[FR] Cold approach day game from a noob

halle_scary · 2019-11-11T15:04:27+00:00

Set 2 seemed interested. You should've clever asked for the contact info cell number instagram or fb

Atriev · 2019-11-11T16:28:07+00:00

You should have closed the second set.

InciteGreatness · 2019-11-11T17:32:48+00:00

Okay. First of all, You say you’re a nerd and allow me to say that you are the Hero of all nerds when it comes to approaching women.. You’ve got to have alot of stored in confidence to be able to walk calmly to someone and talk to them. I highly respect that.

Second Statement :

You did great. Different women, in different situations need different conversations starters and obviously you observed this and came up with the ideal starter to get the convo going.

Third statement:

Don’t go too hard on yourself.. Instead of thinking “ Will this girl like me” try the opposite “ Will I like this girl”. It’s kind of a trick to get yourself to calm down in social situations. It has worked for me . Also, Plan everything out. Know your starter before you approach a girl and stay calm and confident. You could be nervous as ever inside but giving signs of confidence will most likely make you look confident and feel confident (another psychological trick) and therefore, confidence equals attractiveness.

Keep being genuine in your approach as you have been and always know that, not all interactions will be a success, it’s inevitable, just like Thanos (Although that turned out to be false).

Once you introduce yourself, you can keep the conversation going or you could shake her hand, smile, give her eye contact, telling her what a pleasure it is to meet her, make sure that smile is authentic as they will see it in your eyes and tell her you’d love to get to know her, if she doesn’t mind exchanging numbers. If she doesn’t. That’s okay and if she does, Jackpot!

About your compliments. Avoid giving a simple, obvious one. It comes off as flattery and that you’re trying to win her over.. So say what you mean, observe and compliment her about something that isn’t obvious, that is unique to her. Also avoid compliments about her body features, maybe compliment her about what she’s studying and try to make her talk more about it.. You don’t have to talk about yourself, get her to talk about herself .. An exemple: if she wants to be a social worker and you’ve been talking to her for while and you think she’s nice.. Tell her, The world needs more social workers as kind as her.

and again, different girls need different stimulations and conversation starters.. You just need to figure that out. Don’t make major changes to your approach though because repetitiveness will make you more confident in what you’re doing.

I hope I helped.

SmokingBeneathStars · 2019-11-11T16:47:50+00:00

I don't have any field experience yet. Haven't got the time and balls for it but what I would've done with the second one is say something along the lines of "I'll leave you to study, I'd like to continue this conversation with you some other time" and see how she reacts. I wonder what more experienced people think about this.

MisfitCasper · 2019-11-11T16:28:45+00:00

I too think the second interaction was interesting. I think you should have asked for number. Even it's fake or real doesn't matter. If they decide to not talk to you in the future, they might go AWOL. Better to try . I am glad you tried 3 women in a day. Have you tried approaching someone you find attractive on the street? I mean like intercepting them . That's still something that I haven't been able to do yet.

MatteoMancino22 · 2019-11-11T17:20:58+00:00

Great job man. This is a really good field report and honestly should be used by everyone lol.

The third set is actually the most interesting and I think you are doing way better than you think you are.

You confidently approached (self-confidence)(+2) two waitresses who were chatting. You said something funny and gave them good emotions (leadership quality, emotionally intelligent) (+2) to which they laughed and bantered with you.

This is where is it gets the most interesting in my opinion.

You asked a question "Hey I have a question, do pick up lines work?" Aka setting the premise in a flirty man-to-woman way (being direct, alpha)(+1). Then they laughed and gave an a flirty reply. Which you then boldly repeat onn her suggesting a (high level of social confidence awareness) (+2.5).

This is where you piqued her sexual interest. She replies with "ok that was creepy". Which is actually a big fat shit test, which is a great thing because she's interested. She was probably attracted to you BUT you didn't close (-4).

cdex_ · 2019-11-11T17:21:03+00:00

Good stuff man! The fact that you actually ran 3 sets is great!

1st set - opening in that setting usually poses a lot of barriers. I don’t really like being disturbed while eating food, so it could be similar for the girl too. But it was good warm up

2nd set - seems like it ran splendidly. As everyone says - should definitely tried to get her number or insta or something. I know people shit on social here, but insta is good to just get if you arent there to ask the number but got enough rapport going. Later (couple of days later) you could just send something like “i was wondering why i havent run into you again yet” or something like that. Works well, and if not, no worries :)

3rd set - this just seems like good banter. Again good practice!

Good job ny man! Keep it up!

erect_sean · 2019-11-11T16:53:32+00:00

Congrats on the approaches, try to be less hard on yourself and be proud of every approach.

Set 2 seems like your best set and you should try going in for a number or fb/instagram. Anyway good job and keep approaching/posting your results

Mirabuc · 2019-11-11T16:55:31+00:00

Great job dude! Best way to improve is by doing what you’re doing.

I’d say for set 2, instead of saying “do you wanna get back to studying” be like “I’ll leave you to your studies, but let’s exchange number”. It shows more initiative and leadership.

I feel the way you said it was basically giving her golden opportunity to get back to her thing.

lammsors · 2019-11-12T06:21:25+00:00

Set #2 obviously work on eye contact, get to a place where you're more comfortable with eye contact than she is. You should try to keep your interactions in general away from a fact-exchange nature, i ask a question like 'what do you do' she responds with whatever and i ask 'do you enjoy it or are you just in it for the money' factual questions are only a catalyst for finding out how she operates on an emotional level. Search on youtube James marshall 3 pillars to seductive success. In general try to have conversations that are more emotionally engaging and be comfortable with tension (eye contact, flirting). Try and squeeze in a sexual inuendo or joke into your next set, play around with it. Be comfortable with the tenstion. Also don't burn out the conversation, a good way to number close girl #2 would have been to add in a time limit, 'I'm just on my way to (activity x) we should hang out sometime, what's your number? Not as your opener but after a couple of tropics. And do that earlier in the interaction, in general you want to ask about her emotional questions while giving as little information about yourself as possible (making you a mystery and therefore more exciting).

Just a few ideas to hang onto, as for the nerves, keep approaching! Do this enough and you'll learn to be comfortable under that pressure xx

T0by_6race · 2019-11-12T00:22:34+00:00

You are a very brave man. Just reading this almost gave me an anxiety attack.

jackiesinthesun · 2019-11-11T22:43:11+00:00

2 sounded interested. 1 and 3. - it’s probably not you just not a good place to close. I’m not talking to anyone when I’m eating my burrito no matter how hot you are. Bartenders are at work. It’s annoying to be hit on at work but keep going and keep tipping well and you might get lucky.

grrinchas · 2019-11-11T23:20:05+00:00

I will tell you a secret if u really want to get good at game don’t do three sets per day. It will take you ages. Do 20-30 per day, literally just do until you get an insta date. Do 3set, sets with a guy, mother daughter etc. Today after work I opened liked 15 sets and went into two insta dates in 4 hours window. One insta date was with high end escort which smoked some weed or smth, didn’t happen anything but it was fucking awesome. This shit really makes you feel alive.

FinnaTravel · 2019-11-12T06:16:07+00:00

Good job but I could see you coming across as creepy in these scenarios.

Just remember that each female is just a sweetheart, smile at them moments before making eye contact, smiles are more important, even if you break eye contact. Having a random guy try to talk to you and having him stare at you is weird for females, UNLESS you’re genuinely smiling. I wouldn’t tell them much about your life and background until you’ve been 20 minutes in a conversation. Unless you hit it off, it would be fun mentioning.

Also complimenting a females physical characteristics only works well when you are attractive as well, it’s like an ugly girl calling you handsome, you’re like thanks! but i KNOW I could do better now. Wait till they like your personality, THEN strike them with that towards the end so they’ll remember you’re interested

1: remember females are super self conscious about others watching them eat

Females with headphones on, inside a coffee shop, which can be loud from grinding/espresso machines and ordering, generally like the busy atmosphere but their own seclusion. I would ask to share a table if its busy or she is at a big table with space then shoot to strike up a convo?
I’d say this was your best bet tbh. You can always leave your number on a napkin in restaurants/bars. (Good luck)

Hopefully this is more constructive than destructive criticism.

self_journey · 2019-11-12T14:03:28+00:00

Hey can I ask what city you're in? Number 2 sounds familiar lol.

Title	[FR] Cold approach day game from a noob
Author	Xazax310
Upvotes	74
Comments	38
Date	November 11, 2019 2:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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