How do men release their emotions?

cheesywipper · 2021-02-04T11:33:43+00:00

Its something I have always struggled with, frequent time outside. I go for walks with my headphones in which gives me time to process. Also platonic female friends are so important, learn by their example, share with them they will love it

EDIT: It will feel excrutiating to open up at first, but you must keep pushing, its such a free feeling

ld20r · 2021-02-04T12:02:19+00:00

With semen.

bonix · 2021-02-04T13:33:03+00:00

I have a close knit group of friends that occasionally get into deep conversations after a night of partying and it does the trick. I basically hold very little back and they do the same. I do share things with my SO but those conversations don't always give me the same relief that my friends do.

spacemangoes · 2021-02-04T11:25:14+00:00

Go outside to an open space. Where you can see the horizon. Would be great if there's no one around. Take a deep breath and yell out loud. If you think you did your best, take a deep breath and try to yell out even louder. Do it 5-10 times. You'll definitely feel a release. I like do it at beach once a year.

X-Centric · 2021-02-04T10:44:06+00:00

Write them down, if you need to cry go to a room and cry it out. What I tend to do if somethings bothering me is call my Crisis hotline. Just politely vent to them about whatever’s bringing me down. They don’t give advice of course but they listen and validate what you’re saying. Idk, it’s better than nothing

Alpha-Charlie-Romeo · 2021-02-04T12:49:11+00:00

I don't usually.

If I get in a bad mood, I'll box it in and keep it under control. If I have energy, I'll force a smile on my face and pretend like I'm as happy as always. If I don't have any energy, illavoid people to prevent myself from lashing out.

After a day or two I'll get over it.

PropheticShadeZ · 2021-02-04T14:00:55+00:00

My go to is to go for a walk at night, find a nice quiet place and express everything I was holding in, then be kind to myself, I found one day after work I broke down and had a fantastic cry, I verbalised a lot of my fears and regrets and forgave myself for them. I found therapy is a great way to gather the tools to express yourself, even if you are alone

My other recommendation is to be honest, with who you are and how you are feeling, even if you are in the middle of suppressing it.

Obviously not perfect, but it lets me be closer to the man I am, and who I want to be

actuallygenuinely · 2021-02-04T22:39:11+00:00

Try journaling! I’m a woman, but I don’t feel comfortable sharing my emotions with many people. Journaling helps me so much! It’s like I’m my own therapist. You can even look up journaling prompts to help guide yourself through emotions. Just writing out how you feel and why is extremely cathartic.

And of course there’s a human need for communal support, but at the end of the day, you’re the only one who can make yourself feel better. It’s just helpful to know there are people out there who support you in that. As you get more comfortable processing and feeling emotions, it’s likely you will start to attract relationships into your life where you can share how you feel with others.

A final note—cortisol can only be released through sweat or tears. Crying has a real biological purpose, or else we wouldn’t have evolved to cry. You don’t have to do it in front of other people, but allow yourself to cry when needed. For me, a good cry, a journaling session, and then a cup of tea and a blanket while I watch a show I like or something makes all the difference :)

Imeadalcohol · 2021-02-05T08:16:30+00:00

The number one is a daily workout. Pump those irons and get your blood flowing. Turn up some good music too and drown out those voices. Number two is to discover the diversity of the word 'fuck'. -insert boondock saints quote-

ohwowyousaidthat · 2021-02-04T12:49:34+00:00

porn

Gixicon · 2021-02-04T13:08:02+00:00

Used it on the throttle of a motorcycle once, almost ate pavement.

PachymuNyet · 2021-02-04T13:16:57+00:00

Dunno that I release them or even suppress them. I try to rise above them. Exercise helps with mood regulation, but what helps best is to address and resolve whatever problems I have.

As a crutch, if I'm feeling sad but need to hang out with friend(s), I drink a cup of coffee and that picks me up.

intensely_human · 2021-02-04T13:49:26+00:00

Join a men’s group

X-Centric · 2021-02-04T14:53:40+00:00

Hey, you don't have to hold your negative feelings in, and it's OK to have them. We're all humans and our emotions are valid. This idea that men cannot show weakness or vulnerability is dumb and dangerous, do not listen to that.

When feeling down, do what really brings you joy. When you need someone, start testing your friends to check which if them is safe and nice to express yourself with. What I mean by this is some of them will tell you to just forget about it or that you're being weak. If they say this, they failed the test and you need another close friend who will listen and give you advice. Holding feelings in will just make them explode in the most unhealthy ways when you least expect it. Hope this helps.

Edit: forgot to mention this other sub. They focus on support and understanding: https://www.reddit.com/r/offmychest

pringlydingly · 2021-02-04T18:36:17+00:00

Write. Meditate. Talk with friends. Music.

Submissive_Put1683 · 2021-02-04T18:39:06+00:00

What worked for me was my best friend and everyone has one. A spiral note book and a pencil, not a pen. Start talking to that note book and start writing, let it out the note book won’t interrupt you, make fun of you, it will just listen. That’s what I did and was balling like a baby, then there was no more tears and nothing else to say or write. It was like a breath of fresh air. Lol twenty pages later thought I had lots of issues. I was totally exhausted, Close my notebook went to sleep I was wore out. When I got up I felt AWSOME, then I read what I wrote. It started out neat then the it got darker where I was pushing on my pencil harder even got sloppy. Then neat , hard and sloppy over and over. Each time my writing changed there was a few words that were the same. But I just wrote the same thing but from a different point of view. I laughed at myself cause I really couldn’t believe that little thing shut me down. The longer you hold in the worst it gets. Could not believe it, I let that shut me down. I have done that several times since but before I kept it in so long. That’s your best friend and always there when you need to talk something out. Serious, try it cry it out you’ll feel better

Ninjameister321 · 2021-02-05T00:20:42+00:00

Hi, as a female that has a lot of platonic male friends: it is important for both of us. I've actually learned to open up more emotionally from having male friends I'm comfortable around and can communicate with. I know we're not supposed to talk about differences anymore like this but, there is generally a difference in males and females and we can really help balance each other out.. Obviously sex can complicate things so I really do recommend just letting it be platonic but, everyone and every relationship is different. Also, have multiple people you can talk to. Build a small support group for yourself and for the other people too! It helps to not feel like you're a bummer because instead of constantly bringing sad stuff to one person, you can "share the wealth" and not overwhelm individuals. Keeping it small though can help with continuity. We all have our limits but doesn't mean we aren't also still here for each other ♥️ best of luck and all the support I can give through the interweb to any males trying to outgrow the weird social constructs around your humanity and true masculinity. Fuck society. Smoke crack, eat ass. Buy dogecoin.

Edit: therapy! Especially talk therapy or if you have other issues, CBT.

MrHound325 · 2021-02-05T02:24:24+00:00

Honestly, if it’s possible, get a pet. In my experience a dog. My dog saw me through a divorce better than any person I know. We moved provinces and she didn’t even blink. She was just happy to be wherever I was. And she listened to me talk about it all and was there when I cried. There is no better friend

jquest303 · 2021-02-05T03:12:34+00:00

Exercise, breathing exercises, crying or other emotional release, communication, punching a bag. Lots of ways to release emotions. Not every outlet is going to be the same for everyone in terms of end result, but for me a large part is not allowing things to affect me to the point that I really need an emotional release in the first place.

DanyyBoyy · 2021-02-05T04:24:43+00:00

Alcohol

ChocoSalt · 2021-02-05T05:38:05+00:00

I talk to my brother or a close friend, someone I am comfortable expressing those emotions around and even crying if I need to. Being in control of your emotions doesn’t mean pushing them down that’s not control.

MooseOnTheLake · 2021-02-05T06:46:45+00:00

Honestly Reddit is great to vent and get advice, but man, sometimes you gotta cry it out.

DAVIB1010 · 2021-02-05T13:55:30+00:00

When I went through my divorce, I leaned on my family and friends a lot. I never tried to bring the mood down but I never lied or hid what was happening. If we were all hanging out and someone asked how I was I might say “not gonna lie yesterday was really hard, but I’m really looking forward to hanging out today” Then I let them know where I’m at, if they wanna ask me more they can but I ended on a good note to have fun with them.

I think having a hobby that takes up time but has something fruitful afterwards is important. Tv and video games are good they relax you but going for a bike ride releases endorphins, gardening gives you a product at the end to be proud of, or bowling with friends.

Title	How do men release their emotions?
Author	Confident-Lobster269
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Date	February 4, 2021 7:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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