If you're someone that's scared to escalate things to a romantic or sexual level with women then this is the post for you. You have no excuse after this.

First, story time.

Two years ago, when I was still very obsessed with game, I was at the park with one of my wing-men rolling a joint on a sunny afternoon. This girl walks by and catches my interest, so I get up and approach her. We're in conversation, doing my usual thing: flirting and banter. Then, 5-10 minutes into the conversation, I just felt this deep inkling to kiss her. I don't know where it came from, but my senses were telling me "Go for it." And I did. And I got rejected.

The girl literally pulled back and gave me this very weirded out look. I just kind of laughed it off and kept talking as if nothing happened. After a little more chit-chat, we made plans for the following week, exchanged numbers and bid her farewell.

Fast forward to the date. We are chilling at a nice coffee spot on a rainy evening. Our conversation is very casual but there's a lot of physicality and eye contact. I feel that inkling again. I go for it. She pulls back again and just like before, I kept my cool and continued talking as if nothing happened. Minutes later, she's giving me a hand massage, I go for the kiss, rejected, no reaction, keep talking. Then she's on my lap, I go for the kiss, rejected, keep talking.

This probably happened close to 5 or 6 times before she finally kissed me while she was sitting on my lap on an outside bench, with my hand rubbing her delicates through the pants.

Long story short, we ended up dating for 8 months after that.

Whenever I would ask her about her initial impression of me, she would always use words such as dangerous, bad boy, live in the moment, care free etc.

You would think she'd have more negative things to say, right? After all, she did reject me. Multiple times.

Well, here's the thing:

One of the biggest female attraction switches is when a woman meets a guy that doesn't give a fuck. The kind of guy that just lives in the moment, is expressive, a little bit offensive and dangerous.

The reason that that is attractive is because a man that is able to truly not give a fuck and just express himself authentically is a man that lives in abundance. A man that has so many options and such an amazing lifestyle that he doesn't need anyone else's validation but his own.

Now, I'm not saying that you should purposefully kiss a girl to get rejected so you can demonstrate this. What I am saying is that escalating things can work in your favour more times than not. Because even if you do get rejected, the fact that you don't react to it will often get the girl very perplexed. She'll start thinking things like "Why doesn't this guy care?" "Does he really even like me?" "Is he already dating anyone else?" "Is he used to better girls than me?" And now her ego is invested.

I've experienced this phenomenon multiple times and it's the main reason why I am not scared to escalate sexually with girls. Because even if they reject me, I can use it as an opportunity to demonstrate my indifference.

So, if I can get rejected for the kiss that many times and still get the girl, you have no excuse for not escalating by taking that girl's hand, saying that risky line ir giving her that sexual vibe.

Leave your thoughts below, player.

Edit: I see there's a bit of concern as to if I'm implying that if a girl says no then you should ignore it and keep pursuing. That is NOT what I'm saying here. Context is everything. In the situation described above, the girl kept flirting, touching and giving me all kinds of signals that it was on, which is why I kept pursuing. If at any point I could see that she was uncomfortable or felt pressured in the situation, I would've stopped. It's all about the context.