YOU'RE HOT THEN YOU'RE COLD, YOU'RE YES THEN YOU'RE NO

Amanda_daville · 2020-08-25T05:16:30+00:00

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averageredditcuck · 2020-08-24T22:43:10+00:00

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Amanda_daville · 2020-08-24T22:51:46+00:00

That’s a lot work... I was dropping a girl off a few months ago and we were making out in my car and I was moving a little fast for her and she said with a little attitude not right now, you’re going to have to work for this. We said our goodbyes and I never contacted her again... haha.

revente · 2020-08-24T22:51:43+00:00

Maybe just invite her for a proper date first? She liked you all the time but all you did was just pushing for sex.

StrawberryKiss2559 · 2020-08-25T08:55:17+00:00

Maybe she just wanted to hang out with you. You kissed. Does it have to be sex for you to think she might like you? It sounds like she’s not sure and she’s testing the waters. Is it a big deal if it takes more than one night?

It’s rare for me to sleep with a guy the first time we go on a date or hang out. The build up can be extremely hot.

Or maybe she thought she might like you but wasn’t that into it.

I mean, you won’t know until you hang out again. Or don’t hang out haha

rydendm · 2020-08-25T06:59:10+00:00

she's wasting your time, and you're wasting your breath with her

downstairslion · 2020-08-25T08:31:56+00:00

If she's only into you when she has nothing better going on, she's not actually into you. Move on

ChansonPerdue · 2020-08-24T22:34:23+00:00

Lol, fuck her she wanted the validation and attention

mystikalmix · 2020-08-25T03:52:13+00:00

From the looks of it 2 things could've happened

1) she sensed fear in you and it turned her off. You waited 30 minutes but thats not a bad thing because you do not know how she will react.

2) she's doing this to just for her own personal gain and she's playing games with you just to boost her own self confidence.

Assume option #2 even if it may not be the situation. Why?

Well you've already put yourself out there. She knows she can have you and she has you on a hook. She will keep toying with you and the more you fall for it the less attracted she will be to you. The secret is to not fall for it, do your own thing, chase other tail, don't initiate contact with her. The more time that you can give her, the less she want to give you. The less time that you can give her, the more shell want to give you. Yes women are backwards like this.

Now what will happen is...she'll get the hint that you've maybe lost interest or moved on. This is one of the biggest weapons against women who are playing mind games because now the power has shifted from her to you. This will cause her to become more interested because now she feels expendable and she will get curious about you (this builds sexual attraction). She will feel the need to contact you and she will. Your mindset now has to be at the point that, you don't give a damn about what this girl will do now and that you can play this little game too.. If she says "hey let's hang out", say yes but you need to have the intention that you will kiss her that day or you'll cut off contact with her completely. Basically you cannot let her have this hook on you anymore. Because if you guys hang out again, you go for a kiss and she rejects....yet you still contact her after, then she still got you on the hook.

Now if she kisses back and and you two possibly have sex. Well now that a whole different beast, whatever happens after that is truly up to you.

ithinkoutloudtoo · 2020-08-25T10:47:15+00:00

You are wasting your time with her.

TcherCris · 2020-08-24T22:29:07+00:00

maybe she just wanted a friend? idk

averageredditcuck · 2020-08-25T05:01:08+00:00

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vecter · 2020-08-25T07:56:10+00:00

Dude your knowledge of game is basically zero. Start with the fundamentals. You’re doing literally everything wrong.

1800_bronz · 2020-08-25T01:53:00+00:00

should of just sent it...

whats the worst that would happen

Amanda_daville · 2020-08-25T06:26:01+00:00

Unpopular opinion(for this group): as woman, I personally HATE being invited over for "come to my place" 'dates.' However, given the whole covid thing I'll give you a small pass. Also, her actually deciding to come over despite shutting it down before may mean you eased in and actually gained her trust. Good work. I'm actually glad you didn't just try to go straight for it this time, and I don't see anything wrong with her response. If she actually sees you as boyfriend material she most likely is not trying to sleep with you the first date, nor does she want you to think of her as "easy. " Give the girl her props. Had she had sex the first night, how would your thoughts of her have changed? She may be more receptive next time, just make sure to keep showing your interest despite not getting laid.

throwawayzibil · 2020-08-25T06:57:12+00:00

Straight up hahaha

anonwanttogetbetter · 2020-08-25T09:04:50+00:00

Lol. She probably just literally doesn’t want to have sex straight away, chill out. It may not be a turn on/turn off thing.

I would pull away very slightly though. She’s not blanking you, just teasing you a little. Once she realises you’re sick of it already, she’ll get the ultimatum.

I can’t stand when girls make it awkward.

So_Forlorn · 2020-08-25T10:17:52+00:00

My Brain is confused by reading this hahah.. she probably has her reasons but.. I mean.. it just.. makes no sense

jakobolobo · 2020-08-25T11:44:10+00:00

She is crazy. She doesnt know how her feelings work, and that ends up hurting other people

Psych-ster · 2020-08-25T12:22:45+00:00

Yes, you go do that. Bye bye. Leave us alone. :)

Left4dinner · 2020-08-25T12:41:57+00:00

Risky going to parties with covid going on isnt?

Masol_The_Producer · 2020-08-24T23:44:11+00:00

The problem here is you’re viewing and acting based on your own way of seeing things rather than hers.

You need to basically mirror her way of seeing things and like empathy or some shit

TheBYOBShow · 2020-08-25T00:32:42+00:00

Krrraaaaaazzzzzzyyyy... Run

Yellowsuga · 2020-08-25T03:02:49+00:00

This is a Katie Perry song!

marowitt · 2020-08-25T11:18:38+00:00

Did you make an effort to make the conversations you had sexual? I'm sure you didn't.

Also if a woman flakes 2 times move on, she's just wasting your time.

Dutchcat1077 · 2020-08-25T02:19:47+00:00

Cock tease. Next time pull her hair and say “give Daddy some sugar baby”.

Title	YOU'RE HOT THEN YOU'RE COLD, YOU'RE YES THEN YOU'RE NO
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	218
Comments	87
Date	August 24, 2020 10:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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