to work on reducing your anxiety and approaching women or you will not make any progress. I'm still into lifting and nutrition but for my own good, not because it's helped me with women or anything.

You cannot out-train low confidence and cowardice.

Y34rZer0 · 2019-07-19T15:40:40+00:00

You're right. Fuck it man, I'm gonna do it.

hellomoto186 · 2019-07-19T16:05:30+00:00

Dude honestly how did you find the motivation to keep going? I keep getting hype to go back but it just fades away after a week or two

edit: thanks for the kind words everyone

Critical_Slice · 2019-07-19T17:26:44+00:00

Dude, amazing, keep it going!

Don't mean to steal your thunder but i experienced the same thing from the opposite situation. I was a 116 lbs when i graduated from college and was never happy with being the skinniest smallest dude around. Finally got around to being committed enough to make a change about it and be consistent. I motivated myself everyday by convincing myself that i had nothing better to do than to hit the gym rather than sit around in my apartment.

Was able to put on 35 lbs of muscle in less than 6 months which is significant as it marked an increase of nearly 30% of my previous body weight. The amount of confidence it gives me is immense. I have always wanted to do it, and my mind feels proud just of my ability to complete something i set out to do. Giving myself small goals in lifting and hitting them consistently month after month has done wonders for my happiness and keeps me excited about life in general.

Let alone the physical difference it made. Many people have noticed and i get compliments on my appearance, which i never got before. i notice BEING noticed for the first time and a drastic difference in the way people treat me.

Although appearance shouldn't mater, we can't help but react to these things as our brains are wired to respond to them. If you want to shield yourself from a responsibility you owe yourself to look your best self and be healthy, you can hide behind the belief that it won't make a difference. But it does, and i never realized to what degree.

It may be difficult because it takes TOTAL discipline and consistency like most people are not used to, after a month or two it seems strange that you ever did it any other way. I believe everyone needs to experience this for their own benefit, especially how it changes your perception of what you are capable of.

CarlCarlton · 2019-07-19T18:20:14+00:00

I used to be 300 lbs, now 180 and still cutting. Don't you fucking dare give up! My quality of life has improved dramatically; I don't sweat like a pig anymore, I have more daily energy, I regularly get compliments on my weight loss, I can participate into more physical activities. I recently started swing dance lessons, girls outnumber guys 2-to-1, it's pretty damn fun! We switch partners every 10 minutes, so I use that opportunity for speed dating 😉

Keep up the good work my dude.

Ruze_ · 2019-07-19T20:46:46+00:00

It's really all about your mindset. I've been lifting for years and I've had a six pack and I didn't get the results I wanted because I wasn't in the right state of mind.

Rymasq · 2019-07-19T18:23:52+00:00

Real talk, humans were meant to eat a diet of vegetables, healthy meats, non processed foods that were harvested from the land.

The more processed a food is from it's natural state the worse it is. Grilled meats, grilled vegetables, maybe a few whole grains in their natural state (oats, granola, quinoa (idk if this stuff is in it's natural state) (also some rice)), salads with dark leafy greens. But eating 2000 calories of fish, vegetables, beef, chicken, rather than 2000 calories of McDonalds makes a huge difference even if the caloric content is the same.

Pistachio_m4n · 2019-07-19T17:09:17+00:00

I 1000% agree with you.

If anybody is having issues joining the gym or following a workout plan, I recommend you join a group class like Cross-Fit, tennis, or whatever you fancy. Having other people training with you at the same time will help you get used to working out, and maybe even make some friends in the process.

I personally benefifted greatly from Jiu-jitsu.

UndeadStranger · 2019-07-19T18:23:22+00:00

Dude lifting is life. No matter what happens to you in life, be it a hard breakup or a honeymoon, financial success or bankruptcy, death in the family or a new addition, nobody can tell you how healthy you should be, its 100 percent under your control and will always be there. I see it as an unmoving pillar in the winds of change that is life.

2019-07-19T19:06:34+00:00

Started a decade ago. Now, getting up after work to go is one of the most challenging things I do daily. I just hate it now but it's a habit and obligation. Want to make it not that way anymore. :(

semislicktires · 2019-07-20T10:52:25+00:00

I use to be a skinny virgin.

Now i'm a fit virgin. Awesome

gytrdunn69 · 2019-07-19T15:56:31+00:00

VanderlyleGeese · 2019-07-19T17:09:52+00:00

Glad to see someone changing his lifestyle for the best. Lifting weights and hitting the gym can really change your mindset and boost your confidence. I’m currently doing the same, and can recommend it to anyone having second thoughts!!! You can do it!

leZickzack · 2019-07-19T18:52:45+00:00

Very good post!

sanepanda · 2019-07-19T19:49:00+00:00

God losing weight changed by life so much words can’t describe it.

hideout78 · 2019-07-19T20:46:04+00:00

Fuck yeah bitch!! I’m right there with you. Turned 40 this year and it’s now or never. Started StrongLifts. I could barely squat the bar to begin with. 3 months in and I’m squatting 150 easily. I realize that’s still very low, but the speed at which this is happening is unbelievable, esp for an older guy.

The diet is a huge part of it. I started running about 9 months ago and dropped down to around my goal weight. Now I’m bulking back up. It’s very hard to eat that much, but it doesn’t happen without it.

I know my body chemistry has changed because I eat about 4,000 calories a day, even on days when I don’t workout, and my weight gain is very slow, as it should be.

Wish I had done this sooner. Better late than never.

Edit - and it’s a lot more than just looking good. Muscle mass correlates to longevity, testosterone production, blood sugar regulation, etc. It’s actually one of the best activities you can do for yourself.

Steady state cardio, while better than nothing, has some interesting side effects, like lower testosterone production, etc. Your body will also adapt to it, so after a while it’s like you’re not even doing it.

Goldbatt1 · 2019-07-19T21:13:23+00:00

I dont know if it is just me but when I am working hard and see the effects of my hard work pay off; as in being able run for longer times, outlasting people in basketball or whatever. It just feels great to just be a better me and I feel that everytime I leave the gym. It can be addicting and I applaud you OP for getting that bread.

EarthWarping · 2019-07-19T21:56:30+00:00

The benefits certainly are immense

TaeKwonPiccolo · 2019-07-19T23:28:46+00:00

I started my weight loss at 288 lbs. I'm 226 lbs now. You're right, women start paying attention when you start lifting weights. I used a high protein low carb diet.

Jugurthajones87 · 2019-07-20T00:16:29+00:00

Great post, brother. I’ve been working out for the last two years, I’m in good shape with a great physique and you’re right, it does wonders for your confidence. In another year or so you’ll be killing it. Keep it up. 💪

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A_Suffering_Panda · 2019-07-20T04:27:36+00:00

Will the gym make me lose weight? I was alway under the impression it would make you bigger and healthier

Haider_Chiraz · 2019-07-20T15:32:23+00:00

Carbs and Sugar are plague.. i went Keto for about a month n i feel like a monster. Water fasting mixed with mindfulness are like DMT without DMT

alexparunov · 2019-07-19T21:21:03+00:00

A total stranger here, but up you go ma man! 👊 I had a slightly different case. 4.5 months ago I was around 65kg with belly and obviously body fat. So I was skinny fat, highly unattractive even for me. Started lifting sickly 4 times a week, eating properly rich food in calories, nutritients and proteins. Currently I am 70kg, squatting and deadlifting 220 lb (100kg), benching 110 lb, etc. My physique changed radically and I notice those double takes by girls at work, public transportation, etc. This obviously gives you very good self appreciation and boosts confidence. Who doesn't like feeling of being liked?

You approach people in general with more confidence and everyone notices it. But currently I am lifting for myself, cause I like it. It boosts my dopamine levels and I feel better overall. Plus good rest after highly intellectually intensive work in front of computer. Boost in wellbeing hormones obviously gives you more confidence and reduces anxiety during interactions.

But as said, it's just half of the work. You need to improve your game. Then you will be on fire ma man!

Alex_O7 · 2019-07-19T16:13:54+00:00

Every week come out a new thing now... the last one was dancing, know lifting waights, what's up next?

When will you learn that everyone is different and the things that works for one do not work for others necessarily?

Title	Working out and eating healthy has changed my perspective on life for the better. If you haven’t started lifting weights, do it now
Author	DrakeImYourSon
Upvotes	465
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Date	July 19, 2019 12:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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