The fastest way to get a girl on a date through text is by going SLOW | Texting 101 |

InFa-MoUs · 2020-01-18T16:18:28+00:00

ehh I'm on the fence about this, while yeah sure you never want to come off as creepy or needy but going slow can also be detrimental. all depends on the girl tbh.. is she super outgoing and social? its probably ok to ask for a date as soon as you're on that level of comfort.. is she more reserved then yeah slowly bring up that dimmer lol but good advice tho

2020-01-18T13:22:14+00:00

TL:DW Summary

Most of the biggest mistakes guys make in textgame is having a lack of patience

The guy gets the number, figure the girl likes them, and gets straight to making plans to get her on a date

The method would work....

If women thought the same way as men

Girls need not only value or attraction; they also need some level of comfort and assurance

They need to know that you are not weird or creepy

And they need to feel some sort of connection

For guys, attraction is like an on/off switch

For girls, it’s like a dimmer switch

So what you need to do is gradually increase the attraction and tensity over time as well as the commitment and consistency

If you’re trying too quickly to meetup, you are shooting yourself in the foot because unless she makes money on having sex, she’s going to need some level of comfort

And the biggest way to increase comfort is TIME

A lot of guys would rush the texting process with one text that drops the date and logistics without even building any kind of attraction

Instead of going through the motions, building as much attraction as you can and have your personality conveyed throughout the messages

Remember the primary objective of getting the number is to get her on a date

But a lot of times the fastest way to get a girl on a date, is actually to go slow

If you go too fast and get the word no, that’s the thing that will slow you down the most

It’s much better to go 3 texts to ask her out and hear yes yes yes than to ask her out in one text, get a no and have to start back to square one

That’s your goal...

Be patient enough that you’re hearing Yes’s rather than No’s

Good Luck!

MakaleaIsMyDogsName · 2020-01-18T19:49:00+00:00

Nope with the ADD of modern dating it’s much more alpha if the guy asks her out. It’s all about tone, be a man instead of coming off like a creep to have success with it. If it’s too much texting you run the risk of losing her interest.

janaheyiloveyou · 2020-01-18T20:21:22+00:00

This is wrong.. I always went fast and won

Malikisit · 2020-01-18T18:23:25+00:00

Why this community make things so complicated. If you have her number there’s reason she gave it to you. She’s either comfortable with you or she is attracted. Just ask her out goddamit!

Face the fact not every girl will say yes. Just move on to the next .

BetrayedUchiha · 2020-01-18T18:57:40+00:00

We have a limited amount of time on this Earth. I already dislike the title and don't plan on watching the vod, I read the tl;dr

It feels like this guy is just taking advice that worked 10 years ago and rehashing it as something new.

ruydan · 2020-01-18T15:39:41+00:00

I know this for a fact! Last year onnmy senior year in high school I was texting with this girl from my school and I never asked her out for a date or something (even though I wanted to) and after 2 weeks of texting she straight up told me " Why haven't we gone out? And she also confessed that she wanted to makeout with me

8380atgmaildotcom · 2020-01-18T21:10:31+00:00

He's zagging where yall are zigging.

Ultimately if you have abundance this strategy will yield greater investment and greater results

GreenyGaming · 2020-01-19T01:15:44+00:00

Dude, you can't do pickup your whole life. It's for young dudes.

Please go and talk with your doctor about hepatitis. You are too yellow.

Iamtheallison · 2020-01-18T22:03:23+00:00

As a woman, I can agree to this 100 percent. I want to get the point that we talk so much, I can’t wait for you to ask me out.

reomix · 2020-01-18T21:33:35+00:00

This is nearly impossible advice to apply given that girls be taking long hours to respond, can't even turn the dial. Maybe I've just been out of luck with the type of girls to actually have interest...idk

jack123955 · 2020-01-18T23:47:18+00:00

Hash I still have the program

2020-01-18T23:45:45+00:00

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2020-01-19T00:06:54+00:00

I never know how to start a converation via text/dating app

DrixlRey · 2020-01-19T01:13:26+00:00

I wish I seen this yesterday, this girl really wants to meet someone but I thought you're suppose to be quick, thanks to people in this sub...now I realize what we need to achieve before that happens.

hallcyon11 · 2020-01-19T03:18:34+00:00

One of the first things I ask girls on tinder is if they want to hang out and they always say yes... this is total bs.

_alegend_ · 2020-01-19T05:05:46+00:00

This guy is Todd Valentine from RSD. I often hear to Max, Julian and Tyler. But whole team is badass though.

jikol1906 · 2020-01-19T07:26:16+00:00

I send at most three texts to my cold approaches before asking them out. Works just fine.

cfrob · 2020-01-20T01:01:49+00:00

I think it's important to delineate here. I'm assuming you got the number from a cold approach. It's not like they don't know what's going on, obviously if you approach them and ask for their number, they know you want to take them out. In that case there are really only three possibilities:

1) The girl was not that interested and just gave you her number to placate you.
2) The girl was intrigued by you and might be interested, wants to see more of you.
3) You did your job and the girl is actually interested and wants to go on a date to see where it goes.

In the first case, no amount of texting is going to get her interested, you need more time with her in person and that's not really gonna happen. In the third case, the girl really wants to get to know you and not waste too much time texting, they already know they want to go out with you, and if you take too long they may lose interest. The second scenario is where I could see this working, maybe... But even so I think a lot of girls would rather spend time with you in person once they are comfortable.

Texting is kinda impersonal and can't demonstrate your personality like a real life interaction. So I think the conventional wisdom about just trying to set up a date ASAP is pretty good. If you only interacted with her for a few minutes, after a few days she will begin to forget what you look like, how you smelled, how you act, all the things that build real physical attraction.

So I'm not sure how slow you think it should happen, but there is definitely a balance. That balance also depends on the girl and how she feels about you so judging that based on the way she is responding is key.

NewbieCasanova · 2020-01-18T21:36:21+00:00

anyone who opposes the game of todd should be exterminated.

r3art · 2020-01-19T00:41:55+00:00

Wow. This is really bad advice. It's advising you to invest time and time in people that aren't even interested in you. Don't do that.

SpanishIntuition · 2020-01-19T03:40:45+00:00

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Title	The fastest way to get a girl on a date through text is by going SLOW \| Texting 101 \|
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Upvotes	455
Comments	87
Date	January 18, 2020 1:17 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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