Everyone has flaws and imperfections, either physically or personality wise.

Don’t get hung up on things about yourself which may be unalterable.

Don’t always be trying to overtly hide such flaws. The insecurity shown when trying to hide a fault often comes off as being way less attractive than the actual fault itself.

Obsessively trying to hide a fault highlights a person’s insecurity and shows low self-confidence.

In the cases where the fault could potentially have an impact on your performance, it’s often much more effective to directly address the issue upfront, and call out the elephant in the room as it were.

But for the scenarios where the fault is inconsequential, you could choose to address it instead in a more nonchalant manner. If the fault does not matter to you, why should it matter to other people?

You can joke about your flaws, but do not do so in a self-deprecating kind of way. If you joke about yourself in a self-deprecating kind of way, then you are probably hoping that people will laugh with you instead of just at you. And while perhaps funny, this does not make you look attractive.

However, being able to openly joke about yourself in such a way that you are not simply searching for approval from others, shows that you are truly comfortable with who you are.

You can also re-frame a fault as a positive.

Being overly defensive or qualifying oneself let’s someone know that they have successfully accomplished getting under your skin, which may have been their very intention. Completely ignoring such remarks or either responding nonchalantly or with a joke is often a much better response.

There are actually many benefits to having flaws:

"When you accept a flaw and remain confident despite it, more attraction and/or respect can be generated than if you lacked the so called flaw altogether." (Book)

Especially if the flaw is physical. Internal confidence is a way more attractive than some external superficial flaw.

If the flaw is blatantly obvious, and yet you conduct yourself as if it has no drastic effect on your self-worth, it shows great self-confidence.

Similarly, if others try to actively attack you over a flaw, but you remain nonreactive, confident and well-grounded despite their provocations, you can come off looking even better than before.

Faults can also allow other people to find you more accessible and relatable. People can’t identify and connect well with others who appear perfect.

And finally, learning to overcome certain shortcoming in life is what allows you to build resourcefulness, character and work ethic.

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